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sorry I have read my mail how to reply .I do not see them..I did put

the > in the subject of the poster forgive me while I work this

through my head

I have read this topic.

1st of all with fibro our central nervous system is broken. So

therefore the blood flow to our other body parts get a shortage of

blood flow to get us excited or thinking (fog). Once you get your

nerves calm things flow freely. As for the pain the next day after

sex..some have it with in min. we have whats called delay pain

reaction. That is due to the contractions we have be it male or

female. Plus we use all and I mean all our muscles while we enjoy sex.

So there is flare! If you can relax and have your partner help you

relax that helps a lot. The days that you save up some energy save it

for your partner and yourself.

If you have just half energy have fun just touching. I take IB PROFEN

before I do anything that would inflame my muscles. The ssri's block

the feeling of wanting sex (male or female) I am off those and have my

sex drive back and feels wonderful! I am on a med for my central

nervous system. I have learned when and how I can or my partner can

with me. You need to give and get sex or affection Every living thing

has that need.

Like I said the " touch of the love " one has a huge amount of healing

inside and out being you in pain or your partner/child who needs

affection. Just stroking the hair on a persons head feels wonderful

even if it's 1 min. of our or their time. It is healing to the core!

As for as the person that has a partner that will come and get her

back once her soc-sec comes in..sweetie, wake up! do you know that

being around people that give us perpetrating factors make us more

ill? you need positive people around you and if they have a bad day ok

go lay down or let them know your getting upset and that will make me

flare up. (block blood flow) and wham there I go no good for the two

or family to have that. Be careful with who you are around and let in

while your down and out. Gosh I hope this has some help to you..I had

to learn this the hard way and it works for anyone I am around. Even a

wink to your love one and say I love you or miss you has affection if

you can not even move!! " I have been there too "

Another thing I learned the hard way but it helps a lot! is do not

have expectations on people!!!! never expect others to fulfill your

happyness, you only put a big burden on them and you get a let down

(hurt feelings) there come a flare and all kinds of nerves flowing but

ones that are bad not life giving. Thank you for your time to read

this. best of life to you and yours!

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This has been really helpful. This makes so much sense in my life. My husband

seems to have gotten very angry with the fact that I have some Illnesses and do

not function exactly the way I did at 28. Now 36 and have Graves, and Fibro.

He has done strange mean things hurting me physically....scolding me in the

shower turning up the water while showing together....then saying it was an

accident he didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the car giving me whip

lash while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min while I sit there in pain and

angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed, leavnig a bruise, and saying it was an

accident. Things like this are scary to me....not sure what to think. He also

got upset because I wasn't giving him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and

told me that when I am six feet under I can sleep all I want. This was after

repeatedly waking me early even on the weekends, by being noisy or letting the

dogs bark. I was so

taken back by this that I was actually scared. Should I be seeing a sign that

says EXIT!!!!

Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still learning to reply to post

forgive me

sorry I have read my mail how to reply .I do not see them..I did put

the > in the subject of the poster forgive me while I work this

through my head

I have read this topic.

1st of all with fibro our central nervous system is broken. So

therefore the blood flow to our other body parts get a shortage of

blood flow to get us excited or thinking (fog). Once you get your

nerves calm things flow freely. As for the pain the next day after

sex..some have it with in min. we have whats called delay pain

reaction. That is due to the contractions we have be it male or

female. Plus we use all and I mean all our muscles while we enjoy sex.

So there is flare! If you can relax and have your partner help you

relax that helps a lot. The days that you save up some energy save it

for your partner and yourself.

If you have just half energy have fun just touching. I take IB PROFEN

before I do anything that would inflame my muscles. The ssri's block

the feeling of wanting sex (male or female) I am off those and have my

sex drive back and feels wonderful! I am on a med for my central

nervous system. I have learned when and how I can or my partner can

with me. You need to give and get sex or affection Every living thing

has that need.

Like I said the " touch of the love " one has a huge amount of healing

inside and out being you in pain or your partner/child who needs

affection. Just stroking the hair on a persons head feels wonderful

even if it's 1 min. of our or their time. It is healing to the core!

