Re: Slowly going into depression~Christi

[Guest guest]

Christi,

I am sorry you are feeling isolated after your surgery. It can be depressing

not to be able do your normal routine or get out of the house much. I am sorry

your friends aren't calling or coming by. But hey, you can call them like Judy

says. Let them know you are up for some company. Lives get busy and sometimes

you have to take the bull by the horns. I hope you get to feeling better. I am

always here if you need to talk or want some company.

Hugs,

loveit1@... wrote:

Christi,

It is difficult for others to know the right thing to do. If you don't tell

people it is ok to stop by, they are thinking you are needing to rest after your

surgery. I have friends and family who don't call or stop by because they know I

needc rest. I have to reach out to them when I want to talk or plan to go out.

Also winter is harder for people to get together. If people are ill they are not

going to stop by either. Also everyones lives are so busy with work, family etc

it is hard to stop and see people. If you want to talk to some one then call

them. Call a friend and see if they can drop off something after work or call

the church and thank them for their prayer and that you are willing to accept

visitors. Also think of something they could do for you. I hgope this helps. I

hate to think that you are sitting there feeling depressed when people may be

waiting on you. Good Luck. My prayers are with you.

JudyMer

PS I even have to ask my husband to pick things up for me now that I'm not

driving and can't walk more than a few feet. Tonight I get The Mcs fish

sandwich that has been advertised. Good thing I'm at home with my IBS.

---- Christi Randall wrote:

> Z,

>

> Thank you for the kind words. There should not be any PT as I had a tumor

removed from the base of my spine. Most days I do get up and get dressed and

move around the apartment (as much as you can in 800sq ft). I do take my pain

meds on time and they are plenty strong enough. I am on 1-2 10/325 Hydroco and

10mg Flexiril every 8 hours. I only take the flexiril at night as I do not like

the spaced out feeling it gives me. It helps with sleeping though. For the most

part I am not in any overly great pain.

>

> I thought i had some friends, but this surgery has shown me i do not really

have any real friends. Only work friends and church friends. No one who I can

call on just to talk. And the cabin fever is driving me nuts. Today is only the

2nd day that i did not get dressed or out of bed, the rest of the time I get up,

get dressed, and at least go sit in my recliner in the living room. I do have to

be extra careful not to bend, reach, lift, push, ect...in other words, I can't

do anything until I get the release from my doc. I am following his orders, but

the restrictions are rough for someone who is used to working out side of the

home full time and involved in my chuch. So since Feb 7 (day of surgery) I have

been isolated and do not like it.

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> Christi Randall

> www.singingwomenoftexas.com

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> Your feelings are not unusual, and entirely appropriate for so soon

> after surgery. It takes several weeks just for the anesthetic and

> pain meds to get out of your system. Are you in pain from your

> surgery, btw? Have you had sufficient pain meds, and are you

> proactive in taking them on time, to stave off severe surgical pain?

> Is there physical therapy that goes with this surgery and if so have

> you been able to start it?

>

> If you work outside the home, I can well understand how lonely you

> are, cut off from daily stimulation of being with people. Do you

> have any friends that you can call? Not necessarily to dump on or

> vent, but just to talk to someone, tell them you're feeling lonely,

> and find out what's going on in the big wide world! If you've got

> cabin fever, btw, that may actually be a good sign because you're

> well enough to really mind being stuck inside.

>

> I'm sure your doc has told you this, but it's important that you move

> around. For one thing, it gets the meds out of your system. For

> another, it staves off blood clots. Another important thing is good

> nutrition. Surgery takes a big toll on the body and you need to eat

> as well as you possibly can. You might ask your doc about testing

> for anemia - that sometimes happens after surgery esp. if you've lost

> blood.

>

> Another big thing to pull out of this slide is to establish a

> routine. In '86, after my first endometriosis surgery, by golly, I

> was up and dressed for Magnum, PI reruns! I could barely stand up

> straight, but I was dressed for Tom Selleck! ;D ;D

>

> If the depression is severe, and doesn't clear up as you get more

> active and into a routine, talk to your doc about possible short-term

> meds. Tell him how you feel in any case. I'm sure it's not the

> first time he's heard it!

