Guest guest Posted March 1, 2008 Report Share Posted March 1, 2008 I so sympathize with you sweetie on the sex thing. My DH were married in November of '86. I began having health problems in January of '87. It was my first year in a full-time teaching position, and we didn't want to wait to get married until the summer of '87, so I'm sure the added stress of having a wedding during that year of teaching added to the health problems. We had such a great sex life before we were married. After we were married, it was like night and day. I'm not Catholic, but often thought maybe God was punishing us for our premarital sex. LOL! But seriously, I have heard lots of jokes about how married people don't have sex anymore. So I know we weren't the only couple who went through this. A few years back, maybe 6 or 7, I had a physcial condition called Vulvodynia which caused too much pain, so we were celebate for 3-4 years. I know that is not an option as newlyweds. When we resumed our sex life, we found that we had to be creative about our positions as our older bodies didn't like the way we used to do things. I even bought a book! LOL! So, my advice is you tell your hubby how much you love him, but it very much hurts your feelings when he reminds you about how long it's been since you last had sex. Try to experience intimacy in other ways, not just sex, and also try different ways of having sex. I'm sure he will appreciate your interest in working on the problem. Take care. Vent about it anytime on list or to me privately. Jeanne in WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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