Re: could use some support

[Guest guest]

As KO's we often have trouble with emotional regulation. We're forced to negate,

stifle and ignore our own emotions and it makes it hard for us to sometimes

understand them.

My dad calls it " Garbage Trucking " , that when you feel the build-up of anxiety,

sadness and listlessness, it's your body's way of saying you're stressed out and

need to burn off some steam. There may or may not be a direct cause of your

feelings, but it's important you were able to recognize that you were feeling

this way. Negative emotions mean that something's wrong or something's not

working. It can mean we're tired, we're stressed or we've just had a lot of

experiences lately, good and bad that we haven't processed through yet.

I've found journaling and exercising are the best ways to get out of a funk and

I'm currently on an anti-anxiety to deal with PTSD. I've found these episodes of

the panic or the depression or the mixed state of the two get farther apart the

further I get down the path of healing. Plus, a good nap never hurts

Hopefully this helps. I in no way mean to minimize your experience or your

emotions, but I think I usually feel this way because of Nada's abuse, neglect

and volatility. It takes time to build up the emotional stability we were

deprived of as kids.

((((hugs))))

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> feeling a sudden flare up of sad and anxious etc. Sorta like what I felt when

fada would explode on me. It happens once in a while but none of my friends

really get it when I try to explain it. So I'll use as few words as possible and

stop here, because I know a lot of us get this rush of emotions every now and

then for a reason we can't figure out.

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> that's all...thanks...

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[Guest guest]

Thanks clefairy. It's just what I needed to hear. I'm glad we can all validate

each other here even though we weren't raised with that sort of environment in

the first place. There's some hope for us all

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> > feeling a sudden flare up of sad and anxious etc. Sorta like what I felt

when fada would explode on me. It happens once in a while but none of my friends

really get it when I try to explain it. So I'll use as few words as possible and

stop here, because I know a lot of us get this rush of emotions every now and

then for a reason we can't figure out.

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> > that's all...thanks...

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[Guest guest]

Hi Newlife,

Yes, I get that quite often. I try to keep things " light " when those times hit

me. Watch funny shows, listen to upbeat music. I don't suggest this too often in

life's situations, but when it happens, I try to " fake it till I make it " and

tell myself, I'm ok and I'm going to be all right.

Otherwise, I feel like I may slip into a very sad place and stay there too long.

Also, calling a friend just to hear someone else's voice/problems/day helps.

I hope the sadness and anxiety don't linger.

Fiona

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> feeling a sudden flare up of sad and anxious etc. Sorta like what I felt when

fada would explode on me. It happens once in a while but none of my friends

really get it when I try to explain it. So I'll use as few words as possible and

stop here, because I know a lot of us get this rush of emotions every now and

then for a reason we can't figure out.

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> that's all...thanks...

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[Guest guest]

Newlife,

I hope you're feeling better today. Sad and anxious at the same

time sounds like the way I feel when I'm worried that my nada is

plotting to do something bad behind my back. Often, if I really

consider what has been going on, I can trace the feeling back to

something that has happened. Identifying why I feel that way is

sometimes helpful because it sometimes lets me do something

constructive to ward off bad things that might be coming. Taking

action of some sort lets me feel more in control. Sometimes I

just feel that way with no cause that I can identify though. I

find that listening to music helps a lot when I'm feeling bad

for no obvious reason. Soaking in a nice hot bath for a while

helps too.

At 10:24 PM 09/28/2011 newlife9871 wrote:

>feeling a sudden flare up of sad and anxious etc. Sorta like

>what I felt when fada would explode on me. It happens once in a

>while but none of my friends really get it when I try to

>explain it. So I'll use as few words as possible and stop here,

>because I know a lot of us get this rush of emotions every now

>and then for a reason we can't figure out.

>

>that's all...thanks...

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--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

I hope you are feeling better as well. Sometimes the feelings are so intense

that it's hard to remember that it will get better, but it does. I've just

started writing things down more and it does, amazingly, help. Kind of like you

just need to get it out of your head. I've also tried to pay attention to any

specific triggers that way I can be more aware of what's actually happening. I

feel like knowing what triggers it is important, even if it seems trivial,

because it's not. For me, feeling like it's " silly " for me to be upset makes it

worse. I agree with everybody else that it's a lack of appropriate modeling and

parenting that makes it hard to emotionally regulate, but I feel that everybody

has the chance to learn and grow from it. Every time it happens, it feels like

a setback, but every time the recovery gets quicker and the space between those

times gets longer. Take care of yourself.

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> feeling a sudden flare up of sad and anxious etc. Sorta like what I felt when

fada would explode on me. It happens once in a while but none of my friends

really get it when I try to explain it. So I'll use as few words as possible and

stop here, because I know a lot of us get this rush of emotions every now and

then for a reason we can't figure out.

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> that's all...thanks...

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