Guest guest Posted March 3, 2008 Report Share Posted March 3, 2008 Hi I'm from Ca. sierra mountains. I've had the Fibro disease for 21 years. I've dealt with it on my own for the last 19 years. After 3 years of it, every-one I loved started to disappear, except my children. It was too hard for them. I have trouble making new friends because I can't commit to anything. I don't know from day to day how I will feel. I tried joining a couple of dating services for the disabled but everyone I liked was on the other side of the country. Then I found you, and thought it would be nice if for the first time in 21 years I was surrounded by people that are living with the same monster as me. So here I am, hi. The one thing I can give you is something a doctor gave me 11 years ago. I hated him for it and even stopped seeing doctors for a while because his advice made me so angry. He said that I needed to separate my pain from my emotions. What a crock, right, wrong. Over 3 years of trying, it just happened. My body and all it's pain and fatigue became nothing more than a package I was limited by, but my emotions became freed. I can, for the past 8 years, be happy to hold a new born chick or watch the sun go down, no matter how messed up my body is that day. My spirit is finally free from the emotional roller coast that my body use to dictate to my spirit. I know that you are most likely thinking what a crock, and that's okay, but I am hoping that at least one of you will find your happiness again, at least 80% of the time. As for me I am mostly struggling with the loneliness that comes with our society and their view of a person with an imperfect body, forgetting that there is a person inside. I wish to have some-one special in my life but can not seem to find him, because he can not get past my limitations. To be honest if I do find some-one special, I will most likely devote all of my energy to him and my family, but for now I would like to just have some non-prejudice friends around to chat with and maybe build a couple of lifelong friendships. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2008 Report Share Posted March 3, 2008 Hi there, I'm on the other side of the Sierras. Welcome to a very friendly and busy group. I think you'll find plenty of understanding. Angie Harley Mama Double-D Carson City, NV; Single, five children (3 at home), 2 dogs, 4 cats, snow skiing, camping, Harley Rider, Lone Wolf, Blue Thong Society/High Sierra Thong Snappers member, LFA Advocate, independent, opinionated, outspoken, and open minded. " It's always something. " ~~~Gilda Radner " While we have the gift of life, it seems to me the only tragedy is to allow part of us to die - whether it is our spirit,our creativity, or our glorious uniqueness. " ~~~Gilda Radner http://www.mybloglog.com/buzz/members/AGBlog/ http://360.yahoo.com/lovinglifeinnv http://www.myspace.com/amkg http://doripost.agrato.info/ http://wine-and-chocolate.blogspot.com/ http://weblog.xanga.com/purplepassionate http://www.revolutionhealth.com/blogs/angiemg http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=592316375 http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/LupusSurvivorsU/ new here, just testing the water Hi I'm from Ca. sierra mountains. I've had the Fibro disease for 21 years. I've dealt with it on my own for the last 19 years. After 3 years of it, every-one I loved started to disappear, except my children. It was too hard for them. I have trouble making new friends because I can't commit to anything. I don't know from day to day how I will feel. I tried joining a couple of dating services for the disabled but everyone I liked was on the other side of the country. Then I found you, and thought it would be nice if for the first time in 21 years I was surrounded by people that are living with the same monster as me. So here I am, hi. The one thing I can give you is something a doctor gave me 11 years ago. I hated him for it and even stopped seeing doctors for a while because his advice made me so angry. He said that I needed to separate my pain from my emotions. What a crock, right, wrong. Over 3 years of trying, it just happened. My body and all it's pain and fatigue became nothing more than a package I was limited by, but my emotions became freed. I