RE: Re: Family & Fibro.../Darlene RE: HOW ARE U

March 18, 2008

Darlene- On your thought I just wanted to say I have learned to HATE that

question. For these reasons. 1. It reminds me, puts it right in my face, that

I am not alright. 2.Most of those who know that we have this and don't except

it, want to hear a different answer then we can tell them, and get us arguing

over how we should just think positive, it can't be that bad. 3.If they ask and

we say Not good, they say what's the matter and then can't barley have the time

to listen to it all so cut you of in the middle of it. 4. Alot of times won't

ask if there is anything they can do to lighten the load. 5. And I just plane

don't want to answer it anymore because I can not and have not been able to say

fine in yrs., and don't want to ruin anyone else's day out there that are doing

great, have no problems, or if they do there's is justified as you can see what

they suffer with, and then I have had to feel guilty that I should not complain

as I have been told I look alright. So I

say Let's rid that question out of the english vocabulary. Hope your having a

lighter day. Take care Sharon

Tigger wrote: That's what I don't get

about my brother. When he calls and asks how I am I

say " fine " . He then asks if I'm lying to him. well, if he already knows I'm

lying to him than he should just take fine as an answer. Oooooo, families

piss me off sometimes.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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Subject: Re: Family & Fibro...

I tried to explain to my mom one day and she held up her hands which

are crippled with arthritis and said you can't possibly hurt more than

I do! So.....I don't mention it. Now my DH does.....because I have

started falling more and being more clumsy. When my mom asked him why

that was? He said it was the fibro. So she'll get it eventually.

I just figure that I have so many chronic issues that I don't talk

about them to the family unless they ask, you know? My mom is upset

that I'm on zoloft and klonipin, but the zoloft was given to me not so

much for depression but for the cortisol overload (from stress) that I

was under! If it has the byproduct of helping my mood, so be it.

I hate though that so many of this group have had family fall-outs

because of fibro. That's sad. First because family SHOULD be in our

corner " no matter what " and second, sometimes, friends bail and we have

no one else to turn to. With my sister in the healthcare industry

(she's a nurse), I think she understands. I don't exaggerate my

symptoms and DH is very very good about making me sit if we are at a

family thing and he notices I am wearing out.

Darlene

>

> Teri,

> I'm sorry you are going through the " family " thing. Starting on your

kids...no way! Like I said, it's their loss! It is hard from time to

time, but you just can't dwell on it. It is up to ourselves to make

ourselves happy. I have bad days thinking about it, but I get over it

too and move on...you have to.

> Take care,

> /Mi

>

March 18, 2008

So basically, we lie. At least that's what I'm learning from all of this.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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[mailto:Fibromyalgia_Support_Group ] On Behalf Of sharon

studley

Sent: Tuesday, March 18, 2008 1:13 PM

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Subject: RE: Re: Family & Fibro.../Darlene RE: HOW ARE U

Darlene- On your thought I just wanted to say I have learned to HATE that

question. For these reasons. 1. It reminds me, puts it right in my face,

that I am not alright. 2.Most of those who know that we have this and don't

except it, want to hear a different answer then we can tell them, and get us

arguing over how we should just think positive, it can't be that bad. 3.If

they ask and we say Not good, they say what's the matter and then can't

barley have the time to listen to it all so cut you of in the middle of it.

4. Alot of times won't ask if there is anything they can do to lighten the

load. 5. And I just plane don't want to answer it anymore because I can not

and have not been able to say fine in yrs., and don't want to ruin anyone

else's day out there that are doing great, have no problems, or if they do

there's is justified as you can see what they suffer with, and then I have

had to feel guilty that I should not complain as I have been told I look

alright. So I

say Let's rid that question out of the english vocabulary. Hope your having

a lighter day. Take care Sharon

Tigger <tigger.pinkraincoat <mailto:tigger.pinkraincoat%40gmail.com>

@gmail.com> wrote: That's what I don't get about my brother. When he calls

and asks how I am I

say " fine " . He then asks if I'm lying to him. well, if he already knows I'm

lying to him than he should just take fine as an answer. Oooooo, families

piss me off sometimes.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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