Re: My Sons/ / toddvikkd

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Della, Angie, Vicki God bless you all, I wish I had the time,

strength, and patience to start a support group for

parents/grandparents of children with severe mental/ emotional

problems. Learning to advocate for them without enabling them is my

biggest problem. I'm getting better though. My sons were also

sexually abused by my brother,( that was a really bad family time)my

oldest also has ADHD and ODD and PTSD. My youngest may have

borderline personality syndrom, and is ADD. Feel free to contact me

any time I have been dealing with Case managers/ Therapists/ School

psychologists/ and psychyatrists for 14 years now so I know how

aggravating it can be to get them to listen. You are all in my

prayers.

God Bless and keep you,

> >

> > oh, I can so relate. this is my 16 year old son to a t. even the

> pregnant

> > girlfriend! and I too let him move out. she is with her and her

> family. I

> > did give them a serious heads up on his behavior. he was so

violent

> that he

> > physically and sexually abused my younger two. he was arrested

and

> then put

> > in a youth program for anger and another for sex offenders. he is

> much more

> > able to control himself now, but he still has a long way to go. I

> have

> > scars...emotional and physical, from raising this child. it is

nice

> to know

> > I am not alone.

> >

> > -ang

> > My Sons

> >

> >

> > > I will be typing about them alot sense they are usually the

> major

> > > source of my stress/ pain. My oldest just turned 18 on Sunday

but

> he

> > > moved out last April. I could no longer emotionally or

physically

> > > handle him in my house. He has been in therapy sense age 4, the

> > > soonest they would take him. We went through alot of Dr.s and

> > > therapists and dx and meds. His current official diagnosis

> Bipolar 1

> > > mixed, I thought I knew what bipolar was until we got this

> diagnosis

> > > explained, and it really explained to me why my son was who he

> was.

> > > Bipolar 1 mixed in a nutshell means that his depression and his

> mania

> > > were cycling so fast that it's like they are both running at

the

> same

> > > time. He is so angry most of the time, he sucks the life out of

> most

> > > rooms. Before he left he had put huge holes in my walls that are

> > > still there, I can't afford to fix them. The verbal abuse was

the

> > > worst of it mostly for my younger son,constantly being screamed

at

> > > just for being within his sight. My younger son and I stayed

shut

> in

> > > my bedroom most of the time. The final straw was the fighting

with

> > > his then pregnant girlfriend. He is now doing a little better

he

> is

> > > living in an indepentent living program, working, and somewhat

> > > helping to take care of my beautiful 8 month old Grandaughter.

I

> know

> > > this sounds awful but his Birthday felt like a huge weight

lifted

> > > from my sholders. I never have to let him come home.

> > > I love him with all my heart, but he's so much easier to deal

with

> > > from a distance. My younger son is dxed w/ bipolar but his is

> > > textbook, the problem is that so many years of verbal and

physical

> > > abuse from his brother has caused major emotional scars, so

every

> day

> > > is less of a struggle but it is still a struggle. Wow I'm going

to

> > > stop b4 I write a whole book. For those who pray please

remember

> my

> > > sons when you think of them.

> > > Thanks,

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone

> on the

> > > list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always

> check with

> > > your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with

> other meds

> > > as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in

> general.

> > >

> > > 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it

> is) pls

> > > don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying

> to make

> > > that situation better.

> > >

> > > 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is:

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> > >

> > > 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be

> feeling bad at

> > > the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that

potentially

> take

> > > something another member says the wrong way. And that includes

> the things

> > > that one member may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro

> itself)

> > > even though we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro

or

> multiple

> > > illnesses try to keep a sense of humor.

> > >

> > > 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a

> bad day

> > > pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support.

> > >

> > > Have a nice day everyone.

> > >

> > >