As for as the person that has a partner that will come and get her

back once her soc-sec comes in..sweetie, wake up! do you know that

being around people that give us perpetrating factors make us more

ill? you need positive people around you and if they have a bad day ok

go lay down or let them know your getting upset and that will make me

flare up. (block blood flow) and wham there I go no good for the two

or family to have that. Be careful with who you are around and let in

while your down and out. Gosh I hope this has some help to you..I had

to learn this the hard way and it works for anyone I am around. Even a

wink to your love one and say I love you or miss you has affection if

you can not even move!! " I have been there too "

Another thing I learned the hard way but it helps a lot! is do not

have expectations on people!!!! never expect others to fulfill your

happyness, you only put a big burden on them and you get a let down

(hurt feelings) there come a flare and all kinds of nerves flowing but

ones that are bad not life giving. Thank you for your time to read

this. best of life to you and yours!

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I would exit,but at this moment in time i cant,but I will in few days.He already

is making plans to bring someone here from another country,and lieing right my

face over it.Because I saw what he said,and told her that he needed a woman,he

was lonely.huh,go figure,I am not even out the truck yet,he is such,a lying pig.

But you should get away from that one your with. He may really do something

really bad to you,because he is always angry,like this one is. Be careful,i will

keep you in my prayers. Cheryl

Celeste Baker wrote: This has been really

helpful. This makes so much sense in my life. My husband seems to have gotten

very angry with the fact that I have some Illnesses and do not function exactly

the way I did at 28. Now 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done strange mean

things hurting me physically....scolding me in the shower turning up the water

while showing together....then saying it was an accident he didnt' mean it.

Slamming the breaks on in the car giving me whip lash while I am sleeping, then

laughing for 10 min while I sit there in pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye

in bed, leavnig a bruise, and saying it was an accident. Things like this are

scary to me....not sure what to think. He also got upset because I wasn't giving

him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and told me that when I am six feet

under I can sleep all I want. This was after repeatedly waking me early even on

the weekends, by being noisy or letting

the dogs bark. I was so

taken back by this that I was actually scared. Should I be seeing a sign that

says EXIT!!!!

Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still learning to reply to post

forgive me

sorry I have read my mail how to reply .I do not see them..I did put

the > in the subject of the poster forgive me while I work this

through my head

I have read this topic.

1st of all with fibro our central nervous system is broken. So

therefore the blood flow to our other body parts get a shortage of

blood flow to get us excited or thinking (fog). Once you get your

nerves calm things flow freely. As for the pain the next day after

sex..some have it with in min. we have whats called delay pain

reaction. That is due to the contractions we have be it male or

female. Plus we use all and I mean all our muscles while we enjoy sex.

So there is flare! If you can relax and have your partner help you

relax that helps a lot. The days that you save up some energy save it

for your partner and yourself.

If you have just half energy have fun just touching. I take IB PROFEN

before I do anything that would inflame my muscles. The ssri's block

the feeling of wanting sex (male or female) I am off those and have my

sex drive back and feels wonderful! I am on a med for my central

nervous system. I have learned when and how I can or my partner can

with me. You need to give and get sex or affection Every living thing

has that need.

Like I said the " touch of the love " one has a huge amount of healing

inside and out being you in pain or your partner/child who needs

affection. Just stroking the hair on a persons head feels wonderful

even if it's 1 min. of our or their time. It is healing to the core!

As for as the person that has a partner that will come and get her

back once her soc-sec comes in..sweetie, wake up! do you know that

being around people that give us perpetrating factors make us more

ill? you need positive people around you and if they have a bad day ok

go lay down or let them know your getting upset and that will make me

flare up. (block blood flow) and wham there I go no good for the two

or family to have that. Be careful with who you are around and let in

while your down and out. Gosh I hope this has some help to you..I had

to learn this the hard way and it works for anyone I am around. Even a

wink to your love one and say I love you or miss you has affection if

you can not even move!! " I have been there too "

Another thing I learned the hard way but it helps a lot! is do not

have expectations on people!!!! never expect others to fulfill your

happyness, you only put a big burden on them and you get a let down

(hurt feelings) there come a flare and all kinds of nerves flowing but

ones that are bad not life giving. Thank you for your time to read

this. best of life to you and yours!

