Guest guest Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can.I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this?Thanks-Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 I feel bad for all of u! When our cat died, we let him see because my son is visual and helped us bury him. Otherwise he would wonder and keep asking. LiaSent via BlackBerry by AT&TSender: sList Date: Fri, 8 Jul 2011 10:29:10 -0700 (PDT)To: slist<sList >ReplyTo: sList Subject: Help-Our dog is dying Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can.I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this?Thanks-Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 I always think the truth is best. Dying is something they need to learn about, there are some good childrens books about death which you can find on Amazon, maybe that would help. I am so sorry you are going through this, we had to put our dog down a few years ago when my son withPDD was about 8. However, he is not really interested in any of our pets and didn't seem to be bothered by it. Now we have other dogs and he's older so I'm sure he'd feel differently. Help-Our dog is dying Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can. I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this? Thanks- Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 Hi Lia,Thanks for the input? How old was your son at the time? To: sList Sent: Friday, July 8, 2011 4:04 PMSubject: Re: Help-Our dog is dying I feel bad for all of u! When our cat died, we let him see because my son is visual and helped us bury him. Otherwise he would wonder and keep asking. LiaSent via BlackBerry by AT & T Sender: sList Date: Fri, 8 Jul 2011 10:29:10 -0700 (PDT)To: slist<sList >ReplyTo: sList Subject: Help-Our dog is dying Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can.I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this?Thanks-Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 I think you have to look at your sons emotional maturity level to decide. If you tell him the soft lie will he question it? Will he believe you and feel better? My son is 10 and very emotional and I would love to shield him from the pain of a loss like that but he wouldn't believe it and would keep up with questions until I told him the truth and then he would have a breakdown. I think you just have to wing it and do what your heart tells you, either way he will notice the grief in the family and have questions. Good luck ,I'll say a prayer for you all.Subject: Re: Help-Our dog is dyingTo: sList Date: Friday, July 8, 2011, 4:45 PM I always think the truth is best. Dying is something they need to learn about, there are some good childrens books about death which you can find on Amazon, maybe that would help. I am so sorry you are going through this, we had to put our dog down a few years ago when my son withPDD was about 8. However, he is not really interested in any of our pets and didn't seem to be bothered by it. Now we have other dogs and he's older so I'm sure he'd feel differently. Help-Our dog is dying Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can. I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this? Thanks- Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2011 Report Share Posted July 9, 2011 When our beloved dog of 16 years became very ill and eventually died, I sat down with my son and told him that his dog had been very ill and now she was in heaven where she was no longer suffering. That she was in heaven and was a special angel to look down and watch over him. I told him it was o.k. to cry and feel sad. I also told him that we should be happy about the time that we had with her and all the good times we shared with her. I told him that we would hold the memory of her in our hearts. My son decided to write a story about her and make a little remembrance book about her. For awhile afterward, he would look through the book and cry a little, but soon he made the choice to put the book away. He occasionally looks at the book now, and talks about what a great dog she was and that one day he will get another dog. Kids probably aren't as fragile about death as we sometimes think. Glenda > > Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can. > > I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this? > > Thanks- > Sharon > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2011 Report Share Posted July 9, 2011 Wow, that's great! he asked me today if she is going to die, so I guess he is intuitive about it.Thanks for sharing.To: sList Sent: Saturday, July 9, 2011 7:07 PMSubject: Re: Help-Our dog is dying When our beloved dog of 16 years became very ill and eventually died, I sat down with my son and told him that his dog had been very ill and now she was in heaven where she was no longer suffering. That she was in heaven and was a special angel to look down and watch over him. I told him it was o.k. to cry and feel sad. I also told him that we should be happy about the time that we had with her and all the good times we shared with her. I told him that we would hold the memory of her in our hearts. My son decided to write a story about her and make a little remembrance book about her. For awhile afterward, he would look through the book and cry a little, but soon he made the choice to put the book away. He occasionally looks at the book now, and talks about what a great dog she was and that one day he will get another dog. Kids probably aren't as fragile about death as we sometimes think. Glenda > > Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can. > > I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this? > > Thanks- > Sharon > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2011 Report Share Posted July 10, 2011 We recently lost our beloved Magnolia aka "Mogzilla". She was the most beautiful round white English Bulldog you will ever see. My son had a love-hate relationship with Magnolia because she had a taste for children's toys. My son learned from an early age that if he really liked something not to leave it on the floor because in addition to looking like a piggy, Magnolia ate like one too (ultimately that was her demise as she got a blockage from eating a miniature stop sign). My son was upset about her passing so we planted a Magnolia tree in the back yard and Zander has been putting lots of his toys around the tree in remembrance. Rest in peace Mogzilla, you will be missed. I have attached a picture of our beautiful beast. Re: Help-Our dog is dying When our beloved dog of 16 years became very ill and eventually died, I sat down with my son and told him that his dog had been very ill and now she was in heaven where she was no longer suffering. That she was in heaven and was a special angel to look down and watch over him. I told him it was o.k. to cry and feel sad. I also told him that we should be happy about the time that we had with her and all the good times we shared with her. I told him that we would hold the memory of her in our hearts. My son decided to write a story about her and make a little remembrance book about her. For awhile afterward, he would look through the book and cry a little, but soon he made the choice to put the book away. He occasionally looks at the book now, and talks about what a great dog she was and that one day he will get another dog. Kids probably aren't as fragile about death as we sometimes think. Glenda > > Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can. > > I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this? > > Thanks- > Sharon > 1 of 1 Photo(s) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2011 Report Share Posted July 11, 2011  In the children section of the library there are books about dogs (pets) dying.. My autistic son wanted to know where grandma and grandpa are I told him about heaven. I went to the library and got books about people and pets dying. It seemed to work Good Luck Help-Our dog is dying Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can. I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this? Thanks- Sharon No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 9.0.901 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3757 - Release Date: 07/10/11 14:34:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2011 Report Share Posted July 11, 2011 I think it would be best to prepare him for what may happen.This way he wont be shocked and might be able to accept the death of his dog in a peaceful manner. I have worked with many children with developmental disorders and I've found that when introducing them to new environments or events, their problem behaviors are least likely to occur when they are in familiar settings. Hope this helps! - Adam MS, BCBA. > > In the children section of the library there are books about dogs (pets) dying.. My autistic son wanted to know where grandma and grandpa are I told him about heaven. I went to the library and got books about people and pets dying. > It seemed to work > Good Luck > > Help-Our dog is dying > > > > Our dog was diagnosed with bone cancer. The only thing we can do at this point is keep her as comfortable as possible. Our 8 yr PDD-NOS (VERY high functioning) is going to freak out. He already sees her limping, after her biopsy he was VERY upset with the bandages. Now, I'm wondering if we should tell him the truth or tell him the dog is going to live at the animal hospital (when the time comes) , because we can't take care of her leg and they can. > > > I'd love some feedback. Has anyone gone through this? > > > Thanks- > Sharon > > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG - www.avg.com > Version: 9.0.901 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3757 - Release Date: 07/10/11 14:34:00 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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