Re: Getting harder and harder to work//Debra V

[Guest guest]

Debra,

Do you have short and/or long-term disability available to you thru

your job? If you do, your doctor should be able and willing to put

you on disability (so you get a paycheck) and then keep you on it so

it eventually switches to LTD while you do the SSD fight. You should

be eligible for FMLA protection too perhaps, although that does run

out and there's no guarantee that they would " keep " your job. That's

how it all started for me - short-term disability due to my

asthma/allergies.....then went to LTD and am now embroiled in the SSD

process (2 denials, attorney has filed for a hearing). It's something

you might want to explore. I know that my LTD payment isn't 100% of

what my salary was ***however*** I also do not have childcare any

longer, nor the added gas expense of driving back and forth to work

or the clothing expense - you get the idea.

Hope some or all of this works for you. I think that trying to

continue to work is hurting you more than helping you in the big

picture.

((((Hugs)))))

Darlene

> >

> > Well group, don't know where else to vent about this. I just

> wanted to touch base and gripe a little bit. I am finding that it

is

> harder and harder to work now. I just don't have a clue what I am

> going to do in the future with these two young children to raise.

I

> am delighted to have them in my life and love them with all my

heart

> and soul. I just wish it had not have been so late when I had

them.

> Because they don't get the best mom I could have been years ago.

> Ironic, huh?

> > The changes that have occured in me in just the last 3 years is

> unbelievable. I was literally on auto pilot at work this week.

The

> exhaustion is so horrible and debilitating. I find I have to take

> the hydrocodone to function. It is not only a great pain killer

for

> me, but it somehow lets the exhaustion up some. I hate this

though.

> I have to be dependent on some pills to keep going. That is not

the

> way I ever wanted my life to be. I almost feel guilty sometimes

> because I feel I should be stronger than that. If I did not work

> full time, I could cut the vicodin back at least to 3/4's or 1/2

the

> dose I take now.

> > At work when I get as if I cannot take another step because it

> feels like 20 pounds of weights are tied to my arms and legs, I

have

> to take the medication. At home, at least I can lay down and deal

> with it better. I rest more on my days off of course, so I don't

> take as much pain meds.

> >

> > This is a long post I know. I won't blame you if you don't have

> time to read it all.

> > I feel so trapped. If I applied for disability they would

> say " well you are working now " ... but if I quit working to

apply....

> then what the hell do we live on until all the red tape of

disability

> gets done? I mean some people apply 5 to 10 times and they still

> turn them down.

> >

> > Just wonder what I am going to do? I just can't see standing up

to

> this for another 20 years or so. I am only 43.

> >

> > Thanks for listening. I don't really think anyone has an answer

to

> fix it, but I just wanted to have someone listen I guess.

> >

> > love and hugs,

> > Debra V.

> >

> >

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> >

> >

[Guest guest]

You may be able to get Paid Family Leave it will supply you 6 weeks of money to

help you out. I got $249 a week. I am now on State Disability and I am in the

Fight for SSI and SDI. Then your doctor can put you on State Disability like

they did me and you can get the same ammount all based on your earnings. All you

need is a note from your doctor saying that you are disabled and you can recieve

it up to 1 year, while you are in the fight for SSI and SDI. Good Luck!

Krystal

Thank You and God Bless,

Krystal

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[Guest guest]

Texas where Debra lives and Arkansas where I live do not offer paid

family leave through the state. Was just reading online about that, had

never heard of it before!!

N.