Re: Re: MARTI , How cruel can one Be?

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What is going on? I have been here 3 wks, and though I take the bad with the

good on everything these days, and have always understood, we all have our days

we may need a anger management class due to this disease we have somehow been

unfortunate to have. But my heart goes out to those who post such an

uncompasionate comment no matter how good, bad, or indifferent they may be

feeling! Where you never taught if you don't have anything nice to say don't

say it?, Being married to someone in the military I would think you would have

more respect then to tell anyone who is going through any illness to hit Delete.

She is here for a reason and should not have to hit delete, and sometimes I have

read a post like this, not realizing what it really is about. I could not help

but post to this, Marti asked politely to be more compassionate to those who

have not had success with the so called Garden of Eden world you are living in

and finding no problems, for some of us that

have been there, done everything, before getting to where we are at now living

day to day, one pill at I time, and I don't care what kind of chemical it is

once you have walked a day in some of us shoes, don't sit back and chastisize,

like Tom Cruise theory, there is always something out there that will work,

which doesn't involve meds. Well I worked in Healthcare all my life, I know

what drugs are I know the side effects and so what. I will take anything that

will take my pain away, get me to keep moving and ease my mind. I have done all

the water, accupuncture, PT, and so called stress free life, it Doesn't work. So

try posting a bit nicer, if you want to brag I don't believe you are in the

right group, this disease, only likes to hear whining, complaints about the

monster, happy events, and suggestions, not pushy ones either, and when someone

ask someone to step back and think about how your post comes across, I don't

think you should turn it into a fight, or

possible cause that person to turn off, exspecially when they are going through

a real real rough time, try walking in her shoes and then say you don't let

stress or chemicals in your body. By the way some of these so called vitamans

are just as or can be deadly to a person more so than a RX. Why not try just

not getting on the site if you are feeling like bullying that day. Hope things

get better for you, as what I have read so far I think you are really hiding

behind what you really are living or you would not be here if life is so good.

Sharon

wrote: Alright this has gone far

enough, if you ingnore people like her

than why can't you drop it. She is going through hell right now and

doesn't need anyone badgering her, now please let it go!

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> > I've just gotten back from my first day of chemo for bone cancer

> and have spent most of my time in the bathroom. Yes I am having

meds

> put by IV into my body and yes it is scaring me to death, but it

is

> what I have to do to maybe get better. I think I handle that as

well

> as you would.

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> > Being on line here is one of the relaxing things I do and came

> here to make me feel better.

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> > I couldn't believe that this post was sitting right in front

of

> me when I logged on.

> > Why can't you let anything rest?

> > Why do you have to continually try to prove that you are

better

> than the rest of us?

> > How do you know that you deal with things differently than

> others? A direct quote from you.

> > How do you know how others deal with things? Do you even

care?

> Or just talk about you.

> > Why do you have to repeat yourself and say again that you have

> great health insurance? Do you enjoy making others feel badly.

You

> must or you wouldn't keep bragging about how well you handle your

> life and deal so much better with everything than others do.

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> > Just stop it already.

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> > There was a beautiful, useful string going on that I read

about

> hobbies, crafts and books and other things people are doing to

help

> them distract themselves from the terrible pain they are in. Join

in

> on something like that and stop telling us how you control you

life

> so well with no meds and with your water aerobics. Say something

to

> make people feel better about their lives for a change.

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> > Marti

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> > Goodness! I finally am able to get able to the website and what

I

> find is that there are several people people who are not very

happy

> with other things that are being causing a great deal of distress

to

> other members. All I wanted to do was come on, say that I had had

my

> first deep tissue massage in quite some time, and I could not

believe

> the knots that my old therapist found over my entire body! It was

> great when she did some more gentle work on my head, but I could

not

> believe what she AND I discovered when she had me rollover onto my

> back. She started at the top and worked her way slowing down each

> side and I had told her she could go as deep as she felt would be

> benefical! I am so glad I went but while I was laying on that

table,

> I could easily have screamed, but rather than doing that I keep

> trying to tell the pain to GO AWAY! That was a trick my first

> therapist had me do --- only I didn't have to do so quietly as

> Jackie's massage suite had no one else the building so I could

yell

> at the pain.

> The unfortunately part of this day was that my husband had a

dental

> appointment this afternoon with the dentist and then Weight

Watchers

> and we had planned to go to dinner for the first time in a number

of

> weeks. My body was really still feeling the effects of the

massage --

> which I know is a part of a massage, just that it had been

sometime

> since I had had a deep tissue massage and my body was in the

> condition it was in! And as was working on my body, I

realized

> that the stress I have felt since I reported my uncle to the local

> elder abuse about a month before my aunt died. And then more

> recently the death of my very dear friend --- in that situation, I

> have so much anger toward her husband and all of those things have

> contributed to the pain I have been experiencing. So, I am going

> again next week for another massage and I think that both of the

> recent deaths and my angry that is masking my grief.

> Now, I am sorry that the messages I have read here have gotten so

> many people so upset. And Marti, I do believe that your position

> about someone who doesn't take medicine and whatever else may have

> been in the emails that I skimmed, because it seems that one

person

> appears to believe they know what the rest of us go through and

how

> hard we try to cope with the hand life has dealt us. I know this

> site is one I turn to so that I can find how others might be

dealing

> with the conditions they are dealing with.

> So, Marti! I for one, support you in your stand!

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