About sleep

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Hi guysI am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However, it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest? Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.

Ayse 

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When our son 7 does this just move over think it normal all our other kids have done it or younger ones still do some nites have one each side .i personally dont worry about itLet your email find you with BlackBerry® from VodafoneSender: mb12valtrex Date: Mon, 12 Dec 2011 22:13:49 +0200To: <mb12valtrex >ReplyTo: mb12valtrex Subject: About sleep Hi guysI am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However, it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest? Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.Ayse 

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Thank you I am just worried because he can get used to sleeping with us and will be hard to undo this. I also have 5 year-old who gets very jealous when she sees her brother sleeping with us. When this happens we too have one child on each side..

Ayse

 

When our son 7 does this just move over think it normal all our other kids have done it or younger ones still do some nites have one each side .i personally dont worry about itLet your email find you with BlackBerry® from Vodafone

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Hi guysI am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However, it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest? Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.

Ayse 

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I know its hard still hoping for recovery here and that he will outgrow thisLet your email find you with BlackBerry® from VodafoneSender: mb12valtrex Date: Mon, 12 Dec 2011 22:26:39 +0200To: <mb12valtrex >ReplyTo: mb12valtrex Subject: Re: About sleep Thank you I am just worried because he can get used to sleeping with us and will be hard to undo this. I also have 5 year-old who gets very jealous when she sees her brother sleeping with us. When this happens we too have one child on each side..Ayse When our son 7 does this just move over think it normal all our other kids have done it or younger ones still do some nites have one each side .i personally dont worry about itLet your email find you with BlackBerry® from VodafoneSender: mb12valtrex Date: Mon, 12 Dec 2011 22:13:49 +0200To: <mb12valtrex >ReplyTo: mb12valtrex Subject: About sleep Hi guysI am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However, it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest? Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.Ayse 

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Wrong person to ask, I sleep in my son's bed every night. It works here b/c husband snores, so this is how I am able to sleep. But the problem is my son has to go to bed at 7:30 and I stay up till late, so I have to take time to lay down with him to get him to go to bed. Sigh. Mine is 5 and verbal w/ epilepsy dx.

I have tried tough love to get him to go to bed by himself. He will stay up and come out of his room a zillion times and never tire out. Or, if I close the door and try to make him go to sleep that way, he absolutely freaks out - I mean psycho scared, not crying, but in panic mode. So forget that mess.

Don't know what to do here, and don't know what to tell you except you aren't alone.

 

Hi guysI am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However, it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest? Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.

Ayse 

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Well, co-sleeping in any form is a very personal decision, so you and his father

have to figure out what is right for your family. When our youngest was at his

worst, he moved over and slept in our bed every night. As he got bigger (he is

six now), this became more and more difficult, particularly for my husband. We

only have a queen sized bed and he just couldn't sleep well with such a full

bed. So what we do is put a sleeping bag on the floor next to my side of the

bed with a pillow and blanket before we go to sleep for the night. It took a

couple days of my son being sad and wanting to be IN bed with me, but then he

adjusted and understood that I was right there with him. Now he just moves over

and goes back to sleep and we don't even hear him come in.

Our 8 yo son rarely night wakes, but sometimes he has a nightmare or can't sleep

in the middle of the night (salicylate infraction). We set up a sleeping bag on

my husband's side of the bed for him. He has decided that he would rather stay

in his own bed. The last time he had a nightmare, he asked my husband to

sleep over in his room with him. The boys share a room, so my husband just

slept on my youngest's bed (because he had already moved to our floor.)

My NT oldest daughter (20 yo college student) also used to move to our floor

every night for a period of time. She eventually decided her own bed was more

comfortable.

This is the compromise that works for our family. I want my kids to know that

we are here for them and will help them feel safe and secure at all times, but

at the same time, a decent night's sleep is so important for everyone's health

and sanity!

And for going to sleep, I can't commit to being available every night to lie

with my son, so when he really needed me to do this I put a time limit on it.

He would take hours to fall asleep back then, so I couldn't give up my whole

evening time to be in there while he fell asleep. I would give him two to five

minutes and then move out. One thing that can help with this transition is

either a favorite stuffed toy of their own to sleep with or your pillow so they

have something with your familiar scent as a comfort item to fall asleep with.

Again, my older NT girls switched out every night on who got to fall asleep with

my pillow.

Hope that helps.

Cathy

>

> Hi guys

>

> I am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with

> me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a

> long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he

> wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up

> in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One

> part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However,

> it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a

> parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to

> feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest?

> Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.

>

> Ayse

>

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I fully agree w/Cathy....you find what works for your family... & it's just as

much an NT problem as our special needs...you negotiate to a family balance. A

whole bunch of our friends comment on the night bed swapping...where the parents

end up gets a good laugh at the neighbor gathering ;o)

For us, our NT daughter ended up sleeping w/ for a couple of years growing

up.... was a trooper in those young growing up days....as they got older

they just grew out of it..but they are real close now. We tried a whole bunch of

things, but this is where our family settled. We also find both need their 30-45

min of wind-down time in bed w/parents (everyone gets to pick a Bible story + 1

other book, then we pray together...this is the most important part of all of

our days, connecting & winding down together..some deep family values &

questions are established as we lift them up with this time ).

Blessings,

Rita

> >

> > Hi guys

> >

> > I am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with

> > me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a

> > long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he

> > wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up

> > in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One

> > part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However,

> > it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a

> > parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to

> > feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest?

> > Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.

