Question for and Lindsey and any one that uses pain meds

[Guest guest]

When you use the meds can you wear slacks without pain? Dare I ask if

you can wear jeans (what exactly are blue jeans again?LOL)

At this point I'm stuck with knee length skirts/dresses without

underpants. And I still get a lot of pain.

[Guest guest]

No. I can't wear slacks or jeans at all, ever. Just sweatpants.

>

> When you use the meds can you wear slacks without pain? Dare I ask if

> you can wear jeans (what exactly are blue jeans again?LOL)

>

> At this point I'm stuck with knee length skirts/dresses without

> underpants. And I still get a lot of pain.

>

[Guest guest]

mary: take heart. I went thru that phase. I now wear pants and blue

jeans. I am careful not to have them tight in the crotch. And somedays I

just know are not pants or jeans days. I went thru what you are going thru.

Just follow your protocol and you are going to get there too. I know it is

a pain to worry about what am I going to put on my bottom. The top is never

a problem. Just figuring out what kind of bottom day it is going to

be...now that can be the challenge!! love,m l

[Guest guest]

I've stayed away from pants because I don't want to flare things up, but I have pain free sex and I occasionally wear pants (2x per week or so). I haven't taken meds in three or four months.

Lindsey

[Guest guest]

Well, I'd be thrilled to wear sweat pants. If I need to go out in

the winter I can wear them for a short time but I suffer afterwards.

I took 2 tramadols yesterday and I think it's helped.

> >

> > When you use the meds can you wear slacks without pain? Dare I

ask if

> > you can wear jeans (what exactly are blue jeans again?LOL)

> >

> > At this point I'm stuck with knee length skirts/dresses without

> > underpants. And I still get a lot of pain.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I do have faith that this will get better - unfortunately this phase

started in May, 2005! But I know that other women have healed and had

this pain longer. In the short run if I could just expand my wardrobe

a little it would be such a blessing.

>

> mary: take heart. I went thru that phase. I now wear pants and blue

> jeans. I am careful not to have them tight in the crotch. And

somedays I

> just know are not pants or jeans days. I went thru what you are

going thru.

> Just follow your protocol and you are going to get there too. I know

it is

> a pain to worry about what am I going to put on my bottom. The top

is never

> a problem. Just figuring out what kind of bottom day it is going to

> be...now that can be the challenge!! love,m l

>

[Guest guest]

You know, the weird thing is that I can have pain free sex once a week -

but the pain comes after for a couple of days. I don't know what to

make of that but at least I can have sex (I use TONS of Slipper Stuff)

>

> I've stayed away from pants because I don't want to flare things up,

but I have pain free sex and I occasionally wear pants (2x per week or

so).  I haven't taken meds in three or four months.

> Lindsey

>

[Guest guest]

LOL, I have had this since 1994. I have accepted that I will never

heal and be normal like Dee. Once a nerve is irritated it stays

irritated forever. (according to lots of folks)

I am just fighting for baby steps in the right direction. Hopefully

the Spinal Chord Stimulator will be another baby step.

>

> I do have faith that this will get better - unfortunately this phase

> started in May, 2005! But I know that other women have healed and had

> this pain longer. In the short run if I could just expand my wardrobe

> a little it would be such a blessing.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi, ,

The piece about your nerve being irritated forever once it's

irritated isn't always true, but I know it is for some. Keep up the

good fight. The body has amazing abilities to heal.

Lindsey

> >

> > I do have faith that this will get better - unfortunately this

phase

> > started in May, 2005! But I know that other women have healed

and had

> > this pain longer. In the short run if I could just expand my

wardrobe

> > a little it would be such a blessing.

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, IF I have irritation after sex it's usually the day or two

afterwards. My PT said that's like muscle irritation after overdoing a

workout. You don't usually feel it until the next day or so. But it

has gotten progressively better.

Lindsey

> >

> > I've stayed away from pants because I don't want to flare things

up,

> but I have pain free sex and I occasionally wear pants (2x per week

or

> so).  I haven't taken meds in three or four months.

> > Lindsey

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yeah, me too, it is the next day and it lasts a few days. I think the

muscle goes into a spasm and that sets off the nerve.

That is why I am working on stretching and massaging the muscle so it

will be more tolerant and not go into a spasm.

Also, several PT's have told me that I have the ability to *control*

that muscle and make it not go into a spasm!!! How to learn that!

>

> Yes, IF I have irritation after sex it's usually the day or two

> afterwards. My PT said that's like muscle irritation after overdoing a

> workout. You don't usually feel it until the next day or so. But it

> has gotten progressively better.

> Lindsey

>

>

[Guest guest]

I used to wear pants and jeans and just suffer. I was totally in denial. I finally went out and put tons of vulva-friendly clothes on my credit card and honestly I felt emotionally so much better. I got longish skirts, shorter loose skirts, thigh-high stockings, hot boots, harem pants (I belly dance anyways), really sexy tops to go with the loose, long skirts so I didn't look like I was a plural wife or something, thigh high socks to keep my legs warm, jersey palazzo pants and jersey gaucho pants, etc. I stopped wearing pajama bottoms at night and got a bunch of nightgowns-sporty ones, slinky ones. I wear them with kneesocks in the winter time or leg warmers. My husband actually really likes it. It took a ton of pressure off me and I think it helped with my recurrent infections to let things "breathe" down

there.

Lindsey

[Guest guest]

yup, I sit with legs up and air breathing on the area even when I am pain free. good suggestions. ml

[Guest guest]

VULVA-FRIENDLY clothes, LOL.

I am okay with cotton panties.

I wear nylon shorts with liners. No panties, no seam. Very short

shorts, they are also sexy looking.

I also wear lightweight shorts where the crotch of the shorts is a

mile below my crotch. My daughter likes to tease me about my " poofy "

shorts.

I wear short skirts with those thigh-high stockings from Target. They

are really attractive stockings anyway.

I have done a lot of stuff to overcompensate for my lack of sexuality.

I wear really high heels even if I don't need them just to look sexy.

I wear eyeliner and lipstick and foundation every day. I rarely go out

of the house without looking as fetching as I can.

>

> I used to wear pants and jeans and just suffer.  I was totally in

denial.  I finally went out and put tons of vulva-friendly clothes on

my credit card and honestly I felt emotionally so much better.  I got

longish skirts, shorter loose skirts, thigh-high stockings, hot boots,

harem pants (I belly dance anyways), really sexy tops to go with the

loose, long skirts so I didn't look like I was a plural wife or

something, thigh high socks to keep my legs warm, jersey palazzo pants

and jersey gaucho pants, etc.  I stopped wearing pajama bottoms at

night and got a bunch of nightgowns-sporty ones, slinky ones.  I wear

them with kneesocks in the winter time or leg warmers.  My husband

actually really likes it.  It took a ton of pressure off me and I

think it helped with my recurrent infections to let things " breathe "

down there.

> Lindsey

>

[Guest guest]

mARY AND MOLLY: sWEAT pants are a great starting place. Slowly slowly one

step at a time.

Molly: glad that the tramadol helped you.

hugs, ML