Slowly going into depression

February 19, 2008

Been here.done that. and DO NOT WANT TO GO THERE AGAIN!

Since I went into the hospital for back surgery on Feb I have slowly

been sliding into depression. My church has been wonderful in helping

with food, but NO and I mean NO ONE has come to visit me since I got

home. I feel like I have been cut off from civilization and am slowing

going down hill. I have not gotten out of bed today and was crying

earlier due to being lonely and depressed. I go back to the doctor

tomorrow for a check up and I am so hoping that he will release me to

go back to work as I do not know how much more of being trapped inside

all the time and alone. I am losing my mind. All I do is lay in bed

and watch tv. I really have no idea what or why I am writing here,

guess I am just trying to connect and figure out why I am so alone. I

need to go back to work so that I at least have people connection.

Thanks for listening/reading my ramblings.

Christi in Waxahachie TX

February 19, 2008

Christi,

I understand completely. I have been in the bout of a strong depression

since Mid-November. I cry on the way to work and the way home every

single day because there is no one in my life that I can lean on, share

things with or just talk to about the things going on in my life

(Health, finances, work, etc). Even working is not helping because I do

not talk about anything personal at work either.

I don't know the answer for you but I did want you to know that you are

not alone. I hope that you are able to find a medication, a therapist

or something that will help you. Good luck!

N.

February 19, 2008

Thank you . I feel that once I have recovered from this surgery and back on

my feet I will be better as I can do for myself again. I do not do good letting

others take care of me. I live with my 18 yr old son and he has been wonderful,

but he is a kid and just does not understand mom sometimes. He has his own life

to live. Although he will drop anything he is doing (except work) to help me if

I need it, but he does not want to just hang out with mom. Guess I don't blame

him. Don't want to hang out with me right now either.

I have taken A-D and A-A's before and will not take them again as they do

nothing for me. I know that they work wonders for others, just not me. I just

need this doc to release me so I can get back to my life of being able to get

out of my apartment......UGH

Christi Randall

www.singingwomenoftexas.com

Re: Slowly going into depression

Christi,

I understand completely. I have been in the bout of a strong depression

since Mid-November. I cry on the way to work and the way home every

single day because there is no one in my life that I can lean on, share

things with or just talk to about the things going on in my life

(Health, finances, work, etc). Even working is not helping because I do

not talk about anything personal at work either.

I don't know the answer for you but I did want you to know that you are

not alone. I hope that you are able to find a medication, a therapist

or something that will help you. Good luck!

N.

1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as

to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr.

Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to

certain health conditions or just dangerous in general.

2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be

afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation

better.

3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is:

Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe

4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at the

same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take something

another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things that one member

may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal

with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense

of humor.

5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls let

us know so that we can do our best to offer our support.

Have a nice day everyone.

February 19, 2008

> Been here.done that. and DO NOT WANT TO GO THERE AGAIN!

>

> Since I went into the hospital for back surgery on Feb I have slowly

> been sliding into depression. My church has been wonderful in helping

> with food, but NO and I mean NO ONE has come to visit me since I got

> home. I feel like I have been cut off from civilization and am

> slowing

> going down hill. I have not gotten out of bed today and was crying

> earlier due to being lonely and depressed. I go back to the doctor

> tomorrow for a check up and I am so hoping that he will release me to

> go back to work as I do not know how much more of being trapped inside

> all the time and alone. I am losing my mind. All I do is lay in bed

> and watch tv. I really have no idea what or why I am writing here,

> guess I am just trying to connect and figure out why I am so alone. I

> need to go back to work so that I at least have people connection.

> Thanks for listening/reading my ramblings.

>

> Christi in Waxahachie TX

>

Your feelings are not unusual, and entirely appropriate for so soon

after surgery. It takes several weeks just for the anesthetic and

pain meds to get out of your system. Are you in pain from your

surgery, btw? Have you had sufficient pain meds, and are you

proactive in taking them on time, to stave off severe surgical pain?

Is there physical therapy that goes with this surgery and if so have

you been able to start it?

If you work outside the home, I can well understand how lonely you

are, cut off from daily stimulation of being with people. Do you

have any friends that you can call? Not necessarily to dump on or

vent, but just to talk to someone, tell them you're feeling lonely,

and find out what's going on in the big wide world! If you've got

cabin fever, btw, that may actually be a good sign because you're

well enough to really mind being stuck inside.

I'm sure your doc has told you this, but it's important that you move

around. For one thing, it gets the meds out of your system. For

another, it staves off blood clots. Another important thing is good

nutrition. Surgery takes a big toll on the body and you need to eat

as well as you possibly can. You might ask your doc about testing

for anemia - that sometimes happens after surgery esp. if you've lost

blood.

Another big thing to pull out of this slide is to establish a

routine. In '86, after my first endometriosis surgery, by golly, I

was up and dressed for Magnum, PI reruns! I could barely stand up

straight, but I was dressed for Tom Selleck! ;D ;D

If the depression is severe, and doesn't clear up as you get more

active and into a routine, talk to your doc about possible short-term

meds. Tell him how you feel in any case. I'm sure it's not the

first time he's heard it!

Z

February 19, 2008

Z,

Thank you for the kind words. There should not be any PT as I had a tumor

removed from the base of my spine. Most days I do get up and get dressed and

move around the apartment (as much as you can in 800sq ft). I do take my pain

meds on time and they are plenty strong enough. I am on 1-2 10/325 Hydroco and

10mg Flexiril every 8 hours. I only take the flexiril at night as I do not like

the spaced out feeling it gives me. It helps with sleeping though. For the

most part I am not in any overly great pain.

