Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 I just want to cry today, I haven't felt this bad in three years! I feel like it is such an effort just to breathe today. I hurt so bad and I just want to cry I am so frustrated! I have three girls to take care of. They are 11, 9, and 6. I don't think that they really understand what is wrong with me and I feel like a terrible mother on days like this because they have to pretty much fend for themselves. I feel awful and just need a good cry but I think it will take too much effort and energy. I hope everyone is feeling ok today. Gentle Hugs, Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Good advice, all of it. I especially liked the idea of putting in a movie, crawling up on the sofa with the kids and snuggling together (as much as you can) and watching the movie together. It's just another form of good mothering. Nothing wrong with that! Kids and parents all need days like that. They will love the closeness and you won't feel like you are letting them down. ~Jennie **************Ideas to please picky eaters. Watch video on AOL Living. (http://living.aol.com/video/how-to-please-your-picky-eater/rachel-campos-duffy/ 2050827?NCID=aolcmp00300000002598) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Hi Vicki, I'm so sorry you are having such a rough day. I've had those and thank goodness I'm not having one today so I can be there for you. It's the good thing about a support group. When some of us are down, the others may be up. Please don't feel like a bad mother. Those three great children love their mother and don't want her to feel bad. They are old enough for you to just be honest with them and tell them that mommy is haveing a bad day and that you need to rely on them today. Someone wrote on here that when their kids were young while they had this beast, they would put in a Disney movie and all of them would watch together. Maybe you could lie on the sofa and let them be around you - I know you probably don't want to be touched, but you can explain that too. Then these will be good memories. Even if you have to go in your room and close the door and cry or just be sad, that's OK too. We've all been there and the kids adjust. Just tell them you may need them to take care of some things for you right now. There's nothing wrong with them havnig some things to do to help you out. They could bring you something or whatever. Help them be a part of making you feel better - if it's only by leaving you alone. I hope tomorrow is better. Marti vickig77 wrote: I just want to cry today, I haven't felt this bad in three years! I feel like it is such an effort just to breathe today. I hurt so bad and I just want to cry I am so frustrated! I have three girls to take care of. They are 11, 9, and 6. I don't think that they really understand what is wrong with me and I feel like a terrible mother on days like this because they have to pretty much fend for themselves. I feel awful and just need a good cry but I think it will take too much effort and energy. I hope everyone is feeling ok today. Gentle Hugs, Vicki --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Try and hang in there, Vicki. It will pass. Jeanne in WI I just want to cry today, I haven't felt this bad in three years! I feel like it is such an effort just to breathe today. I hurt so bad and I just want to cry I am so frustrated! I have three girls to take care of. They are 11, 9, and 6. I don't think that they really understand what is wrong with me and I feel like a terrible mother on days like this because they have to pretty much fend for themselves. I feel awful and just need a good cry but I think it will take too much effort and energy. I hope everyone is feeling ok today. Gentle Hugs, Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Thank you for all the kind words and advice to those that responded. I do believe that someday they will understand better what I am going through. The idea about the movie is great! I hope everyone has a good and restful night. Gentle hugs my Fibro friends, Vicki *** " It is said that God never gives us more than we can handle. If that is true then God sure must have a much higher opinion of me than I do! " ***Always stay true to yourself, never change who you really are for anyone! If they truly loved you, they wouldn & #39;t want you to change! --------------------------------- Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Vicki that is heartbreaking. But you are not a bad mother. You are ill. I find myself beating myself up alot because I cannot take care of my children by myself or do even half of what I feel a mother should. d/h takes care of them mostly. I so hope you are feeling some better soon. I know the feeling of just not hardly being able to move from exhaustion and pain. I only have two children ages 5 and 10. I know it is very hard with 3 of them. (of course we don't love them any less and would not give them up for anything in the world). I regret that my children have to grow up watching me do not much of anything but laying around the house when I am not working. But that is the way life dealt the cards. They do know I love them with all my heart and I am sure yours know you do. love and hugs, Debra V. vickig77 wrote: I just want to cry today, I haven't felt this bad in three years! I feel like it is such an effort just to breathe today. I hurt so bad and I just want to cry I am so frustrated! I have three girls to take care of. They are 11, 9, and 6. I don't think that they really understand what is wrong with me and I feel like a terrible mother on days like this because they have to pretty much fend for themselves. I feel awful and just need a good cry but I think it will take too much effort and energy. I hope everyone is feeling ok today. Gentle Hugs, Vicki --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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