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>

> This has been really helpful. This makes so much sense in my

life. My husband seems to have gotten very angry with the fact that

I have some Illnesses and do not function exactly the way I did at

28. Now 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done strange mean

things hurting me physically....scolding me in the shower turning up

the water while showing together....then saying it was an accident

he didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the car giving me whip

lash while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min while I sit there

in pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed, leavnig a bruise,

and saying it was an accident. Things like this are scary to

me....not sure what to think. He also got upset because I wasn't

giving him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and told me that

when I am six feet under I can sleep all I want. This was after

repeatedly waking me early even on the weekends, by being noisy or

letting the dogs bark. I was so

> taken back by this that I was actually scared. Should I be

seeing a sign that says EXIT!!!!

Hi, Celeste,

I cannot blame you one bit for being frightened. You have every

right to be scared by your husband's behavior. I am no expert, but

it sounds like he is quite unbalanced, a good bit sadistic, and has

a sick sense of humor.

If I were you (and I have been in an abusive relationship!), I would

definitely be looking for the nearest EXIT sign. My ex did some

things to me that left me just stunned, thinking " Did he really just

do that? " Irrational, hurtful behavior like that tends to just

escalate and get worse, so please be careful.

[Guest guest]

Celeste,

You need to get away from him as soon as possible. The thing he is doing and

saying are abusive and sounds like they are escilating. Contact your womens

resourse center for assistance. The disabled are amongest the most vulnerable

for abuse. When he get someone else joining in to help make you feel more

inferior the more it will escilate and the physical abuse will occur without

" reasons " or excuses. You will start to believe that you deserve the abuse. I

would hate to find that you died because you were taking pain meds and fell down

the stairs or

fell asleep " in the tub.

JudyMer

---- Celeste Baker wrote:

> This has been really helpful. This makes so much sense in my life. My

husband seems to have gotten very angry with the fact that I have some Illnesses

and do not function exactly the way I did at 28. Now 36 and have Graves, and

Fibro. He has done strange mean things hurting me physically....scolding me in

the shower turning up the water while showing together....then saying it was an

accident he didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the car giving me whip

lash while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min while I sit there in pain and

angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed, leavnig a bruise, and saying it was an

accident. Things like this are scary to me....not sure what to think. He also

got upset because I wasn't giving him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and

told me that when I am six feet under I can sleep all I want. This was after

repeatedly waking me early even on the weekends, by being noisy or letting the

dogs bark. I was so

> taken back by this that I was actually scared. Should I be seeing a sign

that says EXIT!!!!

>

> Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still learning to reply to post

forgive me

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> sorry I have read my mail how to reply .I do not see them..I did

put

>

> the > in the subject of the poster forgive me while I work this

>

> through my head

>

> I have read this topic.

>

> 1st of all with fibro our central nervous system is broken. So

>

> therefore the blood flow to our other body parts get a shortage of

>

> blood flow to get us excited or thinking (fog). Once you get your

>

> nerves calm things flow freely. As for the pain the next day after

>

> sex..some have it with in min. we have whats called delay pain

>

> reaction. That is due to the contractions we have be it male or

>

> female. Plus we use all and I mean all our muscles while we enjoy sex.

>

> So there is flare! If you can relax and have your partner help you

>

> relax that helps a lot. The days that you save up some energy save it

>

> for your partner and yourself.

>

> If you have just half energy have fun just touching. I take IB PROFEN

>

> before I do anything that would inflame my muscles. The ssri's block

>

> the feeling of wanting sex (male or female) I am off those and have my

>

> sex drive back and feels wonderful! I am on a med for my central

>

> nervous system. I have learned when and how I can or my partner can

>

> with me. You need to give and get sex or affection Every living thing

>

> has that need.

>

> Like I said the " touch of the love " one has a huge amount of healing

>

> inside and out being you in pain or your partner/child who needs

>

> affection. Just stroking the hair on a persons head feels wonderful

>

> even if it's 1 min. of our or their time. It is healing to the core!

