Re: Help What Can I do/Holly

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I would try heat , pain rub or patches, a good dose of ibuprofen {If you can

take it ok a prescription dose is 800mg at a time every 6-8 hrs} or maybe some

aleve. If you have muscle relaxers, try those too. Maybe a hot shower or soak in

a nice hot bath with relaxing music, candles and maybe a special bath soap you

like. A diuretic may be helpful for the swelling. I can so sympathize sweetie.

I hope this helps some.

PS: tell hubby to take care of it himself, lol till you are up to it. Just

kidding.

Hugs,

haheem74 wrote:

I am going to make this short. I hardly post, just read. But I need

help someone who understands. I lay in bed all day yesterday in soo

much pain hands swollen so tight I can hardly bend my fingers. I

literally wanted to die I was hurting so bad (any tips would be

helpful for a flarfeup that bad. But then my DH who was home all day

with me. Came to bed to remind the last time we had sex. I wanted to

strangle him. Now mind you we are newlyweds. He knew whta he was

getting into. I need some advice. I am setting her crying now. I have

a call into my rheumo, he should call back soon. Thanks so much...

Holly

33, NC

When you have nothing left but God,

you become aware that God is enough.

-Guideposts

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> I am going to make this short. I hardly post, just read.

But I need

> help someone who understands. I lay in bed all day yesterday in soo

> much pain hands swollen so tight I can hardly bend my fingers. I

> literally wanted to die I was hurting so bad (any tips would be

> helpful for a flarfeup that bad. But then my DH who was home all

day

> with me. Came to bed to remind the last time we had sex. I wanted

to

> strangle him. Now mind you we are newlyweds. He knew whta he was

> getting into. I need some advice. I am setting her crying now. I

have

> a call into my rheumo, he should call back soon. Thanks so much...

>

> Holly

> 33, NC

>

> I thought about suggesting that the next time he isn't feeling

well, you turn the tables on him and ask him the same question! But

that's probably counter productive. But I think I would remind him

of the level of pain you are/were in and perhaps ask him if he would

have wanted to have sex the next time HE is sick or is in serious

pain.

I do wonder about my husband's response when I asked him if he could

remember the last time we had been that close? His response was

that " well, you keep getting reservations for us at hotels with two

double beds! We were close several times when we had a room with a

king size bed, but you stopped doing that! " What does that have to

do with us having any contact when we are home??? I do realize that,

because we don't sleep in the same bed and the same room --- because

of my restless leg syndrome, my insomina which so often leads me to

reading with a light on until I fall asleep --- it isn't always the

same, but he would get so mad when I had really bad problems. The

restless leg problem was so severe that my entire body would jerk and

it did distrub his sleep and while I didn't appreciate his yelling at

me, I could understand that it could have been hard on him!!!

But I can certainly understand that what your husband said was very

hurtful and also said at a most inappropriate time.

Hope you feel better soon!

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