Celeste - fight for your rights

[Guest guest]

Celeste, OMG, you need to see an attorney and get away from this man. With

these incidences of sexual abuse from his half-brother, certainly a judge would

only allow supervised visits with your 6 yr. old. You have to fight for

yourself and for him!!

Jeanne in WI

nd moore,

thank you so much for responding, I need to hear these things. And you are

exactly right. I do think sometimes that I deserve something. Like because I

do not give him sex, and push him away. But I am so angry and resentful, I am

beyond myself. I have a 6 year old with this man, and i am scared to leave, as

I would not want my son to be visiting alone with him, as his older son is alot

the same way towards my younger son whom he is jealous of or whatever, and has

choked him, and sexually did things. Each time was in the care of my spouse,

after telling him they were not to be left unsupervised. I think that he is

angry that I took action on his son to protect mine....and it seems when the boy

is here the little digs, and hitting, and stuff happens. I am not sure why....I

think he may be angry.

[Guest guest]

Thank you for replying, it is so helpful. I am not sure if you saw my last

posting about the older boy and his dad and there strange relationship. One

that he will not discipline the child, and covers up for his wrong actions. I

just can't take it anymore. I am working on getting out! Just very scared that

for whatever reason the court will say that he get visitation and the boys need

to be together. I am scared to death, to have my younger son have to visit

without me. That is what is holding me here. If I stay, then I can at least

supervise the visits. And what if I dont' get the supervised visits with him?

Cbake

Celeste - fight for your rights

Celeste, OMG, you need to see an attorney and get away from this man. With these

incidences of sexual abuse from his half-brother, certainly a judge would only

allow supervised visits with your 6 yr. old. You have to fight for yourself and

for him!!

Jeanne in WI

nd moore,

thank you so much for responding, I need to hear these things. And you are

exactly right. I do think sometimes that I deserve something. Like because I do

not give him sex, and push him away. But I am so angry and resentful, I am

beyond myself. I have a 6 year old with this man, and i am scared to leave, as I

would not want my son to be visiting alone with him, as his older son is alot

the same way towards my younger son whom he is jealous of or whatever, and has

choked him, and sexually did things. Each time was in the care of my spouse,

after telling him they were not to be left unsupervised. I think that he is

angry that I took action on his son to protect mine....and it seems when the boy

is here the little digs, and hitting, and stuff happens. I am not sure why....I

think he may be angry.

[Guest guest]

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> Thank you for replying, it is so helpful. I am not sure if you saw

my last posting about the older boy and his dad and there strange

relationship. One that he will not discipline the child, and covers

up for his wrong actions. I just can't take it anymore. I am

working on getting out! Just very scared that for whatever reason

the court will say that he get visitation and the boys need to be

together. I am scared to death, to have my younger son have to visit

without me. That is what is holding me here. If I stay, then I can

at least supervise the visits. And what if I dont' get the

supervised visits with him?

> Cbake

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> Celeste - fight for your rights

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> Celeste, OMG, you need to see an attorney and get away from this

man. With these incidences of sexual abuse from his half-brother,

certainly a judge would only allow supervised visits with your 6 yr.

old. You have to fight for yourself and for him!!

> Jeanne in WI

>

> nd moore,

> thank you so much for responding, I need to hear these things. And

you are exactly right. I do think sometimes that I deserve something.

Like because I do not give him sex, and push him away. But I am so

angry and resentful, I am beyond myself. I have a 6 year old with

this man, and i am scared to leave, as I would not want my son to be

visiting alone with him, as his older son is alot the same way

towards my younger son whom he is jealous of or whatever, and has

choked him, and sexually did things. Each time was in the care of my

spouse, after telling him they were not to be left unsupervised. I

think that he is angry that I took action on his son to protect

mine....and it seems when the boy is here the little digs, and

hitting, and stuff happens. I am not sure why....I think he may be

angry.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I don't know the answer to that, Celeste. All I can think of is that you

document the incidents as much as you can, as they happen. Take pictures of any

damage to you or your son. Keep a journal detailing what your hubby has said

regarding your son, his son, you, whatever. It's not definite proof, but it

shows your effort to have proof.

