Another Crisis

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My daughter just lost another friend last Thursday; this one to a drug overdose.

She spoke with him Wednesday and he promised her he was through with the drugs.

She'd been friends with him since 7th grade, and even though he'd moved away

they stayed in touch and he came back to visit frequently.

In addition, she found out Friday that despite all her extra activities, etc..

she would still be 1/2 credit short for graduation this June. Today she

revamped her schedule, dropped some of the extra stuff and settled in on

finishing school in October. They will allow her to walk next June; even though

she will start college in January. Since she started her junior year with only

1 1/2 credits; she's done remarkable in catching up.

This started her freshman year when a friend put a gun in his mouth one night

and the school hushed it up and wouldn't talk about it or let the kids talk

about it. My daughter shut down and didn't pass a class after that until I

moved her to another school her Junior year.

It's been one thing after another since then that I won't even go into here.

Including the " prank " the ex bf played on her about his own death earlier this

school year. She's done very well not only catching up but excelling in all her

test scores and exit exams. She broke records at the regular high school; let

alone being the first to ever score that high at the school she is at now.

She's also in regular counseling and is managing the depression much better.

So despite the delay, I'm very proud of her. I was afraid she was pushing too

hard to try and finish this June anyway. With her new plan, she will graduate

with honors.

OK so that's where I've been focused the last few days. Needless to say I was

very worried about her shutting down again. She seems better today but I have

to keep a close eye. Unfortunately, her next counselor appt. isn't until next

week, but I might let her take mine this week (same counselor). It just never

seems to end.

Angie Harley Mama Double-D

Carson City, NV; Single, five children (3 at home), 2 dogs, 4 cats, snow skiing,

camping, Harley Rider, Lone Wolf, Blue Thong Society/High Sierra Thong Snappers

member, LFA Advocate, independent, opinionated, outspoken, and open minded.

" It's always something. " ~~~Gilda Radner

" While we have the gift of life, it seems to me the only tragedy is to allow

part of us to die - whether it is our spirit,our creativity, or our glorious

uniqueness. " ~~~Gilda Radner

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> So despite the delay, I'm very proud of her. I was afraid she was

> pushing too hard to try and finish this June anyway. With her new

> plan, she will graduate with honors.

I'm proud of her too. As one who sat up in the library during the

last period of the day, working through the geometry textbook to try

to pass the class that I slept through all year, I'm proud of her.

Way back when, it seems like the worst problems we had in high school

were zits and garters working loose from stockings and snapping us in

the butts. But of course, they hushed up the bad stuff then too.

Congratulations to both you and your daughter. You're fighting for

her; she's fighting for herself. My best to you both.

Z

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Oh Angie. That poor girl has had too much to deal with. So sorry to hear this.

It is great that she has a mom like you for support and to be by her side.

love and hugs,

Debra V.

Angie wrote: My

daughter just lost another friend last Thursday; this one to a drug overdose.

She spoke with him Wednesday and he promised her he was through with the drugs.

She'd been friends with him since 7th grade, and even though he'd moved away

they stayed in touch and he came back to visit frequently.

In addition, she found out Friday that despite all her extra activities, etc..

she would still be 1/2 credit short for graduation this June. Today she

revamped her schedule, dropped some of the extra stuff and settled in on

finishing school in October. They will allow her to walk next June; even though

she will start college in January. Since she started her junior year with only

1 1/2 credits; she's done remarkable in catching up.

This started her freshman year when a friend put a gun in his mouth one night

and the school hushed it up and wouldn't talk about it or let the kids talk

about it. My daughter shut down and didn't pass a class after that until I

moved her to another school her Junior year.

It's been one thing after another since then that I won't even go into here.

Including the " prank " the ex bf played on her about his own death earlier this

school year. She's done very well not only catching up but excelling in all her

test scores and exit exams. She broke records at the regular high school; let

alone being the first to ever score that high at the school she is at now.

She's also in regular counseling and is managing the depression much better.

So despite the delay, I'm very proud of her. I was afraid she was pushing too

hard to try and finish this June anyway. With her new plan, she will graduate

with honors.

OK so that's where I've been focused the last few days. Needless to say I was

very worried about her shutting down again. She seems better today but I have

to keep a close eye. Unfortunately, her next counselor appt. isn't until next

week, but I might let her take mine this week (same counselor). It just never

seems to end.

Angie Harley Mama Double-D

Carson City, NV; Single, five children (3 at home), 2 dogs, 4 cats, snow

skiing, camping, Harley Rider, Lone Wolf, Blue Thong Society/High Sierra Thong

Snappers member, LFA Advocate, independent, opinionated, outspoken, and open

minded.

" It's always something. " ~~~Gilda Radner

" While we have the gift of life, it seems to me the only tragedy is to allow

part of us to die - whether it is our spirit,our creativity, or our glorious

uniqueness. " ~~~Gilda Radner

http://www.mybloglog.com/buzz/members/AGBlog/

http://360.yahoo.com/lovinglifeinnv

http://www.myspace.com/amkg

http://doripost.agrato.info/

http://wine-and-chocolate.blogspot.com/

http://weblog.xanga.com/purplepassionate

http://www.revolutionhealth.com/blogs/angiemg

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Angie, I hate that your daughter is going thru such an emotional crisis. There

is

so much that kids have to go thru now and it just makes them grow up so fast.

I hope that things will work out for ya'll and that there will be light at the

end of the

tunnel and it will not be a train..

nancy

Angie wrote:

My daughter just lost another friend last Thursday; this one to a drug

overdose. She spoke with him Wednesday and he promised her he was through with

the drugs. She'd been friends with him since 7th grade, and even though he'd

moved away they stayed in touch and he came back to visit frequently.