>

> As for as the person that has a partner that will come and get her

>

> back once her soc-sec comes in..sweetie, wake up! do you know that

>

> being around people that give us perpetrating factors make us more

>

> ill? you need positive people around you and if they have a bad day ok

>

> go lay down or let them know your getting upset and that will make me

>

> flare up. (block blood flow) and wham there I go no good for the two

>

> or family to have that. Be careful with who you are around and let in

>

> while your down and out. Gosh I hope this has some help to you..I had

>

> to learn this the hard way and it works for anyone I am around. Even a

>

> wink to your love one and say I love you or miss you has affection if

>

> you can not even move!! " I have been there too "

>

>

>

> Another thing I learned the hard way but it helps a lot! is do not

>

> have expectations on people!!!! never expect others to fulfill your

>

> happyness, you only put a big burden on them and you get a let down

>

> (hurt feelings) there come a flare and all kinds of nerves flowing but

>

> ones that are bad not life giving. Thank you for your time to read

>

> this. best of life to you and yours!

>

>

>

>

>

>

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You hit the nail on the head Judy. It is scary just

re-reading Celeste's mail. Celeste there are men out

there that will understand the effects of illnesses.

This guy is hurting you and made your stress and pain

even more. I wonder how he would like some one

scalding him in the shower or giving him a " black eye

in his sleep " . I would make sure you tell someone

quick.

Diane

--- loveit1@... wrote:

> Celeste,

> You need to get away from him as soon as possible.

> The thing he is doing and saying are abusive and

> sounds like they are escilating. Contact your womens

> resourse center for assistance. The disabled are

> amongest the most vulnerable for abuse. When he get

> someone else joining in to help make you feel more

> inferior the more it will escilate and the physical

> abuse will occur without " reasons " or excuses. You

> will start to believe that you deserve the abuse. I

> would hate to find that you died because you were

> taking pain meds and fell down the stairs or

> fell asleep " in the tub.

> JudyMer

> ---- Celeste Baker wrote:

> > This has been really helpful. This makes so much

> sense in my life. My husband seems to have gotten

> very angry with the fact that I have some Illnesses

> and do not function exactly the way I did at 28.

> Now 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done

> strange mean things hurting me

> physically....scolding me in the shower turning up

> the water while showing together....then saying it

> was an accident he didnt' mean it. Slamming the

> breaks on in the car giving me whip lash while I am

> sleeping, then laughing for 10 min while I sit there

> in pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed,

> leavnig a bruise, and saying it was an accident.

> Things like this are scary to me....not sure what to

> think. He also got upset because I wasn't giving

> him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and told me

> that when I am six feet under I can sleep all I

> want. This was after repeatedly waking me early

> even on the weekends, by being noisy or letting the

> dogs bark. I was so

> > taken back by this that I was actually scared.

> Should I be seeing a sign that says EXIT!!!!

> >

> > Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still

> learning to reply to post forgive me

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > sorry I have read my mail how to reply

> .I do not see them..I did put

> >

> > the > in the subject of the poster forgive me

> while I work this

> >

> > through my head

> >

> > I have read this topic.

> >

> > 1st of all with fibro our central nervous system

> is broken. So

> >

> > therefore the blood flow to our other body parts

> get a shortage of

> >

> > blood flow to get us excited or thinking (fog).

> Once you get your

> >

> > nerves calm things flow freely. As for the pain

> the next day after

> >

> > sex..some have it with in min. we have whats

> called delay pain

> >

> > reaction. That is due to the contractions we have

> be it male or

> >

> > female. Plus we use all and I mean all our muscles

> while we enjoy sex.

> >

> > So there is flare! If you can relax and have your

> partner help you

> >

> > relax that helps a lot. The days that you save up

> some energy save it

> >

> > for your partner and yourself.

> >

> > If you have just half energy have fun just

> touching. I take IB PROFEN

> >

> > before I do anything that would inflame my

> muscles. The ssri's block

> >

> > the feeling of wanting sex (male or female) I am

> off those and have my

> >

> > sex drive back and feels wonderful! I am on a med

> for my central

> >

> > nervous system. I have learned when and how I can

> or my partner can

> >

> > with me. You need to give and get sex or affection

> Every living thing

> >

> > has that need.

