Beth/ How do I tell my PT...

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Just a thought, and maybe you have already tried this, but maybe

Lidocaine or Valium vaginal suppositories used beforehand would help. Or even

Valium orally.

nne

From: VulvarDisorders

[mailto:VulvarDisorders ] On Behalf Of Beth

Sent: Tuesday, May 20, 2008 11:52 PM

To: VulvarDisorders

Subject: How do I tell my PT...

that I'm scared of the dilators??

I know it sounds really immature, but seriously, the dilators give me

so much anxiety, it's almost not worth it to me. Every time i look at

them, or get ready to use them, i get so shaky and jittery-just about

every time now, when i use them, i cry, because i know they're going

to hurt! and once they're in, i just stew angrily about how much they

hurt and how much this sucks, which just makes me flare.

I feel like the biggest wussy-failure. I know these things hurt, and

that so many women on here have it so much worse, that i just need to

suck it up and get over my anxiety with them, but I'm having the

hardest time. And the worst part is just how much my PT pushes me to

use it. She'll make comments like " well, you know, sex is one of the

biggest parts of a relationship-it's what so many couples fight over,

when it's not here. don't you want to have a good honeymoon? " (i'm

getting married in october) when i tell her that i'm not using them

regularly, or that they hurt. but honestly, the pain there,

especially when it's something being forced inside, feels like such a

violation...i know i need to get better, because it's driving my

fiance nuts, and all this talk from everyone, from my PT to my

parents, about how important sex is and how " wrong I am for depriving

him of it " is making me crazy, but it makes me so resentful and

anxious when i use them...ugh! and at this point, i'm flaring so

badly from being sick (i've got a bug) and being scared of them that i

can't use them, and i know my PT's going to give me that awful

disapproving look when i tell her i haven't used them in like, a week

and a half...

I just don't know what to do. I know I shouldn't be afraid of her

reaction, because this is my healing process and it'll happen at it's

own pace, and that everyone needs these stupid dilators and i just

need to stop being a baby, but it's so hard! Words of wisdom would be

very much appreciated

Beth

[Guest guest]

HI Beth,

Please go to www.emofree.com and download the free manual..click on the

the yellow banner at the top of the page.

There is a protocol on or around page 28.. " The Basic Recipe " ... it has a

pink birthday cake on it.

Read those 12 pages and it will tell you how to eliminate your fear of

dialators.. If you need some help, e-mail me and I will talk you through

the protocols and I would also call you to walk you through it on the

phone..

For now, you have to get over the fear and that is very easy to do if you

use the correct method...EFT. Pain is fear and fear is pain...Let me

know.

Tom Ockler P.T.

www.tomocklerpt.com

> Just a thought, and maybe you have already tried this, but maybe Lidocaine

> or Valium vaginal suppositories used beforehand would help. Or even Valium

> orally.

>

> nne

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> From: VulvarDisorders

> [mailto:VulvarDisorders ] On Behalf Of Beth

> Sent: Tuesday, May 20, 2008 11:52 PM

> To: VulvarDisorders

> Subject: How do I tell my PT...

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>

> that I'm scared of the dilators??

> I know it sounds really immature, but seriously, the dilators give me

> so much anxiety, it's almost not worth it to me. Every time i look at

> them, or get ready to use them, i get so shaky and jittery-just about

> every time now, when i use them, i cry, because i know they're going

> to hurt! and once they're in, i just stew angrily about how much they

> hurt and how much this sucks, which just makes me flare.

>

> I feel like the biggest wussy-failure. I know these things hurt, and

> that so many women on here have it so much worse, that i just need to

> suck it up and get over my anxiety with them, but I'm having the

> hardest time. And the worst part is just how much my PT pushes me to

> use it. She'll make comments like " well, you know, sex is one of the

> biggest parts of a relationship-it's what so many couples fight over,

> when it's not here. don't you want to have a good honeymoon? " (i'm

> getting married in october) when i tell her that i'm not using them

> regularly, or that they hurt. but honestly, the pain there,

> especially when it's something being forced inside, feels like such a

> violation...i know i need to get better, because it's driving my

> fiance nuts, and all this talk from everyone, from my PT to my

> parents, about how important sex is and how " wrong I am for depriving

> him of it " is making me crazy, but it makes me so resentful and

> anxious when i use them...ugh! and at this point, i'm flaring so

> badly from being sick (i've got a bug) and being scared of them that i

> can't use them, and i know my PT's going to give me that awful

> disapproving look when i tell her i haven't used them in like, a week

> and a half...

>

> I just don't know what to do. I know I shouldn't be afraid of her

> reaction, because this is my healing process and it'll happen at it's

> own pace, and that everyone needs these stupid dilators and i just

> need to stop being a baby, but it's so hard! Words of wisdom would be

> very much appreciated

>

> Beth

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