Re: Finished Daughters of Madness / echobabe

[Guest guest]

That is FANTASTIC. It gives me hope.

it tells me these patterns of insanity CAN be nipped in the bud and that it's

worth all the pain and grief of doing so.

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> > > This book took a bit for me to slog through--there were parts I just could

not identify with (a lot of the mom's were so obviously mentally ill that they

had to be hospitalized--so they kids got validated for living in hell). A lot of

the stories were resoundingly familiar.

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> > > One take away was how it comes as a shock to us at one point that family

members can really care about one another without an agenda. That some kids

really enjoy their time with a parent, even just joking around. Many of us BPDs

choose not to have children simply because the pattern parent-child interaction

cannot be imagined any way other than the horrid example from our childhoods.

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> > > I would have never decided to have children on my own. My daughter was a

surprise (I was supposed to be sterile). When I found out I was PG, I was

frantic, scared and immediately wanted to abort. I was that sure there was

something wrong with me and I would ruin my child's life just the way my mother

did mine. My husband said it was going to be ok--thank God I listened to him!

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> > > I know, it is shocking to talk like this--but I know many of you have

wrestled with the same feelings.

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