Sharon/dates with your hubby

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If I remember correctly, you are recently diagnosed? So you are still fighting

with denial and acceptance. We go through the grief stages just as if our " old

selves " have died. I know it's very difficult for your husband when he wants to

socialize and you're not up to it. My DH and I might reach this when our girls

have both left home, too. But as for family things, sometimes he and the girls

go without me, even to my parents' house. I have missed Thanksgivings,

Christmases, numerous birthday parties, etc. I often miss evening concerts or

other school activities for my girls. It sucks wide. But feeling guilty over

it just makes us feel worse. Try setting a date with your husband and conserve

your energy that day, by just resting so you are able to do the thing at night.

Hope this helps.

Jeanne in WI

Just thinking- I am with you on this one. I am sick of being sick, sick of

the med's, that only barely working as more pain arrives in different areas. I

also, though I have not been able to continue with working anymore, get tired at

the thought of going out for something, that seems sooooo long ago fun. I have

done the same thing commited, got tickets, or made plans with my husband, and

the time day comes, and I just can't go. There has been alot of talk on here of

members having a rough time with the bedroom. Well this has been rougher on my

husband then that by far. He want's so bad for me to be able to go places with

him, dinner, a movie, visit family, and I just can't do it now, I hope this will

come back with warmer weather. I can not even think of having to do something

with my hair other than up in a scrunchie, put on a pair of pants and a top,

every ounce of me is drained, I got myself even thinking yesterday, am I really

sick with this diagnoised FM, or am I stuck in some slump in my head, and I

just need to force myself to get up and move,work, walk, etc., and maybe the

pain will go away, maybe my energy will come back, maybe they are wrong, I don't

have it.Maybe I am depressed and don't know it. Then I know I do have some real

symptoms. I don't know I feel like I am neither here nor there, caught in

limbo, this must be the fog everyone talks about. Hoping u get over your resp.

illness, and brighter days.

Sharon