Guest guest Posted February 8, 2012 Report Share Posted February 8, 2012 Clara, Its true that inclusion is not for every child. But I would ask, what is the reason for the child's anxiety? My son gets anxiety when he feels he's being pushed too far, doesn't know the answer, feels like he's constantly being tested etc. Also, my son actually had much higher anxiety in a completely secluded setting. He could not handle all the stimming and noises, he would start to pick up others kids stimms, and cry when another child would start screaming out of nowhere, he would pick up on all the other children's frustrations and just cry. He would also get aggressive in those situations and he is not an aggressive child. But for some reason he is able to handle the chaos of a typical classroom and really flourishes there, he's fascinated by watching the other children even when he can't do the things they do. There was no way for me to know how he would handle it beforehand, and I had to try 2 schools before we found the right fit for him. Also you say he has the inability to learn from a teacher. Anyone who meets my son for the first time thinks that as well. When you address him, he totally looks like he can't hear you he stares off at something in a different direction, hums, smiles to himself, starts to run in circles. But then a lot of times a few seconds later he'll do what he was asked or comment. He seems like his not paying attention to the teacher at all, and then he'll do the class activity unassisted. For my son, what is needed is a LOT of patience and giving him a chance. He won't always do it, but a lot of times he does! How does your child do when there is a lot of people around? Is he/she aggressive? The child also has to enjoy it and the teacher to be very willing to work hard to make accomodations. > > > > > > > > > > > Sherry...which conversation are you talking about? > > > > (laughing) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > . . . this conversation is incredible on so many levels-I will post when > > > > I > > > > > gather my thoughts. . . properly., > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 8, 2012 Report Share Posted February 8, 2012 You make some great points. The anxiety is part of anxiety disorder, he is anxious all the time everywhere. I think with a one on one though that would be reduced. He is not aggressive on the whole but when his mood disorder is really unstable he becomes out of wack. Like you said I think it all depends on the teacher's willingness and the school's willlingness to try methods like co teaching etc. My son also by the way reacts the exact same way in a secluded class: all the behaviors and problems and stimming REALLY upset him! Thank you for your thoughts. To: sList Sent: Wednesday, February 8, 2012 1:07:34 PMSubject: Re: believe/inclusion Clara, Its true that inclusion is not for every child. But I would ask, what is the reason for the child's anxiety? My son gets anxiety when he feels he's being pushed too far, doesn't know the answer, feels like he's constantly being tested etc. Also, my son actually had much higher anxiety in a completely secluded setting. He could not handle all the stimming and noises, he would start to pick up others kids stimms, and cry when another child would start screaming out of nowhere, he would pick up on all the other children's frustrations and just cry. He would also get aggressive in those situations and he is not an aggressive child. But for some reason he is able to handle the chaos of a typical classroom and really flourishes there, he's fascinated by watching the other children even when he can't do the things they do.There was no way for me to know how he would handle it beforehand, and I had to try 2 schools before we found the right fit for him.Also you say he has the inability to learn from a teacher. Anyone who meets my son for the first time thinks that as well. When you address him, he totally looks like he can't hear you he stares off at something in a different direction, hums, smiles to himself, starts to run in circles. But then a lot of times a few seconds later he'll do what he was asked or comment. He seems like his not paying attention to the teacher at all, and then he'll do the class activity unassisted. For my son, what is needed is a LOT of patience and giving him a chance. He won't always do it, but a lot of times he does!How does your child do when there is a lot of people around? Is he/she aggressive? The child also has to enjoy it and the teacher to be very willing to work hard to make accomodations. > > > > > > > > > > > Sherry...which conversation are you talking about? > > > > (laughing) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > . . . this conversation is incredible on so many levels-I will post when > > > > I > > > > > gather my thoughts. . . properly., > > > > > > > > > > > > >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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