Guest guest Posted March 10, 2008 Report Share Posted March 10, 2008 to update everyone that has reached out and touched me thank you for all of ya ll support as for an update he returned on my birthday feb 8th to make it final he was very ashmed of him self and said i feel like i have not got the right to take or ask to take anything but i just cane not live and watch you in this pain i told him to please take his clothes and that i had talked to an attorney and alimony in the form of half of his pay would easily be aworded to me in this crazy situation. the phone rang and we got word that his grand ma in Mass had just passed he cryed and said darlyn i promise on my grand mothers grave that i will make sure you are ok half my pay is your forever if you want to take it. he has continuted to direct deposit his check in to our joint account and i have taken as much as i could from it and he is still maintaining insurance on me. it has been hard aqnyway i was in total shock for awile and withdrew from the world then went thru depression and last week i awoke MAD so this week end i took down all our pictures took of my rings and well the fibro was still in control so i was in pain but know alone the house is a mess i can not do so much and that is hurting me too. the good news is i got the landlord to write me an eviction notice and i calledmy disability lawyer that is saying you may still have another year wait well the eviction notice changed that i send them a copy and it was submitted to the court and everything is now being speeded up i will let you know if aaaand how that goes. What i need is a roommate that would be of great help so i am looking for that. But alove suxs as much as fibro does Darlyn > > > > Darlyn > > > > He is not leaving you because you have FM he is leaving you because > he wants a different life, one that does not include you, for good > bad or indifferent, no pay cheque or lack of paycheck will keep you > from someone you love. In this instance it's easy (painful) but easy, > he has told the truth he is done and now it is time for you to gather > up what you have and dont have, take stock of your life and start to > build a new one. Of course all of this is SOOO easy to say and SOOO > hard to do, but try to remain positive your future is out there > somewhere waiting for you with a real man who does not care about you > health or whether your cheque arrives tomorrow or next week. Hold on > its going to be a bumpy ride but like it or not, your about to start > it, that;s what we are all here for...... > > > > Bonnie > > > > > > > > looking for advice > > > > My husband has desisded he does not want to be with a sick person > > anymore.. he has seen me fighting this,go thru a few surgeries and > he > > now said he is leaving. i have no one no income waiting the > endless > > wait on disability. i can not even pack my things . he says he is > just > > wanting to go out and do thing , i have for years begged lets do > > something i need to get out of here he always had the excuse that > he > > did not feel like it or to tire. i am so hurt lost and lonely i do > not > > know what to do or where to turn for help the lawyer says the wait > is > > at least another year. any advice it is getting he so down and > needless > > to say what all this stress is adding to me. for the last month he > is > > not coming home till very late at nite if then taking all the > money > > out of the bank -but he has said i promise you will have insurance > and > > half my paycheck when i leave. i am in shock and hurting so bad. > is > > there anywhere i can turn to for so money to get by. i can't even > eat > > from the stress for weeks now without getting very sick. Please > help > > me. > > Darlyn > > > > > > > > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on > the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always > check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along > with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just > dangerous in general. > > > > 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) > pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying > to make that situation better. > > > > 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group- > unsubscribe > > > > 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling > bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that > potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And > that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if it's > laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness > whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense > of humor. > > > > 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad > day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. > > > > Have a nice day everyone. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2008 Report Share Posted March 10, 2008 Wow do I know where you are coming from. My husband walked out Friday. I took off my rings as well. I really haven't missed him. I am taking care of our son, and we survived an entire night of storm and power outage, water leak, and so on. I know I can do this....and don't need a man in my life to survive. He called Sunday evening of coerse the weekend was over and wanted to come home. I said NO. And then called again today and asked also telling me of some family crisis on his side. But I still said NO looking for advice > > > > My husband has desisded he does not want to be with a sick person > > anymore.. he has seen me fighting this,go thru a few surgeries and > he > > now said he is leaving. i have no one no income waiting the > endless > > wait on disability. i can not even pack my things . he says he is > just > > wanting to go out and do thing , i have for years begged lets do > > something i need to get out of here he always had the excuse that > he > > did not feel like it or to tire. i am so hurt lost and lonely i do > not > > know what to do or where to turn for help the lawyer says the wait > is > > at least another year. any advice it is getting he so down and > needless > > to say what all this stress is adding to me. for the last month he > is > > not coming home till very late at nite if then taking all the > money > > out of the bank -but he has said i promise you will have insurance > and > > half my paycheck when i leave. i am in shock and hurting so bad. > is > > there anywhere i can turn to for so money to get by. i can't even > eat > > from the stress for weeks now without getting very sick. Please > help > > me. > > Darlyn > > > > > > > > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on > the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always > check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along > with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just > dangerous in general. > > > > 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) > pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying > to make that situation better. > > > > 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_ Support_Group- > unsubscribe@ yahoogroups. com > > > > 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling > bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that > potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And > that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if it's > laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness > whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense > of humor. > > > > 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad > day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. > > > > Have a nice day everyone. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2008 Report Share Posted March 10, 2008 Dear Darlyn, I am so sorry to hear of your traumatic situation with your husband. It is just horrible for you. But you keep up your strength and lean on the group for support. I agree with the one who said it is not just you that he is leaving, there is something wrong wtih him in his own life. You take care of yourself. Love Connie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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