Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Have any of you found certain traits of therapists/issues they deal with to be helpful in overcoming a life with nada/fada? I know the relationship is definitely important, but a lot of therapists list issues they are good at dealing with...and was wondering if you found certain types of therapy or therapists who deal with specific issues to be most helpful. I'm assuming therapists who are good with treating PTSD/anxiety/depression/family issues could be helpful, but if any of you have any recommendations from experience that would be great! Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I have not tried it personally, but I have heard from people on this list and from my current doctor that EMDR therapy works great. It used to be thought to EMDR only worked on trauma, but my doctor says that EMDR is now known to work for all PTSD patients, even if trauma is mostly verbal. I did the traditional psychodynamic type therapy followed by CBT. EMDR is supposed to take less time and is less painful. Any type of therapy is better that no therapy. If you need it, just doing it. You may need to change therapists if you find yourself in a bad fit. > > Have any of you found certain traits of therapists/issues they deal with to be helpful in overcoming a life with nada/fada? I know the relationship is definitely important, but a lot of therapists list issues they are good at dealing with...and was wondering if you found certain types of therapy or therapists who deal with specific issues to be most helpful. I'm assuming therapists who are good with treating PTSD/anxiety/depression/family issues could be helpful, but if any of you have any recommendations from experience that would be great! > > Thanks! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 When I moved out of state and had to find a new T, I started by looking at my insurance company's web page at T's who were covered in this area. From there, I started Googling them and finding out what types of therapy they did and what they specialized in. My T had listed PTSD/Anxiety/personality disorders specifically (as well as depression, etc) and that's why I picked her. I personally feel that if they know about PD's, they can better help the people who've lived through the many wraths of the PD'ed individual(s) in their life. Of course, other people's results may vary, but I will say I do adore my T. She's awesome and has helped me so much. Since I moved here 2 years ago, I've grown & healed so much more than I had in therapy in my home state for nearly 10 years! Good luck! Mia > > > Have any of you found certain traits of therapists/issues they deal with to > be helpful in overcoming a life with nada/fada? I know the relationship is > definitely important, but a lot of therapists list issues they are good at > dealing with...and was wondering if you found certain types of therapy or > therapists who deal with specific issues to be most helpful. I'm assuming > therapists who are good with treating PTSD/anxiety/depression/family issues > could be helpful, but if any of you have any recommendations from experience > that would be great! > > Thanks! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2011 Report Share Posted September 24, 2011 Hi newlife For me it was absolutely critical that my therapist understood BDP and the impact it has on the children of BDPs. She also understands the anxiety thing pretty well and was able to help me do the same. I think she draws on mindfulness therapy/approaches which have enabled me to be more aware of when my anxiety is rising and to understand that the automatic physical reactions that I have to particular situations (i.e. a raised voice) don't mean there is anything to be worried about. Instead of getting caught up in a full-blown anxiety episode as a result of my automatic reaction I'm learning to note that the reaction has happened and carry on with my day until it passes me by. I get less 'stuck' in it, if that makes any sense. Also, my therapists' empathy has been vital to my recovery I think. She constantly reminded me not to judge what I was thinking/feeling (i.e. I would constantly start sentences with 'I know this makes me sound like an awful person, but....' Through making me realise my reactions/thoughts/feelings are in fact a NORMAL response to my upbringing, she's made me realise I'm not a freak for being the way I am (anxious/jumpy/prone to mood crashes). At least I feel like that on a good day Good luck with making your choices. I saw a ton of therapists before I found the current one and I was really cynical about therapy until I met her - now I rave about how much therapy has transformed my life. I can't imagine how I'd have gone on without it. I really hope you find someone who works for you. Sara > > Have any of you found certain traits of therapists/issues they deal with to be helpful in overcoming a life with nada/fada? I know the relationship is definitely important, but a lot of therapists list issues they are good at dealing with...and was wondering if you found certain types of therapy or therapists who deal with specific issues to be most helpful. I'm assuming therapists who are good with treating PTSD/anxiety/depression/family issues could be helpful, but if any of you have any recommendations from experience that would be great! > > Thanks! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2011 Report Share Posted September 24, 2011 I respond well to DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) its focused more on problem solving skills and cognitive distortions than analysis. My therapist knowing about BPD behaviors also helped me because she understood that it really was my mom and not me. Lars ** When I moved out of state and had to find a new T, I started by looking at my insurance company's web page at T's who were covered in this area. From there, I started Googling them and finding out what types of therapy they did and what they specialized in. My T had listed PTSD/Anxiety/personality disorders specifically (as well as depression, etc) and that's why I picked her. I personally feel that if they know about PD's, they can better help the people who've lived through the many wraths of the PD'ed individual(s) in their life. Of course, other people's results may vary, but I will say I do adore my T. She's awesome and has helped me so much. Since I moved here 2 years ago, I've grown & healed so much more than I had in therapy in my home state for nearly 10 years! Good luck! Mia > > > Have any of you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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