Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We both have a lot of pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much the next day. Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but oh the pain Why does every few weeks the group losses people? we all have stress STOP the fighting we all are here for the same reasons. We all need support. Hug's Debbe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 I can definatgely relate to this. I am a newylwed only married 2 months I am 33 and he is 27. He wants it all the time I rearely want and I mean rerely. I look a like as a chore. I have talked to doctor's therapists and girlfriends. I think it has alot to do with me being tired and the weight gain Just in the 9 mths we have been together. It is good to know I am not alone. Good Luck. Holly NC > > I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We both have a lot of > pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much the next day. > > Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but oh the pain > > Why does every few weeks the group losses people? we all have stress > STOP the fighting we all are here for the same reasons. We all need > support. > > Hug's Debbe > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Shoot Debbe, I'm the older woman(lol) and we are in the same Love Boat you are.. were's all the fun we were supposed to have as we got older.... Diane --- nobrokenwing1970 wrote: > I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We > both have a lot of > pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much > the next day. > > Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but > oh the pain > > Why does every few weeks the group losses people? we > all have stress > STOP the fighting we all are here for the same > reasons. We all need > support. > > Hug's Debbe > > > > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences > with everyone on the list as to what treatments do > and don't work for us, pls always check with your > dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along > with other meds as well as to certain health > conditions or just dangerous in general. > > 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't > matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for > help. It is the first step to trying to make that > situation better. > > 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: > Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe > > 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member > to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to > flares and b/c of that potentially take something > another member says the wrong way. And that > includes the things that one member may find funny > (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though > we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro > or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. > > 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you > are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can > do our best to offer our support. > > Have a nice day everyone. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Debbe, I honestly cannot answer that question. Because of all my chronic health issues, that part of our lives has been on hold for a little bit. Not because I don't want to, but because my DH is so afraid he's going to do something to hurt me. I've tried to tell him that I have meds for pain, meds for the breathing, etc. and that it will be okay, but until someone else gets thru to him, well...... Perhaps you guys could explore a diff bed? A lot of folks have had success (myself included) sleeping on a memory foam topper. This might make the pain bearable. And you know what? If you have to, afterwards, take a pain med! Especially if you know you'll have some pain....lol.... I can't answer why folks leave. Everyone is different. If we are all flaring at the same time (which it seems we must be because of weather issues), then stuff gets said, feelings get hurt and it snowballs. Don't take it personally - that's what it says in the stuff at the beginning. I try not to add anything to anyone's conversation unless it is positive because we live in such a negative society with our disease. It's not always easy, but if I can find a silver lining, I will hunt it out. It certainly makes it easier than me moping around all day saying " poor pitiful me " , although I do have those private moments, like everyone else! And the beauty of this list is if I AM having one of those days, I CAN post and say I am and there will be an outpouring of care and affection from around the world. Because we get it. We understand it. We're not all at the same place with this wretched disease and many of us suffer from other chronic health issues that exacerbate our fibro. But we still " get it " ..... (((Gentle hugs))) Darlene (in Georgia) > > I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We both have a lot of > pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much the next day. > > Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but oh the pain > > Why does every few weeks the group losses people? we all have stress > STOP the fighting we all are here for the same reasons. We all need > support. > > Hug's Debbe > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Yes I did last time. and have since my hysterectomy. But in my situation I would not want to with the hubby I have now. Maybe you could pleasure each other in a different way? Just a thought. Hugs, Nd wrote: Shoot Debbe, I'm the older woman(lol) and we are in the same Love Boat you are.. were's all the fun we were supposed to have as we got older.... Diane --- nobrokenwing1970 wrote: > I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We > both have a lot of > pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much > the next day. > > Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but > oh the pain > > Why does every few weeks the group losses people? we > all have stress > STOP the fighting we all are here for the same > reasons. We all need > support. > > Hug's Debbe > > > > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences > with everyone on the list as to what treatments do > and don't work for us, pls always check with your > dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along > with other meds as well as to certain health > conditions or just dangerous in general. > > 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't > matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for > help. It is the first step to trying to make that > situation better. > > 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: > Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe > > 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member > to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to > flares and b/c of that potentially take something > another member says the wrong way. And that > includes the things that one member may find funny > (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though > we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro > or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. > > 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you > are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can > do our best to offer our support. > > Have a nice day everyone. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Yes, it is an issue. For me, having IBS and chronic fatigue make me not want to have sex. My DH has pain as well with arthritis, so there have been times when I've wanted to, but he can't or is too tired from work. Seems like our libidos and physical symptoms have a hard time being in sync with one another. I wish you better times with your DH. Jeanne in WI I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We both have a lot of pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much the next day. Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but oh the pain Hugg's Debbe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 I did get a boost to my libido around age 42 which was wierd because it coincided with my depression. But I figured I was reaching my sexual peak finally. LOL! Wish I could say it lasted. Jeanne in WI Shoot Debbe, I'm the older woman(lol) and we are in the same Love Boat you are.. were's all the fun we were supposed to have as we got older.... Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Same here!! I am also the older woman.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Same here, 37 and married only 4years and I would love to be able to do it more but the pain stops me as well. Hubby is great and still tells me " Bit your still here with me " which does not help a bit when Im frustrated! in Mich. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Hi, My DH and I have not had sex in 3 years but we enjoy every minute we have together. There are time we lay and just counts our pleasings when my body will let us cuddle. We were very active sexually when we were togther 32 years ago, then we seperated married others, and found each other again in 2002, we married in 2003. And count everyday we have together. Yes there are nights I will lay and wish for the times again. Although until then we just lay and cuddle and talk, many couple wish they have that. ( we call it our special oral sex) there is our secret to a Happy Marriage. Hope this helps someone. fibro Hugs, Jeanne and Dave wrote: Yes, it is an issue. For me, having IBS and chronic fatigue make me not want to have sex. My DH has pain as well with arthritis, so there have been times when I've wanted to, but he can't or is too tired from work. Seems like our libidos and physical symptoms have a hard time being in sync with one another. I wish you better times with your DH. Jeanne in WI I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We both have a lot of pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much the next day. Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but oh the pain Hugg's Debbe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2008 Report Share Posted February 24, 2008 It is nice to hear that my husband and I aren't the only ones. We do need to count our blessings that our spouses understand. Nan/MI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2008 Report Share Posted February 24, 2008 Mine divorced me for it and is still looking for miss perfect ml_beebe wrote: Same here, 37 and married only 4years and I would love to be able to do it more but the pain stops me as well. Hubby is great and still tells me " Bit your still here with me " which does not help a bit when Im frustrated! in Mich. > Just Being Me --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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