Sharon - your DH's ex

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Sharon - I couldn't make it through your whole post, but from what I did read,

this woman sounds like the ideal " evil bitch " character on soap operas. I'm so

sorry it is a reality for you and your husband.

Jeanne in WI

Hey Marti- Well this is the thing. My husband has been stompled on his

heart broken when this evil woman took his son away changed his last name, and

did everything she could to prevent visitation. I met my husband, found she had

a judgement to allow visits anytime my husband wanted with a 24 hr notice, she

had been in contempt of this for 8yrs. when I got him to seek an atty. He is an

offshore scalloper and had just gotten tired of getting the police called any

time he contacted her to see him. She would be right at the dock when the boat

came in though to get her support. She has gone through life poisioning this

boy's mind. One time we were living in Ma. I had just had my knee operated on

2 days before, when she approved a 2 day visit up here in Me. my husband was so

excited, we or should I say I drove us up 3 hrs, as my husband had not had a

chance to renew his license being gone so much, expired, but I wanted so bad for

him the chance to re-meet and have a relationship. We got to her house and

were sitting out front, my knee in bandage galore and killing, when we get

surrounded by cops!,she had called them once we called to let her know we had

gotten in town, and told them we were there and she feared we were going to

kidnap her son!, she had taken him to his g.mothers. The cops would not believe

me that she had called and approved a visit. He was mean dispite my telling him

I was in no condition to kidnap a ant let alone a 8yr old, and this has

continued to be her pattern, she was married before has another son, and did

this same thing to that man, he moved away to Fla with his wife as she continued

to interupt his and her life same things. I and my husband tried and tried to

keep contact, keep peace but it is impossible with her, she is a control freak

and thinks she can tell me how, when, where, why, and her way. My husband

started going back and forth on how he felt with this boy or suppose to be young

man a couple yrs ago, as he visited hear and there when he fought with his

mother, then he would go back and we would not hear and he would be angry

because what his mother has fed him. I asked him to give his father a chance

now that he is older showing him he is not the man she painted him to be. He

hasn't, My husband feels bad now that he feels not really anything for this boy,

but yet how can he, he new him 10 mo's and about 2wks out of a mo he was gone

from home, at one time it was??? whether he was the father as he came home early

one trip and she was caught, but recent test said yes. So now it stands it was

last summer he was to stay here, and now we are here to today! The ? is how can

my husband have feelings for someone he doesn't know, he has tried and tried and

he was never given the chance to know him, love him, and help him grow. He lives

with such an awful turn out. I say it is not his fault, he tried, he did not

give up until now. And the mother paved the road for

this and now she wants to revamp? reconstruct? And the drug and under age

drinking, no job, sits around all day, I can't handle. I raised my childeren,

and I can't take my energy anymore with this exspecially with someone who is

20yrs old. Is this wrong? No moves can be made without her in it. Please

inlighten me if I am twisted in thinking this, and just distorted from all we

have been through with this for 11yrs. This is a woman who took her son to

Canada to drink with because it is legal his age up there. That son now is 25,

can not live on his own, wets himself and all over the house when she let's them

back home, because he is so intoxicated. Thanks for your concern because I do

not like that I let myself get that upset over this.

Sharon