> >

> > Like I said the " touch of the love " one has a

> huge amount of healing

> >

> > inside and out being you in pain or your

> partner/child who needs

> >

> > affection. Just stroking the hair on a persons

> head feels wonderful

> >

> > even if it's 1 min. of our or their time. It is

> healing to the core!

> >

> > As for as the person that has a partner that

> will come and get her

> >

> > back once her soc-sec comes in..sweetie, wake up!

> do you know that

> >

> > being around people that give us perpetrating

> factors make us more

> >

> > ill? you need positive people around you and if

> they have a bad day ok

> >

> > go lay down or let them know your getting upset

> and that will make me

> >

> > flare up. (block blood flow) and wham there I go

> no good for the two

> >

> > or family to have that. Be careful with who you

> are around and let in

> >

> > while your down and out. Gosh I hope this has some

> help to you..I had

> >

> > to learn this the hard way and it works for anyone

> I am around. Even a

> >

> > wink to your love one and say I love you or miss

> you has affection if

> >

> > you can not even move!! " I have been there too "

> >

> >

> >

> > Another thing I learned the hard way but it helps

> a lot! is do not

> >

> > have expectations on people!!!! never expect

> others to fulfill your

> >

> > happyness, you only put a big burden on them and

> you get a let down

> >

> > (hurt feelings) there come a flare and all kinds

> of nerves flowing but

> >

> > ones that are bad not life giving. Thank you for

> your time to read

> >

> > this. best of life to you and yours!

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>

> Celeste,

> You need to get away from him as soon as possible. The thing he is

doing and saying are abusive and sounds like they are escilating.

Contact your womens resourse center for assistance. The disabled are

amongest the most vulnerable for abuse. When he get someone else

joining in to help make you feel more inferior the more it will

escilate and the physical abuse will occur without " reasons " or

excuses. You will start to believe that you deserve the abuse. I

would hate to find that you died because you were taking pain meds

and fell down the stairs or

> fell asleep " in the tub.

> JudyMer

Celeste, I have to agree with Judy! You are being abused both

physically and mentally. I would find a way to document some of the

things that he is saying! And, for Goodness sake, call the nearest

women's support group!!! Check the phone book and make the phone

call ASAP!!! And I also hope he has made some of the remarks in

front of others so you might have witnesses, or if he has done things

that have caused bruises, get pictures!!! This is an extremely

abusive situation and one that you need to get out of ASAP!!!!

And remember, you have this group to lend you support by sharing with

you. And everyone here, I am pretty sure would agree with me that

you need OUT OF THERE!!!

Hugs and may God bless and protect you!

>

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let your doctor know, and if you have a minister or

chaplin they sometimes know who to call also.

Diane

--- wrote:

>

> >

> > Celeste,

> > You need to get away from him as soon as possible.

> The thing he is

> doing and saying are abusive and sounds like they

> are escilating.

> Contact your womens resourse center for assistance.

> The disabled are

> amongest the most vulnerable for abuse. When he get

> someone else

> joining in to help make you feel more inferior the

> more it will

> escilate and the physical abuse will occur without

> " reasons " or

> excuses. You will start to believe that you deserve

> the abuse. I

> would hate to find that you died because you were

> taking pain meds

> and fell down the stairs or

> > fell asleep " in the tub.

> > JudyMer

>

> Celeste, I have to agree with Judy! You are being

> abused both

> physically and mentally. I would find a way to

> document some of the

> things that he is saying! And, for Goodness sake,

> call the nearest

> women's support group!!! Check the phone book and

> make the phone

> call ASAP!!! And I also hope he has made some of

> the remarks in

> front of others so you might have witnesses, or if

> he has done things

> that have caused bruises, get pictures!!! This is

> an extremely

> abusive situation and one that you need to get out

> of ASAP!!!!

> And remember, you have this group to lend you

> support by sharing with

> you. And everyone here, I am pretty sure would

> agree with me that

> you need OUT OF THERE!!!

> Hugs and may God bless and protect you!

> >

>

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>

> 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences

> with everyone on the list as to what treatments do

> and don't work for us, pls always check with your

> dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along

> with other meds as well as to certain health

> conditions or just dangerous in general.

>

> 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't

> matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for

> help. It is the first step to trying to make that

> situation better.