>

> Z

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks

Christi Randall

www.singingwomenoftexas.com

Re: Slowly going into depression~Christi

Christi,

I am sorry you are feeling isolated after your surgery. It can be depressing

not to be able do your normal routine or get out of the house much. I am sorry

your friends aren't calling or coming by. But hey, you can call them like Judy

says. Let them know you are up for some company. Lives get busy and sometimes

you have to take the bull by the horns. I hope you get to feeling better. I am

always here if you need to talk or want some company.

Hugs,

loveit1@... wrote:

Christi,

It is difficult for others to know the right thing to do. If you don't tell

people it is ok to stop by, they are thinking you are needing to rest after your

surgery. I have friends and family who don't call or stop by because they know I

needc rest. I have to reach out to them when I want to talk or plan to go out.

Also winter is harder for people to get together. If people are ill they are not

going to stop by either. Also everyones lives are so busy with work, family etc

it is hard to stop and see people. If you want to talk to some one then call

them. Call a friend and see if they can drop off something after work or call

the church and thank them for their prayer and that you are willing to accept

visitors. Also think of something they could do for you. I hgope this helps. I

hate to think that you are sitting there feeling depressed when people may be

waiting on you. Good Luck. My prayers are with you.

JudyMer

PS I even have to ask my husband to pick things up for me now that I'm not

driving and can't walk more than a few feet. Tonight I get The Mcs fish

sandwich that has been advertised. Good thing I'm at home with my IBS.

---- Christi Randall wrote:

> Z,

>

> Thank you for the kind words. There should not be any PT as I had a tumor

removed from the base of my spine. Most days I do get up and get dressed and

move around the apartment (as much as you can in 800sq ft). I do take my pain

meds on time and they are plenty strong enough. I am on 1-2 10/325 Hydroco and

10mg Flexiril every 8 hours. I only take the flexiril at night as I do not like

the spaced out feeling it gives me. It helps with sleeping though. For the most

part I am not in any overly great pain.

>

> I thought i had some friends, but this surgery has shown me i do not really

have any real friends. Only work friends and church friends. No one who I can

call on just to talk. And the cabin fever is driving me nuts. Today is only the

2nd day that i did not get dressed or out of bed, the rest of the time I get up,

get dressed, and at least go sit in my recliner in the living room. I do have to

be extra careful not to bend, reach, lift, push, ect...in other words, I can't

do anything until I get the release from my doc. I am following his orders, but

the restrictions are rough for someone who is used to working out side of the

home full time and involved in my chuch. So since Feb 7 (day of surgery) I have

been isolated and do not like it.

>

>

>

> Christi Randall

> www.singingwomenoftexas.com

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Your feelings are not unusual, and entirely appropriate for so soon

> after surgery. It takes several weeks just for the anesthetic and

> pain meds to get out of your system. Are you in pain from your

> surgery, btw? Have you had sufficient pain meds, and are you

> proactive in taking them on time, to stave off severe surgical pain?

> Is there physical therapy that goes with this surgery and if so have

> you been able to start it?

>

> If you work outside the home, I can well understand how lonely you

> are, cut off from daily stimulation of being with people. Do you

> have any friends that you can call? Not necessarily to dump on or

> vent, but just to talk to someone, tell them you're feeling lonely,

> and find out what's going on in the big wide world! If you've got

> cabin fever, btw, that may actually be a good sign because you're

> well enough to really mind being stuck inside.

>

> I'm sure your doc has told you this, but it's important that you move

> around. For one thing, it gets the meds out of your system. For

> another, it staves off blood clots. Another important thing is good

> nutrition. Surgery takes a big toll on the body and you need to eat

> as well as you possibly can. You might ask your doc about testing

> for anemia - that sometimes happens after surgery esp. if you've lost

> blood.

>

> Another big thing to pull out of this slide is to establish a

> routine. In '86, after my first endometriosis surgery, by golly, I

> was up and dressed for Magnum, PI reruns! I could barely stand up

> straight, but I was dressed for Tom Selleck! ;D ;D

>

> If the depression is severe, and doesn't clear up as you get more

> active and into a routine, talk to your doc about possible short-term

> meds. Tell him how you feel in any case. I'm sure it's not the

> first time he's heard it!

>

> Z

>

>