Re: Sex and affection/Sex, Uh what sex? I'm to tired, I'll take a rain check.

[Guest guest]

And the meds,well they don't help either especially the Lyrica!!!

Last time I couldn't even get all the way there due to pain so women

your not alone! . . . .................. . . . The man duh

>

> I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We both have a lot of

> pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much the next day.

>

> Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but oh the pain

>

> Why does every few weeks the group losses people? we all have stress

> STOP the fighting we all are here for the same reasons. We all need

> support.

>

> Hug's Debbe

>

[Guest guest]

I just started on Lyrica, and haven't even wanted to have sex. My husband and I

are not doing very well in the marriage to start with....then I have this and

just could care less to have sex all the time...and like you sometimes just

can't get there anyhow....and hurt so bad after trying that i hate to do it.

Re: Sex and affection/Sex, Uh what sex? I'm to tired, I'll take a

rain check.

And the meds,well they don't help either especially the Lyrica!!!

Last time I couldn't even get all the way there due to pain so women

your not alone! . . . ............ ...... . . . The man duh

>

> I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We both have a lot of

> pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much the next day.

>

> Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but oh the pain

>

> Why does every few weeks the group losses people? we all have stress

> STOP the fighting we all are here for the same reasons. We all need

> support.

>

> Hug's Debbe

>

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Celeste

I hate that u too have the " what sex " symptom of

Fibro.

Me too, and it is so hard to explain it to the spouse

or significate other . I have spoke with others and it

seems to be a real bad part of this saga of pain and

no enjoyment . no matter what.

Diane

Ga

--- Celeste Baker wrote:

> I just started on Lyrica, and haven't even wanted to

> have sex. My husband and I are not doing very well

> in the marriage to start with....then I have this

> and just could care less to have sex all the

> time...and like you sometimes just can't get there

> anyhow....and hurt so bad after trying that i hate

> to do it.

>

> Re: Sex and affection/Sex, Uh what

> sex? I'm to tired, I'll take a rain check.

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> And the meds,well they don't help either

> especially the Lyrica!!!

>

> Last time I couldn't even get all the way there due

> to pain so women

>

> your not alone! . . . ............ ...... . . .

> The man duh

>

>

>

>

>

> >

>

> > I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We

> both have a lot of

>

> > pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much

> the next day.

>

> >

>

> > Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but

> oh the pain

>

> >

>

> > Why does every few weeks the group losses people?

> we all have stress

>

> > STOP the fighting we all are here for the same

> reasons. We all need

>

> > support.

>

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[Guest guest]

I'm usually a lurker, but on this I have a solution on this that we use.

Remember, this is sex. Hand jobs/masturbation. I don't have to do much

work, he gets to lie back and be 'taken care of' and feels loved. Sometimes

I'll talk to him too while doing this. Keep in mind I've perfected this so

I'm lying down and I only have to use the one hand, so it is easier on the

body (mine). DH gone on a trip? Take advantage of it and talk sexy to him

on the phone and let him do it. Doesn't take much energy, you do have to

stay awake which I will admit I have fallen asleep, but he's started off and

can finish himself. I don't know why masturbation seems to be problems with

a lot of folks, but wow, if I didn't have that for him, I'd be dead in the

water. And if I'm flaring and so very tired, then it is .here is a

'magazine' and lube, I'm rolling over and going to sleep. Seriously. I've

been married for 24 yrs to my high school sweetheart. DH has work email and

personal email. A naughty email sent to him thru the day, and then he comes

home and I've done most of the work already, it is just my hand at that

point. Or I'll buy him a 'DVD' and let him watch it while I masturbate him

and he is happy. You have to be not jealous of magz and a bit or porn, and

remember you aren't like you were when you got married, it's a bummer, but

what can 'we' (couples) do to make sure everyone is happy and healthy.

I'm sorry if this is a little too blunt for some, but I know my DH and it is

important to him and he knows I can't/don't want to do full on sex almost

all the time. It hurts. I'm sore. What can we do to compromise?

And to be honest with you, I feel good when I do it because I know he is

happy and in my bed and he is happy.

Nettie

From: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

[mailto:Fibromyalgia_Support_Group ] On Behalf Of Nd

Sent: Tuesday, February 26, 2008 2:27 PM

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Subject: Re: Re: Sex and affection/Sex, Uh what sex? I'm to tired,

I'll take a rain check.

Celeste

I hate that u too have the " what sex " symptom of

Fibro.

Me too, and it is so hard to explain it to the spouse

or significate other . I have spoke with others and it

seems to be a real bad part of this saga of pain and

no enjoyment . no matter what.

Diane

Ga

--- Celeste Baker <bbakerceleste@...

<mailto:bbakerceleste%40yahoo.com> > wrote:

> I just started on Lyrica, and haven't even wanted to

> have sex. My husband and I are not doing very well

> in the marriage to start with....then I have this

> and just could care less to have sex all the

> time...and like you sometimes just can't get there

> anyhow....and hurt so bad after trying that i hate

> to do it.

>

> Re: Sex and affection/Sex, Uh what

> sex? I'm to tired, I'll take a rain check.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> And the meds,well they don't help either

> especially the Lyrica!!!

>

> Last time I couldn't even get all the way there due

> to pain so women

>

> your not alone! . . . ............ ...... . . .

> The man duh

>

>

>

>

>

> >

>

> > I am 37, female who is married to a older man, We

> both have a lot of

>

> > pain. I NEVER want sex as it makes me hurt so much

> the next day.

>

> >

>

> > Does anybody have the same issues? We want to but

> oh the pain

>

> >

>

> > Why does every few weeks the group losses people?

> we all have stress

>

> > STOP the fighting we all are here for the same

> reasons. We all need

>

> > support.

>

> >

>

> > Hug's Debbe

>

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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