Re: Sharon - your DH's ex To Sharon From Debra I hope so

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Thanks for your encouragement, as I have hoped for 11yrs, that this now young

man would reach the age where he would come out from under his mother's clutch,

and think and learn for himself. But so far, he is still unable to think, or do

for himself. I have tried and tried to get along with this woman for the sake

of getting my husband and son a relationship, but each time she stepped in,

wrecking everything, demanding that I do as she say. For instance one

situation, she called when he was younger and asked if we could by a winter

jacket for him he was appx 10 yrs old, we said yes, she then went on to say

where, we where to buy it and it was a 230.00 jacket! I explained to her that,

we could buy one but not at that price, and another should be able to be found,

well the fight went on from there. My husband told me this is what she did when

they were together, when he was young he would come home with clothes and toys

for the kid, and when she would yell and throw

them out telling him they were not name brand that she preferred!!!! Now the

other day when I was stupid enough to try and listen to that maddening call, I

was told I was the gold digger and in my marriage for this reason. I before I

ever met my husband ran a business, and have always worked many many stressfull

hrs. in the healthfield and you know how that is, I have always bought my own

vehicles, and am not to high and mighty to do yard sales and consignment stores.

She has been fired from working at the court house in her town for fraud, and

has been through several other jobs, and is hitting the streets stalking men

with money.

Take Care, Sharon

debra van ness wrote: Sharon, she will get her

paybacks someday. People like that just live to make everyone else miserable and

keep chaos around them. It is terribly sad for the child and your husband. What

the hell makes her even a fit mother? Your husband has nothing to blame himself

for. She is the evil in this matter. And unfortunately, you also have to deal

with the consequences since of course your husbands problems are also yours.

The woman is obviously twisted. Someday maybe the boy will think for himself and

see the truth.

hugs,

Debra V.

sharon studley wrote: Thankyou for your support. When we

were in court with her one time, even my husband's atty said she is a cold

hearted hatefull woman. Isn't that sad that someone is that miserable with there

own life, they entertain themselves with trying to distroy others, to bad though

she has met her match with me because as sick as I have been, I still am not

backing down to her, and she is not worth the energy to fight with her so I just

keep letting the local P.D take record of her calls here and eventually I can

take her gold digging, butt back to court and she faces 1 yr in jail and a 2,000

fine. I just don't have the energy to drive to the courthouse 20 mins to see the

judge letting them know she has broken my harrasment protection order against

her. Her day is coming, I am not sitting waiting for it but just know it will.

Thanks again. Hope your finding today a

better day.

Sharon ME.

Jeanne and Dave wrote: Sharon - I couldn't make it

through your whole post, but from what I did read, this woman sounds like the

ideal " evil bitch " character on soap operas. I'm so sorry it is a reality for

you and your husband.

Jeanne in WI

Hey Marti- Well this is the thing. My husband has been stompled on his heart

broken when this evil woman took his son away changed his last name, and did

everything she could to prevent visitation. I met my husband, found she had a

judgement to allow visits anytime my husband wanted with a 24 hr notice, she had

been in contempt of this for 8yrs. when I got him to seek an atty. He is an

offshore scalloper and had just gotten tired of getting the police called any

time he contacted her to see him. She would be right at the dock when the boat

came in though to get her support. She has gone through life poisioning this

boy's mind. One time we were living in Ma. I had just had my knee operated on 2

days before, when she approved a 2 day visit up here in Me. my husband was so

excited, we or should I say I drove us up 3 hrs, as my husband had not had a

chance to renew his license being gone so much, expired, but I wanted so bad for

him the chance to re-meet and have a

relationship. We got to her house and were sitting out front, my knee in bandage

galore and killing, when we get surrounded by cops!,she had called them once we

called to let her know we had gotten in town, and told them we were there and

she feared we were going to kidnap her son!, she had taken him to his g.mothers.

The cops would not believe me that she had called and approved a visit. He was

mean dispite my telling him I was in no condition to kidnap a ant let alone a

8yr old, and this has continued to be her pattern, she was married before has

another son, and did this same thing to that man, he moved away to Fla with his

wife as she continued to interupt his and her life same things. I and my husband

tried and tried to keep contact, keep peace but it is impossible with her, she

is a control freak and thinks she can tell me how, when, where, why, and her

way. My husband started going back and forth on how he felt with this boy or

suppose to be young man a couple yrs

ago, as he visited hear and there when he fought with his mother, then he would

go back and we would not hear and he would be angry because what his mother has

fed him. I asked him to give his father a chance now that he is older showing

him he is not the man she painted him to be. He hasn't, My husband feels bad now

that he feels not really anything for this boy, but yet how can he, he new him

10 mo's and about 2wks out of a mo he was gone from home, at one time it was???

whether he was the father as he came home early one trip and she was caught, but

recent test said yes. So now it stands it was last summer he was to stay here,

and now we are here to today! The ? is how can my husband have feelings for

someone he doesn't know, he has tried and tried and he was never given the

chance to know him, love him, and help him grow. He lives with such an awful

turn out. I say it is not his fault, he tried, he did not give up until now. And

the mother paved the road for

this and now she wants to revamp? reconstruct? And the drug and under age

drinking, no job, sits around all day, I can't handle. I raised my childeren,

and I can't take my energy anymore with this exspecially with someone who is

20yrs old. Is this wrong? No moves can be made without her in it. Please

inlighten me if I am twisted in thinking this, and just distorted from all we

have been through with this for 11yrs. This is a woman who took her son to

Canada to drink with because it is legal his age up there. That son now is 25,

can not live on his own, wets himself and all over the house when she let's them

back home, because he is so intoxicated. Thanks for your concern because I do

not like that I let myself get that upset over this. Sharon