Re: Sex and affection/Celeste

[Guest guest]

Celeste,

I know what you mean about our husbands being angry about the fibro

causing painful sex. For years I didnt have sex with him but maybe

once a month. He became sexually frustrated I think. I just found

out he has been having internet and telephone " flings " behind my back.

When confronted on it he said he didnt want to bother me and he

thought it was the right thing to do. Needless to say, some men are

dogs, and this is not going to happen to every woman who has fibro.

But I guess my point of dragging this mess out in the open is that i

feel more support is needed for couples who have been touched by

fibro. Or maybe like a support group for the spouses of fibro

patients. It would have helped my marriage.

Loretta

>

> This has been really helpful. This makes so much sense in my life.

My husband seems to have gotten very angry with the fact that I have

some Illnesses and do not function exactly the way I did at 28. Now

36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done strange mean things

hurting me physically....scolding me in the shower turning up the

water while showing together....then saying it was an accident he

didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the car giving me whip lash

while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min while I sit there in

pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed, leavnig a bruise, and

saying it was an accident. Things like this are scary to me....not

sure what to think. He also got upset because I wasn't giving him

enough attention. Once AM he sat up and told me that when I am six

feet under I can sleep all I want. This was after repeatedly waking

me early even on the weekends, by being noisy or letting the dogs

bark. I was so

> taken back by this that I was actually scared. Should I be seeing

a sign that says EXIT!!!!

[Guest guest]

Dog gone, scalding in the shower and purpose elbowing

leaving bruises.My goodness honey what are you doing

about this type of stuff

Diane

--- punkrockmom74 wrote:

> Celeste,

>

> I know what you mean about our husbands being angry

> about the fibro

> causing painful sex. For years I didnt have sex

> with him but maybe

> once a month. He became sexually frustrated I

> think. I just found

> out he has been having internet and telephone

> " flings " behind my back.

> When confronted on it he said he didnt want to

> bother me and he

> thought it was the right thing to do. Needless to

> say, some men are

> dogs, and this is not going to happen to every woman

> who has fibro.

> But I guess my point of dragging this mess out in

> the open is that i

> feel more support is needed for couples who have

> been touched by

> fibro. Or maybe like a support group for the

> spouses of fibro

> patients. It would have helped my marriage.

>

> Loretta

>

> >

> > This has been really helpful. This makes so much

> sense in my life.

> My husband seems to have gotten very angry with the

> fact that I have

> some Illnesses and do not function exactly the way I

> did at 28. Now

> 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done strange

> mean things

> hurting me physically....scolding me in the shower

> turning up the

> water while showing together....then saying it was

> an accident he

> didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the car

> giving me whip lash

> while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min while

> I sit there in

> pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed,

> leavnig a bruise, and

> saying it was an accident. Things like this are

> scary to me....not

> sure what to think. He also got upset because I

> wasn't giving him

> enough attention. Once AM he sat up and told me

> that when I am six

> feet under I can sleep all I want. This was after

> repeatedly waking

> me early even on the weekends, by being noisy or

> letting the dogs

> bark. I was so

> > taken back by this that I was actually scared.

> Should I be seeing

> a sign that says EXIT!!!!

>

>

>

>

> 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences

> with everyone on the list as to what treatments do

> and don't work for us, pls always check with your

> dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along

> with other meds as well as to certain health

> conditions or just dangerous in general.

>

> 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't

> matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for

> help. It is the first step to trying to make that

> situation better.

>

> 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is:

>

Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe

>

> 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member

> to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to

> flares and b/c of that potentially take something

> another member says the wrong way. And that

> includes the things that one member may find funny

> (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though

> we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro

> or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor.

>

> 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you

> are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can

> do our best to offer our support.

>

> Have a nice day everyone.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Nothing really at this point. I have tried talking to him. Like I said he

always has an excuse or didn't really mean it. Then he is really nice, and

apologetic, hugging me, calling me from work, crying sometimes. I have a 6 year

old son with him. And because of what he does to me that is so passive, I am

afraid that he will do it to my son during visitation, and it scares me so I

stay. Plus the money would be an issue for me if I left, and that scares me. I

have been looking at apartments since these last two incidents of elbowing and

scalding. I am afraid because I was malested as a young child, and then left a

prior marraige because he was verbally abusive, and destructive to things around

me, that no one will believe me. I feel trapped!!

Re: Re: Sex and affection/Celeste

Dog gone, scalding in the shower and purpose elbowing

leaving bruises.My goodness honey what are you doing

about this type of stuff

Diane

--- punkrockmom74 <zenlikeus@sbcglobal .net> wrote:

> Celeste,

>

> I know what you mean about our husbands being angry

> about the fibro

> causing painful sex. For years I didnt have sex

> with him but maybe

> once a month. He became sexually frustrated I

> think. I just found

> out he has been having internet and telephone

> " flings " behind my back.

> When confronted on it he said he didnt want to

> bother me and he

> thought it was the right thing to do. Needless to

> say, some men are

> dogs, and this is not going to happen to every woman

> who has fibro.

> But I guess my point of dragging this mess out in

> the open is that i

> feel more support is needed for couples who have

> been touched by

> fibro. Or maybe like a support group for the

> spouses of fibro

> patients. It would have helped my marriage.

>

> Loretta

>

> >

> > This has been really helpful. This makes so much

> sense in my life.

> My husband seems to have gotten very angry with the

> fact that I have

> some Illnesses and do not function exactly the way I

> did at 28. Now

> 36 and have Graves, and Fibro. He has done strange

> mean things

> hurting me physically.. ..scolding me in the shower

> turning up the

> water while showing together.... then saying it was

> an accident he

> didnt' mean it. Slamming the breaks on in the car

> giving me whip lash

> while I am sleeping, then laughing for 10 min while

> I sit there in

> pain and angry. Elbowing me in the eye in bed,

> leavnig a bruise, and

> saying it was an accident. Things like this are

> scary to me....not

> sure what to think. He also got upset because I

> wasn't giving him

> enough attention. Once AM he sat up and told me

> that when I am six

> feet under I can sleep all I want. This was after

> repeatedly waking

> me early even on the weekends, by being noisy or

> letting the dogs

> bark. I was so

> > taken back by this that I was actually scared.

> Should I be seeing

> a sign that says EXIT!!!!

>

>

>

>

> 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences

> with everyone on the list as to what treatments do

> and don't work for us, pls always check with your

> dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along

> with other meds as well as to certain health

> conditions or just dangerous in general.

>

> 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't

> matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for

> help. It is the first step to trying to make that

> situation better.

>

> 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is:

>

Fibromyalgia_ Support_Group- unsubscribe@ yahoogroups. com

>

> 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member

> to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to

> flares and b/c of that potentially take something

> another member says the wrong way. And that

> includes the things that one member may find funny

> (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though

> we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro

> or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor.

>

> 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you

> are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can

> do our best to offer our support.

>

> Have a nice day everyone.

>

>