discipline question

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> There is a whole world of biomedical research out there that is not only > researched and documented but functional and effective for hundreds of parents > spending thousands of dollars watching their children's behaviors improve by > biomedical approaches. Conquering autism is a multi-faceted approach which > includes biomedical, educational, behavioral, psychological, sensory, and > so forth. It's a puzzle approach if you will (the famous autism mark) and we > as parents NEED to believe and understand that all approaches from various > sectors MUST work together and support each other to benefit our children > and do the right thing by them.> NO ONE is discounting a FBA or any other behavioral approach as a valid > approach to autism. However, working on biomedical only helps to benefit the > child and the other approaches that parents take with their children. > Last year there was a seminar that CARD gave last year for parents you > would have seen that finally there is a turning of the tide and Biomedical > and Behavioral are joining hands together realizing that it is more > beneficial for the children and to obtain successful outcomes IF WE ALL WORK > TOGETHER and stop this archaic approach that there is only one way.> > > > > > > > > > I highly recommend you consult with a behavior analyst who will do a > functional behavior assessment to determing what is triggering your child's > behavior and what to do to prevent it. It is NOT true that there is most often > a medical reason for problem behaviors-sometimes it is. ALL of the valid > research has proven that ONLY a good functional behavior assessment can > determine what is causing the behaviors and what intervention will help.> > Feel free to contact me directly if you have any questions.> > Nila> > _mamanila@..._ (mailto:mamanila@...) > > > > "Determine that the thing can and shall be done, and then we shall find > the way." > -Abraham Lincoln> > > > ____________________________________> To: deniseslist > Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2011 14:12:17 -0700> Subject: re discipline question> > > > > "But in order to help your son control his behaviors now you might want to > create a "safe" room in your house where there is very little in there > that he can hurt himself with or destroy. Buy a lock for the door for the > outside of the room so you can make sure you stay safe. When he his aggressive > behavior begins put him in his safe room and leave him there for the period > of time it takes to calm him down. When you go back in the room when he's > calmed down have some form of punishment..."> > YIKES!!! There is no "safe room" in a home where the parent can not see > what the child is doing during a tantrum. Our children are prone to > seizures and self injurous behavior choaking etc.. I have heard there was a child > lost while in isolation at a center and I could not live with myself if > something happened to my child. I would lay Miki on the floor stride on her > thighs and hold her hands down and a pillow under her head until she > stopped aggressing to me. Did I get hurt, yup, but I shudder to think of what > my child can do to her self without me right there to stop her when she is > in that mood. Miki weighs 105 and is strong like ox so I did have to put > her in a residential behavior intense facility where they are trained to > deal with this and she is safe. I still get reports almost weekly re > mechanical retraints. > > Also...punishing my daughter gives attention, which is exactly what she > wants most of the time so it feeds into the bad behavior. I learned to give > tons of praise when she was being good and to avert my eyes and block when > she aggressed. This stuff is wicked difficult and I wish I could give you > all of the cyber hugs and support you need, hang in there and treat > yourself kindly.> > Jayne