Also, will your 6 yr. old son talk about his father and how he is treated by

this particular half-brother? What about your older children? Will they

testify for you? I would think they don't have any loyalty to their stepfather?

Just a guess.

Once again, I'm just trying to encourage you. I have never had to deal with

anything like this, but am only suggesting things I've heard others say about

their situtations. I understand your fear for your youngest, and it's a risk,

but probably very necessary before something awful happens to one or all of you.

Take care.

Jeanne in WI

Thank you for replying, it is so helpful. I am not sure if you saw my last

posting about the older boy and his dad and there strange relationship. One

that he will not discipline the child, and covers up for his wrong actions. I

just can't take it anymore. I am working on getting out! Just very scared that

for whatever reason the court will say that he get visitation and the boys need

to be together. I am scared to death, to have my younger son have to visit

without me. That is what is holding me here. If I stay, then I can at least

supervise the visits. And what if I dont' get the supervised visits with him?

Cbake

[Guest guest]

Jeane,

No my son does not talk about his father or the brother. He didn't even tell me

he did tell my oldest son about the sexual things. And in regards to him

choking my son, my son told me two days after the incident. My fear is that the

father has told my six year old not to tell on his brother as he would get in

trouble. It scares me that he probly doesn't tell me half of things that

happen. There was one impiticular time that my son didn't want me to go to

work, said daddy is mean to me. My husband spoke right up before my son could

say anymore and defended himself. My son then stopped and didnt' say anymore.

I am a stay at home mom now. I just don't know what to think things seem so

secretive or something. I feel like my husband is stopping my youngest from

talking, but will not admit to it.

Re: Celeste - fight for your rights

I don't know the answer to that, Celeste. All I can think of is that you

document the incidents as much as you can, as they happen. Take pictures of any

damage to you or your son. Keep a journal detailing what your hubby has said

regarding your son, his son, you, whatever. It's not definite proof, but it

shows your effort to have proof.

Also, will your 6 yr. old son talk about his father and how he is treated by

this particular half-brother? What about your older children? Will they testify

for you? I would think they don't have any loyalty to their stepfather? Just a

guess.

Once again, I'm just trying to encourage you. I have never had to deal with

anything like this, but am only suggesting things I've heard others say about

their situtations. I understand your fear for your youngest, and it's a risk,

but probably very necessary before something awful happens to one or all of you.

Take care.

Jeanne in WI

Thank you for replying, it is so helpful. I am not sure if you saw my last

posting about the older boy and his dad and there strange relationship. One that

he will not discipline the child, and covers up for his wrong actions. I just

can't take it anymore. I am working on getting out! Just very scared that for

whatever reason the court will say that he get visitation and the boys need to

be together. I am scared to death, to have my younger son have to visit without

me. That is what is holding me here. If I stay, then I can at least supervise

the visits. And what if I dont' get the supervised visits with him?

Cbake

[Guest guest]

You may be right. It's what a lot of child abuser's do. He needs to have power

and control out of all of you, except maybe his own 9 yr. old son. I'll pray

for you to find the best solution. Take care.

Jeanne in WI

Jeane,

No my son does not talk about his father or the brother. He didn't even tell

me he did tell my oldest son about the sexual things. And in regards to him

choking my son, my son told me two days after the incident. My fear is that the

father has told my six year old not to tell on his brother as he would get in

trouble. It scares me that he probly doesn't tell me half of things that

happen. There was one impiticular time that my son didn't want me to go to

work, said daddy is mean to me. My husband spoke right up before my son could

say anymore and defended himself. My son then stopped and didnt' say anymore.

I am a stay at home mom now. I just don't know what to think things seem so

secretive or something. I feel like my husband is stopping my youngest from

talking, but will not admit to it.