Jeanne--- your daughter... so sorry

February 14, 2008

Jeanne, I had no idea you had a daughter with this crap. I really feel for both

of you. That is horrible. You may have said this here before but I guess I

just never read it.

Any really young person with fibro really breaks my heart. It is a horrible

illness for anyone to suffer... much less someone that young. The teen years

are the most sensitive emotionally for most everyone.

love and hugs,

Debra V.

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February 14, 2008

Yeah, last year was really the pits. I think our depression's feed off each

others and that's why it was a bad year for both of us. Now that she's in

8th grade, I try to let her get up on her own, so I'm not there to complain

to, and she seems to be doing very well at getting herself to school, even

on days with a cold or whatever. Thanks for your caring.

I believe that getting the diagnosis early is a benefit, because the

acceptance comes much more quickly and the symptoms are dealt with as they

come. This makes it much easier to cope( at least that's what I'm hoping)

into adulthood. There's no period of mourning for a lost life because it's

just always been a part of her. I pray she doesn't become disabled with it

as I am because she won't be constantly battling the " expectancy of

normalness. " Does that make sense? So many of us older women went years

and years not wanting to believe we were sick or thinking it was just in our

heads and that compounded the symptoms and stress. Take care.

Jeanne in WI

> Jeanne, I had no idea you had a daughter with this crap. I really feel

> for both of you. That is horrible. You may have said this here before

> but I guess I just never read it.

> Any really young person with fibro really breaks my heart. It is a

> horrible illness for anyone to suffer... much less someone that young.

> The teen years are the most sensitive emotionally for most everyone.

>

> love and hugs,

> Debra V.

February 14, 2008

Hi Jeanne,

I'm one of those real older (59) women who fought the dx tooth and nail and I

do believe it caused my symptoms to worsen. I went into such a depression while

I was in denial (I was also getting a divorce) and I think the longer I was down

the worse my symptoms became.

They may have worsened on their on but who knows. Of course my symptoms have

continued to get worse even after I accepted the dx. But I handle it

differently.

Living in acceptance and defining life as it really is instead of how I wish

it were has made my life easier. Now I plan things around how I feel and

recognize that there will be a rebound effect if I do something strenuous so I

chose what I do wisely.

There is still a mourning for the life lost, but it doesn't eat at me anymore.

I hope and pray that you are right about your daughter not knowing a different

way of life and so not grieving for it. I think that is a really good way of

looking at it. Very positive.

My kids didn't have fibro, but I had to let them get up by themselves by that

age because they argued about every little thing in the morning. This way it

was peaceful for everyone.

Luv ya,

Marti

Jeanne and Dave wrote:

Yeah, last year was really the pits. I think our depression's feed off

each