> >

> > Ayse

> >

>

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Thank goodness mine falls asleep almost immediately with the cuddle-buddy.Funny thing is I co-slept with my oldest and she's been in her own bed since 14 months.I tried to co-sleep with my son but he was too fidgety and he went to a crib.... looking back the

fidgets were low magnesium and now that we have the magnesium supplement and the melatonin,he falls out. He might even go to bed on his own if I'd remember to do the afternoon inositol. ;-)

 

Well, co-sleeping in any form is a very personal decision, so you and his father have to figure out what is right for your family. When our youngest was at his worst, he moved over and slept in our bed every night. As he got bigger (he is six now), this became more and more difficult, particularly for my husband. We only have a queen sized bed and he just couldn't sleep well with such a full bed. So what we do is put a sleeping bag on the floor next to my side of the bed with a pillow and blanket before we go to sleep for the night. It took a couple days of my son being sad and wanting to be IN bed with me, but then he adjusted and understood that I was right there with him. Now he just moves over and goes back to sleep and we don't even hear him come in.

Our 8 yo son rarely night wakes, but sometimes he has a nightmare or can't sleep in the middle of the night (salicylate infraction). We set up a sleeping bag on my husband's side of the bed for him. He has decided that he would rather stay in his own bed. The last time he had a nightmare, he asked my husband to sleep over in his room with him. The boys share a room, so my husband just slept on my youngest's bed (because he had already moved to our floor.)

My NT oldest daughter (20 yo college student) also used to move to our floor every night for a period of time. She eventually decided her own bed was more comfortable.

This is the compromise that works for our family. I want my kids to know that we are here for them and will help them feel safe and secure at all times, but at the same time, a decent night's sleep is so important for everyone's health and sanity!

And for going to sleep, I can't commit to being available every night to lie with my son, so when he really needed me to do this I put a time limit on it. He would take hours to fall asleep back then, so I couldn't give up my whole evening time to be in there while he fell asleep. I would give him two to five minutes and then move out. One thing that can help with this transition is either a favorite stuffed toy of their own to sleep with or your pillow so they have something with your familiar scent as a comfort item to fall asleep with. Again, my older NT girls switched out every night on who got to fall asleep with my pillow.

Hope that helps.

Cathy

>

> Hi guys

>

> I am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with

> me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a

> long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he

> wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up

> in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One

> part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However,

> it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a

> parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to

> feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest?

> Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.

>

> Ayse

>

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We've always let our kids sleep with us when they feel they need to. I think if a child is an only child, a parent should be more sensitive to that - especially when mom and dad are all snuggled up in bed together. Fair is fair! My boys will always share a room until and unless the day ever comes that they get older and ask to be seperated. Who wants to sleep alone if they don't have to? I agree with you, Ayse, that it provides a sense of security and comfort. It's a time to unwind and just quietly be. It's sooooooo good for the soul. Yours and theirs. We gave each of the boys a full size bed so we can easily sleep next to them in their room if they need it. Three in our queen sized bed is miserable. Four, impossible. Now we go to them - which might an option for you. You

could try going to his room, instead of him coming to yours.-Tammy To: mb12valtrex Sent: Monday, December 12, 2011 3:13 PM Subject: About sleep

Hi guysI am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However, it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest? Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.

Ayse

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We have two mattresses side by side on the floor. Elena sleeps on one mattress

and the parent on duty sleeps on the adjacent mattress. The other parent is more

than happy to sleep soundly on the little bed in the little bedroom.

Last night for example, it took me until 1:30 am to get the little wild one to

sleep. Then, after that, I needed uninterrupted sleep due to needing to wake up

early for work, so I woke up my husband at 1:30 to sleep next to her the rest of

the night.

We did the same thing with our older daughter. As long as she wanted us, we were

there. I believe it helped her grow up very secure. At 10, she asked for her own

bedroom and said she does not need a nightlight because she is fine with

darkness.

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I have always been jealous of people who have normal size beds:)  Thanks all of you guys for encouraging what I chose to do which is of course letting him sleep with me. My daughter had a fever last night and ear ache, she also joined us last night. Thank God we have a king size bed. Since my son is also VERY aggressive these days, maybe he is fighting with whatever microbe that made my daughter sick. I am hoping when this infection is over, aggression and sleeping will get better. 

Ayse

 

We've always let our kids sleep with us when they feel they need to.  I think if a child is an only child, a parent should be more sensitive to that - especially when mom and dad are all snuggled up in bed together.  Fair is fair!  My boys will always share a room until and unless the day ever comes that they get older and ask to be seperated.  Who wants to sleep alone if they don't have to? I agree with you, Ayse, that it provides a sense of security and comfort.  It's a time to unwind and just quietly be. It's sooooooo good for the soul.  Yours and theirs.  We gave each of the boys a full size bed so we can easily sleep next to them in their room if they need it.  Three in our queen sized bed is miserable. Four, impossible. Now we go to them - which might an option for you.  You

could try going to his room, instead of him coming to yours.-Tammy

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Sent: Monday, December 12, 2011 3:13 PM Subject: About sleep

 

Hi guysI am trying to make decision about my son wanting to cuddle and sleep with me or his father. He has his own room and have been sleeping alone for a long time. He is 8 and non-verbal by the way. For these couple of days he wants one of us in his room. He cuddles and goes to sleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he comes to our bed and sleeps with us. One part of me want to tell him that he should sleep in HIS own bed. However, it is so hard to do this when he comes and hugs. Oh! It is so hard being a parent. My husband and I could not decide what to do. Maybe he needs to feel secure and we should let him for a while? What do you guys suggest? Any ideas will help us a lot. Thanks in advance.

Ayse