can, for the past 8 years, be happy to hold a new born chick or watch the sun go down, no matter how messed up my body is that day. My spirit is finally free from the emotional roller coast that my body use to dictate to my spirit. I know that you are most likely thinking what a crock, and that's okay, but I am hoping that at least one of you will find your happiness again, at least 80% of the time. As for me I am mostly struggling with the loneliness that comes with our society and their view of a person with an imperfect body, forgetting that there is a person inside. I wish to have some-one special in my life but can not seem to find him, because he can not get past my limitations. To be honest if I do find some-one special, I will most likely devote all of my energy to him and my family, but for now I would like to just have some non-prejudice friends around to chat with and maybe build a couple of lifelong friendships. <!-- #ygrp-mkp{ border:1px solid #d8d8d8;font-family:Arial;margin:14px 0px;padding:0px 14px;} #ygrp-mkp hr{ border:1px solid #d8d8d8;} #ygrp-mkp #hd{ color:#628c2a;font-size:85%;font-weight:bold;line-height:122%;margin:10px 0px;} #ygrp-mkp #ads{ margin-bottom:10px;} #ygrp-mkp .ad{ padding:0 0;} #ygrp-mkp .ad a{ color:#0000ff;text-decoration:none;} --> <!-- #ygrp-sponsor #ygrp-lc{ font-family:Arial;} #ygrp-sponsor #ygrp-lc #hd{ margin:10px 0px;font-weight:bold;font-size:78%;line-height:122%;} #ygrp-sponsor #ygrp-lc .ad{ margin-bottom:10px;padding:0 0;} --> <!-- #ygrp-mlmsg {font-size:13px;font-family:arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg table {font-size:inherit;font:100%;} #ygrp-mlmsg select, input, textarea {font:99% arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg pre, code {font:115% monospace;} #ygrp-mlmsg * {line-height:1.22em;} #ygrp-text{ font-family:Georgia; } #ygrp-text p{ margin:0 0 1em 0;} #ygrp-tpmsgs{ font-family:Arial; clear:both;} #ygrp-vitnav{ padding-top:10px;font-family:Verdana;font-size:77%;margin:0;} #ygrp-vitnav a{ padding:0 1px;} #ygrp-actbar{ clear:both;margin:25px 0;white-space:nowrap;color:#666;text-align:right;} #ygrp-actbar .left{ float:left;white-space:nowrap;} ..bld{font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-grft{ font-family:Verdana;font-size:77%;padding:15px 0;} #ygrp-ft{ font-family:verdana;font-size:77%;border-top:1px solid #666; padding:5px 0; } #ygrp-mlmsg #logo{ padding-bottom:10px;} #ygrp-vital{ background-color:#e0ecee;margin-bottom:20px;padding:2px 0 8px 8px;} #ygrp-vital #vithd{ font-size:77%;font-family:Verdana;font-weight:bold;color:#333;text-transform:upp\ ercase;} #ygrp-vital ul{ padding:0;margin:2px 0;} #ygrp-vital ul li{ list-style-type:none;clear:both;border:1px solid #e0ecee; } #ygrp-vital ul li .ct{ font-weight:bold;color:#ff7900;float:right;width:2em;text-align:right;padding-ri\ ght:.5em;} #ygrp-vital ul li .cat{ font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-vital a{ text-decoration:none;} #ygrp-vital a:hover{ text-decoration:underline;} #ygrp-sponsor #hd{ color:#999;font-size:77%;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov{ padding:6px 13px;background-color:#e0ecee;margin-bottom:20px;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov ul{ padding:0 0 0 8px;margin:0;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov li{ list-style-type:square;padding:6px 0;font-size:77%;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov li a{ text-decoration:none;font-size:130%;} #ygrp-sponsor #nc{ background-color:#eee;margin-bottom:20px;padding:0 8px;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad{ padding:8px 0;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad #hd1{ font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;color:#628c2a;font-size:100%;line-height:122%\ ;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad a{ text-decoration:none;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad a:hover{ text-decoration:underline;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad p{ margin:0;} o{font-size:0;} ..MsoNormal{ margin:0 0 0 0;} #ygrp-text tt{ font-size:120%;} blockquote{margin:0 0 0 4px;} ..replbq{margin:4;} --> ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Looking for last minute shopping deals? 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