Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 > i don't like the idea of the man picking and choosing what he gets to be a part of. you know what i'm saying? > Oh most definitely. And I agree completely. > here's another thing. i'm having a cesarean. That makes a big difference. You certainly don't want him there when you're not able to function well. I don't know what complications you had but if it was with the aneste...(I NEVER can spell that word.) The stuff for the pain! That stuff... If that was part of it then you're likely to have problems again. My sister-in-law gets deathly ill with it. She wasn't able to see her daughters for 4-8 hours after they were born because she was so out of it and throwing up. > i appreciate your opinion and everyone else who thought maybe i should let him be at the birth, but i think, at this point anyway, that unless things DRASTICALLY change between now and then, i'm not going to have him there that day. > I didn't remember all the details but I knew you'd had problems with him before. Since he's not showing any signs of improving I don't blame you a bit. I am glad he stopped harrassing you after you called the cops though. A restraining order might have given you a little stronger sense of security but unfortunately they're rarely enforced as well as they should be. ( Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2003 Report Share Posted March 12, 2003 oh . I really think Mike has a right to accompany you... If he TRULY wants to be there and wants to help, I think you should let him..... That's my opinion at this particular moment. ;-) Penny a bit of a dilemma a couple of days ago, i ran into mike. he was leaving his mom's as i was coming home from grocery shopping. i tried to pretend i didn't see him sitting in his car, but he honked, so i had no choice but to say hi. then he started talking to me. he said he missed me and i looked good and blah blah blah. i talked to him, but i didn't i didn't return any of his sentiments, i just said thanks. so he was talking to me some more, telling me about his new job as a cabdriver and how he had midterms coming up and whatever. then he got out of the car to give everybody hugs (the kids were there). before he gave me a hug, he put his hand on my belly and said it was firm, hmm, i hadn't thought so, but oh well. then he asked me when i was last at the doc. i told him i go next week. then he said if i ever wanted him to go with me, to just let him know. he didn't ask about the baby's sex and i didn't offer it up. all in all it was a fine encounter, but i'm still not looking forward to it happening more and more as the weather gets nicer. anyway, here's my dilemma... he just called my cell phone and left a message to let him know when that appt was, cause he really wanted to go with me, but if i didn't want him to go, that was ok. so what do i do? i really don't want him to go. i really don't feel comfortable spending that much time with him yet and i go to the dr for me, not so he can be there and be all stupid like he does. on the other hand, he IS the father. so is it too selfish of me to not want him to go? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2003 Report Share Posted March 12, 2003 You realize that you'll be receiving condoms in the mail from me after the baby is born, right? Penny :-o Re: a bit of a dilemma Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2003 Report Share Posted March 12, 2003 > You realize that you'll be receiving condoms in the mail from me after the baby is born, right? Penny :-o < won't be necessary. getting tubes tied :-P ------------------------- gina, 31, ny single mom to - kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet parker jade, due 7-20-03 :-D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2003 Report Share Posted March 12, 2003 > That's my opinion at this particular moment. ;-) Penny < yeah well, i'll wait til your mud free ------------------------- gina, 31, ny single mom to - kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet parker jade, due 7-20-03 :-D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2003 Report Share Posted March 12, 2003 LOL! told me she is having a tubal. I don't think you need to do that. LOL! Georga Hackworth Men. Can't live with 'em...can't trade 'em in for their weight in chocolate. Enter to win $50 worth of free books http://www.ubah.com/F1549 Re: a bit of a dilemma > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2003 Report Share Posted March 13, 2003 OK, my 2 cents. When a woman is pregnant, it's her job to make sure that the baby gets the best start possible. That includes avoiding stress. If having Mike there is stressful for you, then you have every right to say no. Maybe the 2 of you can sit down and calmly discuss the baby and his involvement. I would wait until you feel up to it though, and I would have someone else there, in case he starts acting like a jerk again. Tuna ... wishing you a pleasant stress-free pregnancy ===== mom to: , 8, ASD , 4, NT Normal is just a setting on the washing machine. - Whoopi Goldberg ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2003 Report Share Posted March 13, 2003 > When a woman is pregnant, it's her job to make sure that the baby gets the best start possible. That includes avoiding stress. If having Mike there is stressful for you, then you have every right to say no. < thank you tuna. that was why i couldn't be with the other two and this one is no different. ------------------------- gina, 31, ny single mom to - kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet parker jade, due 7-20-03 :-D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2003 Report Share Posted March 15, 2003 oh yeah... I forgot. I want proof, though. ;-) Penny Re: a bit of a dilemma > You realize that you'll be receiving condoms in the mail from me after the baby is born, right? Penny :-o < won't be necessary. getting tubes tied :-P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2003 Report Share Posted March 15, 2003 > I want proof, though. ;-) Penny < ok, i'll mail you the bits they snip off :-P ------------------------- gina, 31, ny single mom to - kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet parker jade, due 7-20-03 :-D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2003 Report Share Posted March 16, 2003 ew Re: a bit of a dilemma > I want proof, though. ;-) Penny < ok, i'll mail you the bits they snip off :-P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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