In addition, she found out Friday that despite all her extra activities, etc..

she would still be 1/2 credit short for graduation this June. Today she revamped

her schedule, dropped some of the extra stuff and settled in on finishing school

in October. They will allow her to walk next June; even though she will start

college in January. Since she started her junior year with only 1 1/2 credits;

she's done remarkable in catching up.

This started her freshman year when a friend put a gun in his mouth one night

and the school hushed it up and wouldn't talk about it or let the kids talk

about it. My daughter shut down and didn't pass a class after that until I moved

her to another school her Junior year.

It's been one thing after another since then that I won't even go into here.

Including the " prank " the ex bf played on her about his own death earlier this

school year. She's done very well not only catching up but excelling in all her

test scores and exit exams. She broke records at the regular high school; let

alone being the first to ever score that high at the school she is at now. She's

also in regular counseling and is managing the depression much better.

So despite the delay, I'm very proud of her. I was afraid she was pushing too

hard to try and finish this June anyway. With her new plan, she will graduate

with honors.

OK so that's where I've been focused the last few days. Needless to say I was

very worried about her shutting down again. She seems better today but I have to

keep a close eye. Unfortunately, her next counselor appt. isn't until next week,

but I might let her take mine this week (same counselor). It just never seems to

end.

Angie Harley Mama Double-D

Carson City, NV; Single, five children (3 at home), 2 dogs, 4 cats, snow skiing,

camping, Harley Rider, Lone Wolf, Blue Thong Society/High Sierra Thong Snappers

member, LFA Advocate, independent, opinionated, outspoken, and open minded.

" It's always something. " ~~~Gilda Radner

" While we have the gift of life, it seems to me the only tragedy is to allow

part of us to die - whether it is our spirit,our creativity, or our glorious

uniqueness. " ~~~Gilda Radner

http://www.mybloglog.com/buzz/members/AGBlog/

http://360.yahoo.com/lovinglifeinnv

http://www.myspace.com/amkg

http://doripost.agrato.info/

http://wine-and-chocolate.blogspot.com/

http://weblog.xanga.com/purplepassionate

http://www.revolutionhealth.com/blogs/angiemg

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=592316375

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/LupusSurvivorsU/

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>

> Angie wrote:

> My daughter just lost another friend last Thursday; this

one to a drug overdose. She spoke with him Wednesday and he promised

her he was through with the drugs. She'd been friends with him since

7th grade, and even though he'd moved away they stayed in touch and

he came back to visit frequently.

>

> In addition, she found out Friday that despite all her extra

activities, etc.. she would still be 1/2 credit short for graduation

this June. Today she revamped her schedule, dropped some of the extra

stuff and settled in on finishing school in October. They will allow

her to walk next June; even though she will start college in January.

Since she started her junior year with only 1 1/2 credits; she's done

remarkable in catching up.

>

> This started her freshman year when a friend put a gun in his mouth

one night and the school hushed it up and wouldn't talk about it or

let the kids talk about it. My daughter shut down and didn't pass a

class after that until I moved her to another school her Junior year.

>

> It's been one thing after another since then that I won't even go

into here. Including the " prank " the ex bf played on her about his

own death earlier this school year. She's done very well not only

catching up but excelling in all her test scores and exit exams. She

broke records at the regular high school; let alone being the first

to ever score that high at the school she is at now. She's also in

regular counseling and is managing the depression much better.

>

> So despite the delay, I'm very proud of her. I was afraid she was

pushing too hard to try and finish this June anyway. With her new

plan, she will graduate with honors.

>

> OK so that's where I've been focused the last few days. Needless to

say I was very worried about her shutting down again. She seems

better today but I have to keep a close eye. Unfortunately, her next

counselor appt. isn't until next week, but I might let her take mine

this week (same counselor). It just never seems to end.

> Angie Harley Mama Double-D

>

First of all, congratulations on what you daughter has acheived!! I

do think that it shows she has strength despite the emotional turmoil

she has been through!

What I find really very wrong is that the school covered up the death

of her friend! That is so wrong --- and since she is a senior, I

would have thought that the school would have been more aware of the

damage hiding such acts from kids can do!! We've seen too many other

situations on our tvs that, to have covered up what the young man did

and NOT to let the kids talk about it, is a disgrace on the part of

the school. As adults, I know we don't understand such acts (even I

could not really tell you why I took an overdose and my stomach had

to be pumped out) but to prevent the students from expressing their

questions, emotions, etc. is so wrong! I do believe that your

decision to remove her from that school was very appropriate and I

applaud you for that decision.

And while, she will be taking college classes by the time the

graduation rolls around, getting to join other students and walk

across that stage (or whatever area they use) can give an individual

a very good feeling and is also good for one's self esteem. I have

to admitted that I flunked out of college 3 times and when I decided

I wanted to go back, I was fortunate to being working at the

university and the dean of the department I worked in was able to get

me into another " college " of the university! I managed, despite the

grade point when I started taking classes again, to raise it pretty

high despite the # of credits I had when I flunked out the last

time. I did put off applying for graduation for 4 years as I thought

I could take a few more classes and get the grade point up so I could

get into a master's program. But, I finally decided living 300 +

miles away, I was never going to be back. So, I applied, got the

gown, etc. AND was so happy to see that the dean of my college by

then was one of my favorite professors and even recognized me (this

is a university that averages more than 20,000 students each year.)

So, if your daughter works as hard as she has she has a very good

opportunity to succeed. And I do hope you are/were able to take her

with you to see your therapist this week!

But please, let your daughter know that she can do whatever she sets

her mind to and also has goals for herself. And another thing, is

that even though I am many years older than she is, even the loss of

a friend at my age for any reason is devastating. (I walked around

in a fog most of January and February and may still be in it when I

knew that a friend had a short time left --- and there is a hole in

me that no one else can fill!)