Re: How Resentment Makes a Heart Heavy LINK CONTAINS SENSITIVE STUFF

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Another view. I've no desire to get into a flame war over this, but

there's more than one view. I know that my family was raised with

the concept that forgiveness is like casting the misdeed into the sea

- it's supposed to be as if it didn't happen. I remember when I was

a kid, saying " Saying 'sorry' doesn't make it better! " It still

doesn't. There are issues of psychological abuse that I was just

supposed to " forgive and forget " . They keep coming back to bite me

on the butt.

Forgiveness is not easy, or simple, and in some cases does more to

let the offender off the hook than to help the forgiver. The

forgiver is left with the guilt that forgiving didn't make it all

better so there must be something wrong with him/her. I would remind

us that in at one major religion, forgiveness by a deity was

accomplished through the deaths of many, many animals, and in

another, it was accomplished through a gruesome execution. If that's

what it took for a deity to forgive, I think it may be a bit

optimistic to think that we, as mere humans, can just blithely cast

away harm that has been done to us.

Link may contain some sensitive stuff.

http://health.yahoo.com/mentalhealth-healthyhabits/must-you-forgive/

pt--Psychology_Today_articles_pto-19990701-000029.html

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personally, revenge is a much better healer for someone who has hurt

you terribly than forgiveness could ever be! That at least is my

personal experience on the issue.

N.

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Oh ,

I'm such a self-guilt person that I've never been able to do anything in

revenge. But I've sure dreamed about it a lot. I just wait around quietly

until something catches up with them and then I enjoy that.

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Re: How Resentment Makes a Heart Heavy LINK CONTAINS SENSITIVE

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personally, revenge is a much better healer for someone who

has hurt

you terribly than forgiveness could ever be! That at least is my

personal experience on the issue.

N.

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I agree with you to some extent . I am going thru some bad family stuff

right now and was going to just let it go but she gets away with too much so I

have decided to confront her on it all. I shall write it down first so I can

cover it all as you tend to forget some things when you are so hurt and angry.

Mine is that my sister-in-law does not want my brother and I to see each

other. I moved here to be close to him as he requested. I am not allowed in

the house or him in mine. No phone contact. I don't even know what I did.

Yesterday she said she couldn't control my brother when I was around. do I tell

him what is going on. I hate to cause trouble between them but he has told me

the marriage is dead. He keeps telling me to hang on as I want to move back

home. What to do?

Little

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Hi ,

this may be stupid, but are you kidding here. I just thought it might be a

joke. Or do you really get revenge on people? Just curious. If so, what have

you done? Might be interesting to know.

Marti

Mystic wrote:

personally, revenge is a much better healer for someone who has hurt

you terribly than forgiveness could ever be! That at least is my

personal experience on the issue.

N.

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