>

> 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is:

>

Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe

>

> 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member

> to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to

> flares and b/c of that potentially take something

> another member says the wrong way. And that

> includes the things that one member may find funny

> (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though

> we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro

> or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor.

>

> 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you

> are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can

> do our best to offer our support.

>

> Have a nice day everyone.

>

>

[Guest guest]

nd moore,

thank you so much for responding, I need to hear these things. And you are

exactly right. I do think sometimes that I deserve something. Like because I

do not give him sex, and push him away. But I am so angry and resentful, I am

beyond myself. I have a 6 year old with this man, and i am scared to leave, as

I would not want my son to be visiting alone with him, as his older son is alot

the same way towards my younger son whom he is jealous of or whatever, and has

choked him, and sexually did things. Each time was in the care of my spouse,

after telling him they were not to be left unsupervised. I think that he is

angry that I took action on his son to protect mine....and it seems when the boy

is here the little digs, and hitting, and stuff happens. I am not sure why....I

think he may be angry.

Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still

> learning to reply to post forgive me

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > sorry I have read my mail how to reply

> .I do not see them..I did put

> >

> > the > in the subject of the poster forgive me

> while I work this

> >

> > through my head

> >

> > I have read this topic.

> >

> > 1st of all with fibro our central nervous system

> is broken. So

> >

> > therefore the blood flow to our other body parts

> get a shortage of

> >

> > blood flow to get us excited or thinking (fog).

> Once you get your

> >

> > nerves calm things flow freely. As for the pain

> the next day after

> >

> > sex..some have it with in min. we have whats

> called delay pain

> >

> > reaction. That is due to the contractions we have

> be it male or

> >

> > female. Plus we use all and I mean all our muscles

> while we enjoy sex.

> >

> > So there is flare! If you can relax and have your

> partner help you

> >

> > relax that helps a lot. The days that you save up

> some energy save it

> >

> > for your partner and yourself.

> >

> > If you have just half energy have fun just

> touching. I take IB PROFEN

> >

> > before I do anything that would inflame my

> muscles. The ssri's block

> >

> > the feeling of wanting sex (male or female) I am

> off those and have my

> >

> > sex drive back and feels wonderful! I am on a med

> for my central

> >

> > nervous system. I have learned when and how I can

> or my partner can

> >

> > with me. You need to give and get sex or affection

> Every living thing

> >

> > has that need.

> >

> > Like I said the " touch of the love " one has a

> huge amount of healing

> >

> > inside and out being you in pain or your

> partner/child who needs

> >

> > affection. Just stroking the hair on a persons

> head feels wonderful

> >

> > even if it's 1 min. of our or their time. It is

> healing to the core!

> >

> > As for as the person that has a partner that

> will come and get her

> >

> > back once her soc-sec comes in..sweetie, wake up!

> do you know that

> >

> > being around people that give us perpetrating

> factors make us more

> >

> > ill? you need positive people around you and if

> they have a bad day ok

> >

> > go lay down or let them know your getting upset

> and that will make me

> >

> > flare up. (block blood flow) and wham there I go

> no good for the two

> >

> > or family to have that. Be careful with who you

> are around and let in

> >

> > while your down and out. Gosh I hope this has some

> help to you..I had

> >

> > to learn this the hard way and it works for anyone

> I am around. Even a

> >

> > wink to your love one and say I love you or miss

> you has affection if

> >

> > you can not even move!! " I have been there too "

> >

> >

> >

> > Another thing I learned the hard way but it helps

> a lot! is do not

> >

> > have expectations on people!!!! never expect

> others to fulfill your

> >

> > happyness, you only put a big burden on them and

> you get a let down

> >

> > (hurt feelings) there come a flare and all kinds

> of nerves flowing but

> >

> > ones that are bad not life giving. Thank you for

> your time to read

> >

> > this. best of life to you and yours!

> >

> >

> >

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I am not sure who I am talking to, but thank you for sharing with me your

exsperience. I know I need to get out of this situation. After 8 years of

being married to this person....there is going to be so much conflict within the

family.

