Re: Sex and affection/Cheryl

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Cheryl,

Then he was a self-conceited jerk, not a man. While DH and I are on

a " sabbatical " ....(my words), I finally realized that I have a man

that loves me for more than " that " .....do I miss it? Yup. But we'll

get back to it once we figure out the best way that won't cause me

undue pain or precipitate an asthma attack. We are actually going

thru counseling with our pastor to get back to that place, if that

makes sense. Real men DON'T think with their privates because

sometimes, those stop working......due to diabetes, ED, prostrate

issues, that kind of thing. Do we women bail? Nope.

(((Hugs))))

Darlene

Same here, 37 and married

only 4years and I would love to be able to

> do it more but the pain stops me as well. Hubby is great and still

> tells me " Bit your still here with me " which does not help a bit

when

> Im frustrated! in Mich.

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funny thing though,he does help me,right now I am basically homeless,due to not

being able to work.When I first got back with him,he promised the moon to me,but

he is still looking for miss perfect,and he does it right in front of me.It

hurts so bad. And all he does is yell at me, there is no communication,no

talking like we use to .He blames for whatever goes wrong.And alot of these

ladies,end up asking for money so they can come back to the US. They are

scammers. And he always finds the ones with prefect you know whats,and legs to

die for.And he promised to care for me,and to love me,but his actions are not

what he said.Well,we ran into a couple who drive truck to same company my ex

drives for,well they have a house that I can stay at,kind of housesit,while I

fight for my SSI.It's in n,OH.So this weekend he is taking me there.He also

promise that once I get my SSI,than he will come back to me and we can start all

ove again,but,I am thinking that it would only be

because i will get a very large amount at first.Close to 70,000 dollars,and I

have been looking to buy a house in Warren,Pa.Mostly the houses are kind of

fixer upppers,but that is alright.But,I am afraid that he will try to take

control over what I do with it,and he won't be coming back because he loves me.

Sometimes I think he is a PIG!!!!Well,sorry for venting like this. I just don't

have anyone to really talk to.Thanks and God Bless. Cheryl

ddean228 wrote: Cheryl,

Then he was a self-conceited jerk, not a man. While DH and I are on

a " sabbatical " ....(my words), I finally realized that I have a man

that loves me for more than " that " .....do I miss it? Yup. But we'll

get back to it once we figure out the best way that won't cause me

undue pain or precipitate an asthma attack. We are actually going

thru counseling with our pastor to get back to that place, if that

makes sense. Real men DON'T think with their privates because

sometimes, those stop working......due to diabetes, ED, prostrate

issues, that kind of thing. Do we women bail? Nope.

(((Hugs))))

Darlene

Same here, 37 and married

only 4years and I would love to be able to

> do it more but the pain stops me as well. Hubby is great and still

> tells me " Bit your still here with me " which does not help a bit

when

> Im frustrated! in Mich.

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Just Being Me

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I have read this topic.

1st of all with fibro our central nervous system is broken. So

therefore the blood flow to our other body parts get a shortage of

blood flow to get us excited or thinking (fog). Once you get your

nerves calm things flow freely. As for the pain the next day after

sex..some have it with in min. we have whats called delay pain

reaction. That is due to the contractions we have be it male or

female. Plus we use all and I mean all our muscles while we enjoy sex.

So there is flare! If you can relax and have your partner help you

relax that helps a lot. The days that you save up some energy save it

for your partner and yourself.

If you have just half energy have fun just touching. I take IB PROFEN

before I do anything that would inflame my muscles. The ssri's block

the feeling of wanting sex (male or female) I am off those and have my

sex drive back and feels wonderful! I am on a med for my central

nervous system. I have learned when and how I can or my partner can

with me. You need to give and get sex or affection Every living thing

has that need.

Like I said the " touch of the love " one has a huge amount of healing

inside and out being you in pain or your partner/child who needs

affection. Just stroking the hair on a persons head feels wonderful

even if it's 1 min. of our or their time. It is healing to the core!

As for as the person that has a partner that will come and get her

back once her soc-sec comes in..sweetie, wake up! do you know that

being around people that give us perpetrating factors make us more

ill? you need positive people around you and if they have a bad day ok

go lay down or let them know your getting upset and that will make me

flare up. (block blood flow) and wham there I go no good for the two

or family to have that. Be careful with who you are around and let in

while your down and out. Gosh I hope this has some help to you..I had

to learn this the hard way and it works for anyone I am around. Even a

wink to your love one and say I love you or miss you has affection if

you can not even move!! " I have been there too "

Another thing I learned the hard way but it helps a lot! is do not

have expectations on people!!!! never expect others to fulfill your

happyness, you only put a big burden on them and you get a let down

(hurt feelings) there come a flare and all kinds of nerves flowing but

ones that are bad not life giving. Thank you for your time to read

this. best of life to you and yours!

Same here, 37 and married

> only 4years and I would love to be able to

> > do it more but the pain stops me as well. Hubby is great and still

> > tells me " Bit your still here with me " which does not help a bit

> when

> > Im frustrated! in Mich.

> > >

> >

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> >

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> > Just Being Me

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>I have read this topic and to Cheryl

>--1st of all with fibro our central nervous system is broken. So

therefore the blood flow to our other body parts get a shortage of

blood flow to get us excited or thinking (fog). Once you get your

nerves calm things flow freely. As for the pain the next day after

sex..some have it with in min. we have whats called delay pain

reaction. That is due to the contractions we have be it male or

female. Plus we use all and I mean all our muscles while we enjoy sex.

So there is flare! If you can relax and have your partner help you

relax that helps a lot. The days that you save up some energy save it

for your partner and yourself.

If you have just half energy have fun just touching. I take IB PROFEN

before I do anything that would inflame my muscles. The ssri's block

the feeling of wanting sex (male or female) I am off those and have my

sex drive back and feels wonderful! I am on a med for my central

nervous system. I have learned when and how I can or my partner can

with me. You need to give and get sex or affection Every living thing

has that need.

>Like I said the " touch of the love " one has a huge amount of healing

inside and out being you in pain or your partner/child who needs

affection. Just stroking the hair on a persons head feels wonderful

even if it's 1 min. of our or their time. It is healing to the core!

> As for as the person that has a partner that will come and get her

back once her soc-sec comes in Cheryl sweetie, wake up! do you know

that being around people that give us perpetrating factors make us

more ill? you need positive people around you and if they have a bad

day ok go lay down or let them know your getting upset and that will

make me flare up. (block blood flow) and wham there I go no good for

the two or family to have that. Be careful with who you are around and

let in while your down and out. Gosh I hope this has some help to

you..I had to learn this the hard way and it works for anyone I am

around. Even a wink to your love one and say I love you or miss you

has affection if you can not even move!! " I have been there too "

> Another thing I learned the hard way but it helps a lot! is do not

have expectations on people!!!! never expect others to fulfill your

happyness, you only put a big burden on them and you get a let down

(hurt feelings) there come a flare and all kinds of nerves flowing but

ones that are bad not life giving. Thank you for your time to read

this. best of life to you and yours!

>

Same here, 37 and married

> only 4years and I would love to be able to

> > do it more but the pain stops me as well. Hubby is great and still

> > tells me " Bit your still here with me " which does not help a bit

> when

> > Im frustrated! in Mich.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Just Being Me

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo!

> Search.

> >

> >