Black and White Thinking

[Guest guest]

I know this is common with BPD, how predominate is it with your family member?

My mom doesn't seem to be able to have any logical thoughts lately. When I

communicate with her all I can think of is the logic of reasoning class I took

in college because she utilizes practically every type of illogical reasoning we

learned. All I hear are things like " If you're not interested in seeing this

documentary about X you are not interested X " . " You don't want chocolate ice

cream for dessert tonight, you must not like chocolate or ice cream anymore " .

" This person did not speak to me at church today, this person does not like me " .

If I suggest that there are exceptions to things, that you can like chocolate

ice cream, but just not be in the mood for it, she says she can't deal with that

thought because she will have to " rethink her whole world " LOL. No wonder she

doesn't work or go out into the world much, it must be so exhausting trying to

function in the gray world, she would have to " rethink " every little thing! What

I don't get is why doesn't she rethink it, learn that there is gray and move on?

What is the block that the black and white thinking can't get around?

[Guest guest]

" Rethink her whole world " ? Maybe when she says that next you can retort " well,

maybe you need to rethink your whole world. " and walk away...hahahaha...no

really, that would obviously be counterproductive, but still fun.

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> I know this is common with BPD, how predominate is it with your family member?

My mom doesn't seem to be able to have any logical thoughts lately. When I

communicate with her all I can think of is the logic of reasoning class I took

in college because she utilizes practically every type of illogical reasoning we

learned. All I hear are things like " If you're not interested in seeing this

documentary about X you are not interested X " . " You don't want chocolate ice

cream for dessert tonight, you must not like chocolate or ice cream anymore " .

" This person did not speak to me at church today, this person does not like me " .

If I suggest that there are exceptions to things, that you can like chocolate

ice cream, but just not be in the mood for it, she says she can't deal with that

thought because she will have to " rethink her whole world " LOL. No wonder she

doesn't work or go out into the world much, it must be so exhausting trying to

function in the gray world, she would have to " rethink " every little thing! What

I don't get is why doesn't she rethink it, learn that there is gray and move on?

What is the block that the black and white thinking can't get around?

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