Re: Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still learning to reply to post

forgive me

>

> This has been really helpful. This makes so much sense in my

life. My husband seems to have gotten very angry with the fact that

I have some Illnesses and do not function exactly the way I did at

28. Now 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done strange mean

things hurting me physically.. ..scolding me in the shower turning up

the water while showing together.... then saying it was an accident

he didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the car giving me whip

lash while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min while I sit there

in pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed, leavnig a bruise,

and saying it was an accident. Things like this are scary to

me....not sure what to think. He also got upset because I wasn't

giving him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and told me that

when I am six feet under I can sleep all I want. This was after

repeatedly waking me early even on the weekends, by being noisy or

letting the dogs bark. I was so

> taken back by this that I was actually scared. Should I be

seeing a sign that says EXIT!!!!

Hi, Celeste,

I cannot blame you one bit for being frightened. You have every

right to be scared by your husband's behavior. I am no expert, but

it sounds like he is quite unbalanced, a good bit sadistic, and has

a sick sense of humor.

If I were you (and I have been in an abusive relationship! ), I would

definitely be looking for the nearest EXIT sign. My ex did some

things to me that left me just stunned, thinking " Did he really just

do that? " Irrational, hurtful behavior like that tends to just

escalate and get worse, so please be careful.

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Think about it like that, in the 8 years of being

married how much does the family really know.

I wonder just how family would react if they knew

what you are going through?

--- Celeste Baker wrote:

> I am not sure who I am talking to, but thank you for

> sharing with me your exsperience. I know I need to

> get out of this situation. After 8 years of being

> married to this person....there is going to be so

> much conflict within the family.

>

> Re: Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still

> learning to reply to post forgive me

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> >

>

> > This has been really helpful. This makes so much

> sense in my

>

> life. My husband seems to have gotten very angry

> with the fact that

>

> I have some Illnesses and do not function exactly

> the way I did at

>

> 28. Now 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done

> strange mean

>

> things hurting me physically.. ..scolding me in the

> shower turning up

>

> the water while showing together.... then saying it

> was an accident

>

> he didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the

> car giving me whip

>

> lash while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min

> while I sit there

>

> in pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed,

> leavnig a bruise,

>

> and saying it was an accident. Things like this are

> scary to

>

> me....not sure what to think. He also got upset

> because I wasn't

>

> giving him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and

> told me that

>

> when I am six feet under I can sleep all I want.

> This was after

>

> repeatedly waking me early even on the weekends, by

> being noisy or

>

> letting the dogs bark. I was so

>

> > taken back by this that I was actually scared.

> Should I be

>

> seeing a sign that says EXIT!!!!

>

>

>

> Hi, Celeste,

>

>

>

> I cannot blame you one bit for being frightened.

> You have every

>

> right to be scared by your husband's behavior. I am

> no expert, but

>

> it sounds like he is quite unbalanced, a good bit

> sadistic, and has

>

> a sick sense of humor.

>

>

>

> If I were you (and I have been in an abusive

> relationship! ), I would

>

> definitely be looking for the nearest EXIT sign. My

> ex did some

>

> things to me that left me just stunned, thinking

> " Did he really just

>

> do that? " Irrational, hurtful behavior like that

> tends to just

>

> escalate and get worse, so please be careful.

>

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>

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I have talked to my family. My mom seems to be the only one that really

understands. Everyone else is like well you will work through it. Maybe he

didn't mean to elbow you. or maybe this or that was an accident. I do have a

good friend that I have been talking to something that is an outsider, really

hasn't known the relationship but knows me from years ago. Talking and seeing

what there response is amazes me. So i am getting ready to file something with

the court i think. and I have a place to go, it is just the point of getting

there.

cbaker

Re: Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still

> learning to reply to post forgive me

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> >

>

> > This has been really helpful. This makes so much

> sense in my

>

> life. My husband seems to have gotten very angry

> with the fact that

>

> I have some Illnesses and do not function exactly

> the way I did at

>

> 28. Now 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done

> strange mean

>

> things hurting me physically.. ..scolding me in the

> shower turning up

>

> the water while showing together.... then saying it

> was an accident

>

> he didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the

> car giving me whip

>

> lash while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min

> while I sit there

>

> in pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed,

> leavnig a bruise,

>

> and saying it was an accident. Things like this are

> scary to

>

> me....not sure what to think. He also got upset

> because I wasn't

>

> giving him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and

> told me that

>

> when I am six feet under I can sleep all I want.