I thought i had some friends, but this surgery has shown me i do not really have

any real friends. Only work friends and church friends. No one who I can call

on just to talk. And the cabin fever is driving me nuts. Today is only the 2nd

day that i did not get dressed or out of bed, the rest of the time I get up, get

dressed, and at least go sit in my recliner in the living room. I do have to be

extra careful not to bend, reach, lift, push, ect...in other words, I can't do

anything until I get the release from my doc. I am following his orders, but

the restrictions are rough for someone who is used to working out side of the

home full time and involved in my chuch. So since Feb 7 (day of surgery) I have

been isolated and do not like it.

Christi Randall

www.singingwomenoftexas.com

Your feelings are not unusual, and entirely appropriate for so soon

after surgery. It takes several weeks just for the anesthetic and

pain meds to get out of your system. Are you in pain from your

surgery, btw? Have you had sufficient pain meds, and are you

proactive in taking them on time, to stave off severe surgical pain?

Is there physical therapy that goes with this surgery and if so have

you been able to start it?

If you work outside the home, I can well understand how lonely you

are, cut off from daily stimulation of being with people. Do you

have any friends that you can call? Not necessarily to dump on or

vent, but just to talk to someone, tell them you're feeling lonely,

and find out what's going on in the big wide world! If you've got

cabin fever, btw, that may actually be a good sign because you're

well enough to really mind being stuck inside.

I'm sure your doc has told you this, but it's important that you move

around. For one thing, it gets the meds out of your system. For

another, it staves off blood clots. Another important thing is good

nutrition. Surgery takes a big toll on the body and you need to eat

as well as you possibly can. You might ask your doc about testing

for anemia - that sometimes happens after surgery esp. if you've lost

blood.

Another big thing to pull out of this slide is to establish a

routine. In '86, after my first endometriosis surgery, by golly, I

was up and dressed for Magnum, PI reruns! I could barely stand up

straight, but I was dressed for Tom Selleck! ;D ;D

If the depression is severe, and doesn't clear up as you get more

active and into a routine, talk to your doc about possible short-term

meds. Tell him how you feel in any case. I'm sure it's not the

first time he's heard it!

Z

February 19, 2008

I wish I had a bus full of beds with a toilet, I'd go pick up all the

people who are feeling shut in and lonely just like us and drive ti

Texas to visit you, that seems to be where most of the group lives

anyway.

,

>

> Been here.done that. and DO NOT WANT TO GO THERE AGAIN!

>

> Since I went into the hospital for back surgery on Feb I have

slowly

> been sliding into depression. My church has been wonderful in

helping

> with food, but NO and I mean NO ONE has come to visit me since I

got

> home. I feel like I have been cut off from civilization and am

slowing

> going down hill. I have not gotten out of bed today and was crying

> earlier due to being lonely and depressed. I go back to the doctor

> tomorrow for a check up and I am so hoping that he will release me

to

> go back to work as I do not know how much more of being trapped

inside

> all the time and alone. I am losing my mind. All I do is lay in

bed

> and watch tv. I really have no idea what or why I am writing here,

> guess I am just trying to connect and figure out why I am so

alone. I

> need to go back to work so that I at least have people connection.

> Thanks for listening/reading my ramblings.

>

> Christi in Waxahachie TX

>

February 19, 2008

Thank you . That is a sweet thought. There do seem to be several of us

here in Texas.

Christi Randall

www.singingwomenoftexas.com

Re: Slowly going into depression

I wish I had a bus full of beds with a toilet, I'd go pick up all the

people who are feeling shut in and lonely just like us and drive ti

Texas to visit you, that seems to be where most of the group lives

anyway.

,

>

> Been here.done that. and DO NOT WANT TO GO THERE AGAIN!

>

> Since I went into the hospital for back surgery on Feb I have

slowly

> been sliding into depression. My church has been wonderful in

helping

> with food, but NO and I mean NO ONE has come to visit me since I

got

> home. I feel like I have been cut off from civilization and am

slowing

> going down hill. I have not gotten out of bed today and was crying

> earlier due to being lonely and depressed. I go back to the doctor

> tomorrow for a check up and I am so hoping that he will release me

to

> go back to work as I do not know how much more of being trapped

inside

> all the time and alone. I am losing my mind. All I do is lay in

bed

> and watch tv. I really have no idea what or why I am writing here,

> guess I am just trying to connect and figure out why I am so

alone. I

> need to go back to work so that I at least have people connection.

> Thanks for listening/reading my ramblings.

>

> Christi in Waxahachie TX

>

1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as

to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr.

Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to

certain health conditions or just dangerous in general.

2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be

afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation

better.

3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is:

Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe

4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at the

same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take something

another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things that one member

may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal

with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense

of humor.

5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls let

us know so that we can do our best to offer our support.

Have a nice day everyone.

February 19, 2008

Christi, please remember I'm not that far from you. I don't go out much

during the week as my car is illegal at the moment (needs inspection,

can't afford it yet) but I'll risk it just say the word. I go to

Waxahachie several times a week anyway mostly on weekends with the hubby

but if I can afford it I'll be heading that way this week to visit my

chiro. Most likely on Thursday but I'll go tomorrow if my pain is bad

enough. They are on Water and Gibson, not sure how far you are from there.

If you need some company just let me know and I'll swing by for a

visit. Email me privately if you want my phone number.

You are not alone!!!!

Hugs,

Melody

Christi Randall wrote:

> Been here.done that. and DO NOT WANT TO GO THERE AGAIN!

>

> Since I went into the hospital for back surgery on Feb I have slowly

> been sliding into depression. My church has been wonderful in helping

> with food, but NO and I mean NO ONE has come to visit me since I got

> home. I feel like I have been cut off from civilization and am slowing