Fwd: Re: [Place_Vent_Here] ~OWNER SPEAKING~Debbie & Lori

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Lori Hammer wrote: Date: Tue, 19 Feb 2008 18:48:26

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Subject: Re: [Place_Vent_Here] ~OWNER SPEAKING~Debbie & Lori

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To all that have attacked Debbie on my behalf to day I am sorry you got drawn

into our supposed bickering. I will be leaving the group and Hopefully all of

you will get the help you need . That is why you came to the Group. That is

why I came to the group I needed support and apparently I still need plenty.

But will tough it out alone. I have done it before I can do it again. I am not

going to join any other Group because this is where I have always felt I

belonged. I have made many friends here and am crying as I do not want to leave

but I am not going to take the blame for something I never did or meant to

happen. My husband agrees that I should quit as he has been through this whole

thing with me from beginning to end and believes that the owner and co-owner

need to take more acertiveness when a moderator is not willing to admit fault

and ask them to step down so that they can regain their composure of what the

group is about. So Debbie I guess I won't

apologize again as I know you will not accept it. I have never recieved any of

your emails you say you sent to me. That is the truth swearing on the Bible.

Get back to the support you all came here for and what I came here for in the

beginning and was delighted to be asked to be a moderator. I hope I helped a

few of you I tried awful hard.

My heart will always be with all of you and yes even you Debbie. All I ever

wanted from you is to accept me as your friend. But I can see that is not going

to happen. I am just sobbbing, but to take the stress off the Groups I am

resigning.

Just remember you all have a big place in my heart and I will miss you all.

Lori hammer

Piercey-Gates wrote:

Hi You 2,

I have asked you both in private to keep your bickering off of the group.

You can do that in private all you wish. But when it comes to the group it is my

business. I have tried to ask you both off group since that is the ADULT way to

do things. However you both just have to keep getting digs in at each other on

the group. So I am telling you in front of everyone that this is where it ends

HERE & NOW! If you can't work and co-exist on the group by talking to each other

as the rest of us do then PLEASE just ignore each others posts. Do not even

comment back to one another.

If you can not keep from bickering on the group I will have to take other

measures that I don't want to do. I love both of you and will not choose between

the two of you as no one should be put into a position to have to do such. I

have warned you both off list and now on list. So this is warning #2 and there

WON'T be a #3 warning. I have enough trouble keeping the groups running

smoothly, without my Mods bickering back and forth. I am sick just like you are

and need to avoid added stress. And when ANYONE not just my Mods are warring

with each other it is added stress on me and others. So I have to step in and

say NO MORE.

I do not need you to respond to this Note. I DO NOT wish to discuss this

on or off list! So just drop it. Get along and co-exist or else. Like I said if

you do not wish to be friends and get along then avoid saying anything to each

other. I don't want to loose either of you as Mods or Friends so please don't

put me into that position. Let's end it here and all just get along.

God Bless!

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[Guest guest]

You do not have to leave the group. Fighting and Bickering is what

gives this disease a " crazy " tone by the medical community. We all

have times where we just get irritable because we are fed up with the

pain. That is OKAY. However, arguing and tearing down fellow

fibromites doesn't have a place at all in a SUPPORT group. The key

word is support. You can have opposing view points, we all will at

some point but you do not have to defend your position. You can just

agree to disagree on an issue. I don't want you to go it alone. My

friend and I created a radio show to help anyone dealing with chronic

life pain no matter what it is. It's on Blogtalk radio and the name of

it is winninglifethroughpain. We've got two shows available for

download. The invitation is to the whole group. Go check out

yesterday's show. I was telling my darkest days of Depression and how

I came out of it. My friend who is a fellow suffer and life coach, has

awesome tips on how to deal.