Re: Re: My Sons/ / toddvikkd

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Hi to all,

I feel your pain as I am raising a 9 yr grandson who is bi-polar with ocd ,

odd, adhd,anexity

, and abandment issues as well. It is very difficult some days because of the

anger, he is always very loud callin me names wishing me dead. he also throw

things and try to hurt me. He diffenatrly hates authority and being made to do

what is right. We were able to get some new drs. and now hopefully have him, on

track.I wish you all the best hope you find peace in your lives, none of us

should feel guilty because some things in life just are the way they are with

out fault to know one. Yes we will always love sons and daughters to no end and

want to see them doing their best, yes sometimes that will have to be at a

distance for some of us.I hope yopu all are able to get help for the rest of the

family they we all find the peace that we need in our lives.I will remember all

in my prayers , sons and angela sons.keep hope alive, guck luck and

blessings to you all.

Hugs,

Della

My Sons

>

>

> > I will be typing about them alot sense they are usually the

major

> > source of my stress/ pain. My oldest just turned 18 on Sunday but

he

> > moved out last April. I could no longer emotionally or physically

> > handle him in my house. He has been in therapy sense age 4, the

> > soonest they would take him. We went through alot of Dr.s and

> > therapists and dx and meds. His current official diagnosis

Bipolar 1

> > mixed, I thought I knew what bipolar was until we got this

diagnosis

> > explained, and it really explained to me why my son was who he

was.

> > Bipolar 1 mixed in a nutshell means that his depression and his

mania

> > were cycling so fast that it's like they are both running at the

same

> > time. He is so angry most of the time, he sucks the life out of

most

> > rooms. Before he left he had put huge holes in my walls that are

> > still there, I can't afford to fix them. The verbal abuse was the

> > worst of it mostly for my younger son,constantly being screamed at

> > just for being within his sight. My younger son and I stayed shut

in

> > my bedroom most of the time. The final straw was the fighting with

> > his then pregnant girlfriend. He is now doing a little better he

is

> > living in an indepentent living program, working, and somewhat

> > helping to take care of my beautiful 8 month old Grandaughter. I

know

> > this sounds awful but his Birthday felt like a huge weight lifted

> > from my sholders. I never have to let him come home.

> > I love him with all my heart, but he's so much easier to deal with

> > from a distance. My younger son is dxed w/ bipolar but his is

> > textbook, the problem is that so many years of verbal and physical

> > abuse from his brother has caused major emotional scars, so every

day

> > is less of a struggle but it is still a struggle. Wow I'm going to

> > stop b4 I write a whole book. For those who pray please remember

my

> > sons when you think of them.

> > Thanks,

> >

> >

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