> This was after

>

> repeatedly waking me early even on the weekends, by

> being noisy or

>

> letting the dogs bark. I was so

>

> > taken back by this that I was actually scared.

> Should I be

>

> seeing a sign that says EXIT!!!!

>

>

>

> Hi, Celeste,

>

>

>

> I cannot blame you one bit for being frightened.

> You have every

>

> right to be scared by your husband's behavior. I am

> no expert, but

>

> it sounds like he is quite unbalanced, a good bit

> sadistic, and has

>

> a sick sense of humor.

>

>

>

> If I were you (and I have been in an abusive

> relationship! ), I would

>

> definitely be looking for the nearest EXIT sign. My

> ex did some

>

> things to me that left me just stunned, thinking

> " Did he really just

>

> do that? " Irrational, hurtful behavior like that

> tends to just

>

> escalate and get worse, so please be careful.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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In all honesty, who cares how the family will react? Some will take

her side, some will take his. That's usually how the ball bounces.

If he is as much of a jerk as it sounds, some of his family is no

doubt thinking she's a saint by now!

Darlene

-- In Fibromyalgia_Support_Group , Nd

wrote:

>

> Think about it like that, in the 8 years of being

> married how much does the family really know.

> I wonder just how family would react if they knew

> what you are going through?

>

> --- Celeste Baker wrote:

>

> > I am not sure who I am talking to, but thank you for

> > sharing with me your exsperience. I know I need to

> > get out of this situation. After 8 years of being

> > married to this person....there is going to be so

> > much conflict within the family.

> >

> > Re: Sex and affection/Cheryl ...still

> > learning to reply to post forgive me

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > >

> >

> > > This has been really helpful. This makes so much

> > sense in my

> >

> > life. My husband seems to have gotten very angry

> > with the fact that

> >

> > I have some Illnesses and do not function exactly

> > the way I did at

> >

> > 28. Now 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done

> > strange mean

> >

> > things hurting me physically.. ..scolding me in the

> > shower turning up

> >

> > the water while showing together.... then saying it

> > was an accident

> >

> > he didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the

> > car giving me whip

> >

> > lash while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min

> > while I sit there

> >

> > in pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed,

> > leavnig a bruise,

> >

> > and saying it was an accident. Things like this are

> > scary to

> >

> > me....not sure what to think. He also got upset

> > because I wasn't

> >

> > giving him enough attention. Once AM he sat up and

> > told me that

> >

> > when I am six feet under I can sleep all I want.

> > This was after

> >

> > repeatedly waking me early even on the weekends, by

> > being noisy or

> >

> > letting the dogs bark. I was so

> >

> > > taken back by this that I was actually scared.

> > Should I be

> >

> > seeing a sign that says EXIT!!!!

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi, Celeste,

> >

> >

> >

> > I cannot blame you one bit for being frightened.

> > You have every

> >

> > right to be scared by your husband's behavior. I am

> > no expert, but

> >

> > it sounds like he is quite unbalanced, a good bit

> > sadistic, and has

> >

> > a sick sense of humor.

> >

> >

> >

> > If I were you (and I have been in an abusive

> > relationship! ), I would

> >

> > definitely be looking for the nearest EXIT sign. My

> > ex did some

> >

> > things to me that left me just stunned, thinking

> > " Did he really just

> >

> > do that? " Irrational, hurtful behavior like that

> > tends to just

> >

> > escalate and get worse, so please be careful.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

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> I have talked to my family. My mom seems to be the only one that

> really understands. Everyone else is like well you will work

> through it. Maybe he didn't mean to elbow you. or maybe this or

> that was an accident. I do have a good friend that I have been

> talking to something that is an outsider, really hasn't known the

> relationship but knows me from years ago. Talking and seeing what

> there response is amazes me. So i am getting ready to file

> something with the court i think. and I have a place to go, it is

> just the point of getting there.

Celeste,

Please look after your own safety during this process, especially if

he's inclined to violence. Can you find a woman's group or shelter

or something, or talk to the police and get some resources that you

can plan out how to do this and stay safe?

My thoughts are with you.

Z