Re: Same Old Story... Just Need Some Cheering Up -

[Guest guest]

, what kind of lube did you use? I have accepted the fact that I cannot have sex without lube...and I'm fine with it now. Actually, I keep a big ole bottle of Slippery Stuff (blue bottle) next to my bed. My husband and I like it better than anything we've tried. Some like coconut oil or olive oil. I've tried many things over the years, but the Slippery Stuff works best for me. I can relate to many things you wrote. I had to give up jeans for 13 yrs. and I'm recently back in them! That just goes to show how progress is possible. Do I think it will take you that long? NO! I have dealt with this for a long time. Though there are still so many docs out there that are ignorant. Things are much, much better these days. For one

thing, groups like this did not exist when I was at the worst of my pain! Nor a lot of the help that is available today. hang in there, just take things a day at a time and stay determined that you WILL get better! It is possible! Keep telling yourself that! Hugs, ChelleI know I'll never take for granted again if I am able to just jump into a great night of sex. I was just able to have sex for the first time in almost 5 months. There was a little burning at first but we used lube which I really am not happy with the feel of, I never did like to have to use it. I just feel sad I guess, it's not the same. He and I both worried and it took too much out of it. I'm older than you

by far (38) and have been married to this man for 20 years and this is a part of my life I really enjoyed. I want it back.I so hear you about the clothing. I'm a jeans kinda girl and I can't even wear them. I'm so sick of skirts and sweats!!Today my period is coming and I am cramping so bad and the bad burning is back with it. Periods are the worst. I hurt so bad from the pads but I can't use anything else because it's way too heavy. I'm trying to keep as positive as I can, most days it's ok but some I just can't. I never ever even entertained the thought that I would be sitting with vulvar pain that wouldn't go away,I still can't believe this is possible and I sure am not happy the medical profession really doesn't know a thing about it.I'm sorry you are going through this!! You aren't alone, not that it's much help. ((HUGS))

[Guest guest]

We tried the liquid kind of slippery stuff this time. It felt about

the same as anything else we've used. It's non-irritating though so

I'm going to use it I guess.

I've gone through the local Dr.s and right now I cannot afford to

travel to see another so I'm sort of in limbo hoping it will

improve. Here they all seem to have never heard of anything like

lingering vulvar pain.

> I know I'll never take for granted again if I am able to just jump

> into a great night of sex. I was just able to have sex for the

first

> time in almost 5 months. There was a little burning at first but

we

> used lube which I really am not happy with the feel of, I never

did

> like to have to use it. I just feel sad I guess, it's not the

same.

> He and I both worried and it took too much out of it. I'm older

than

> you by far

> (38) and have been married to this man for 20 years and

> this is a part of my life I really enjoyed. I want it back.

>

> I so hear you about the clothing. I'm a jeans kinda girl and I

can't

> even wear them. I'm so sick of skirts and sweats!!

>

> Today my period is coming and I am cramping so bad and the bad

> burning is back with it. Periods are the worst. I hurt so bad from

> the pads but I can't use anything else because it's way too heavy.

>

> I'm trying to keep as positive as I can, most days it's ok but

some

> I just can't. I never ever even entertained the thought that I

would

> be sitting with vulvar pain that wouldn't go away,I still can't

> believe this is possible and I sure am not happy the medical

> profession really doesn't know a thing about it.

>

> I'm sorry you are going through this!! You aren't alone, not that

> it's much help. ((HUGS))

>