Re: Revenge is a dish best served cold

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You know, years and years ago (in my 20s maybe) I heard the

phrase " what goes around comes around " . I never really knew how that

would apply to someone who had hurt me or mine, but I thought, hey,

why should I bother " getting them back " if they will get

theirs " someday " ?

Well, I was 22, working for a company and had 2 little ones, the

youngest was 9 weeks old at the time of our mandatory inventory. My

then husband worked the night shift so he was out as a babysitter and

my mom worked at Wallyworld and was working so she was out. I had

previously gotten permission to work until a set time, then leave. On

the day of inventory, I got called in, told that they " knew " I had a

babysitter and I wasn't going to be allowed to leave! Well, I called

and my mom rearranged her schedule. I was literally the LAST female

they let leave at 4am the next morning and when I left, I handed in

my badge to the VP and quit. He wanted to know " why " ? I told him that

my integrity had been brought into question and I hadn't lied about

not having anyone to watch my kids and that my mom had had to miss

her shift at work because of me.

Well....there's more to the story here. See, my 9 week old had

developed one of those nasty intestinal bugs. Vomiting, diarrhea,

etc. etc. In three days he lost so much weight they almost put him in

the hospital and we almost lost him. Come to find out that the

nursery had CALLED my employer 4 times (I never got the message) and

then called my mom to come and get him. Long long story short - the

president of that company ended up having an incapacitating stroke,

the VP ended up with terminal cancer, the jerk who was constantly

sexually harassing me (only I was too young and dumb to know) ended

up on federal embezzlement charges and that particular plant location

closed down.

So, I got to see first hand that what goes around does come around.

And I did absolutely nothing to precipitate any of it!

Darlene

Sharon - I

couldn't make it through your whole post, but from what I did read,

this woman sounds like the ideal " evil bitch " character on soap

operas. I'm so sorry it is a reality for you and your husband.

> Jeanne in WI

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> Hey Marti- Well this is the thing. My husband has been stompled on

his heart broken when this evil woman took his son away changed his

last name, and did everything she could to prevent visitation. I met

my husband, found she had a judgement to allow visits anytime my

husband wanted with a 24 hr notice, she had been in contempt of this

for 8yrs. when I got him to seek an atty. He is an offshore scalloper

and had just gotten tired of getting the police called any time he

contacted her to see him. She would be right at the dock when the

boat came in though to get her support. She has gone through life

poisioning this boy's mind. One time we were living in Ma. I had just

had my knee operated on 2 days before, when she approved a 2 day

visit up here in Me. my husband was so excited, we or should I say I

drove us up 3 hrs, as my husband had not had a chance to renew his

license being gone so much, expired, but I wanted so bad for him the

chance to re-meet and have a

> relationship. We got to her house and were sitting out front, my

knee in bandage galore and killing, when we get surrounded by

cops!,she had called them once we called to let her know we had

gotten in town, and told them we were there and she feared we were

going to kidnap her son!, she had taken him to his g.mothers. The

cops would not believe me that she had called and approved a visit.

He was mean dispite my telling him I was in no condition to kidnap a

ant let alone a 8yr old, and this has continued to be her pattern,

she was married before has another son, and did this same thing to

that man, he moved away to Fla with his wife as she continued to

interupt his and her life same things. I and my husband tried and

tried to keep contact, keep peace but it is impossible with her, she

is a control freak and thinks she can tell me how, when, where, why,

and her way. My husband started going back and forth on how he felt

with this boy or suppose to be young man a couple yrs

> ago, as he visited hear and there when he fought with his mother,

then he would go back and we would not hear and he would be angry

because what his mother has fed him. I asked him to give his father a

chance now that he is older showing him he is not the man she painted

him to be. He hasn't, My husband feels bad now that he feels not

really anything for this boy, but yet how can he, he new him 10 mo's

and about 2wks out of a mo he was gone from home, at one time it

was??? whether he was the father as he came home early one trip and

she was caught, but recent test said yes. So now it stands it was

last summer he was to stay here, and now we are here to today! The ?

is how can my husband have feelings for someone he doesn't know, he

has tried and tried and he was never given the chance to know him,

love him, and help him grow. He lives with such an awful turn out. I

say it is not his fault, he tried, he did not give up until now. And

the mother paved the road for

> this and now she wants to revamp? reconstruct? And the drug and

under age drinking, no job, sits around all day, I can't handle. I

raised my childeren, and I can't take my energy anymore with this

exspecially with someone who is 20yrs old. Is this wrong? No moves

can be made without her in it. Please inlighten me if I am twisted in

thinking this, and just distorted from all we have been through with

this for 11yrs. This is a woman who took her son to Canada to drink

with because it is legal his age up there. That son now is 25, can

not live on his own, wets himself and all over the house when she

let's them back home, because he is so intoxicated. Thanks for your

concern because I do not like that I let myself get that upset over

this. Sharon

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