RE: Re: Pushing thru Tigger/Sharon

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I don't know if you are old enough to remember the movie with Bette

called " Whatever Happened to Baby Jane " . that's what I feel like sometimes.

ly, I have fought and lost too many things important to me to worry

about what anyone says. including my brother. I had to give my dogs away

and to me that was like giving a child away. After that, I don't care much

about what happens to me, but as long as I'm " with it " enough I cannot take

that kind of verbal abuse.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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[mailto:Fibromyalgia_Support_Group ] On Behalf Of sharon

studley

Sent: Tuesday, March 18, 2008 2:01 PM

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Subject: RE: Re: Pushing thru Tigger

Hi again- You know all I can say is your brother finding you in that way,

and thinking he almost lost you, should CHERISH you and never mind what the

Heck you talk about at a family/friend whatever he had gathering! I can not

believe him, I know I have said probably enough about this and please tell

me to shut-up about it if I have and your sick of it, but how close minded

can he be? What should he hide you in the back room if you have some day to

be there in a wheelchair? Illness is all around him whether he choses to

accept it or not, not only in you but everywhere you go, should he choose

not to accept it, hear it, or deal with it he should hold himself up at home

alone and not be lucky enough to meet, know, and hear of some of the

horrific stories of survival these people who have been dealt these

diseases, whether seeable or not, have endured, survived and continue to

chose to be brave enough to live through! I only hope he never get's ill, as

it is people like

you and others who I listen to where I gain my strength to endure another

day with more ease. Do whatever YOU feel you need to do to feel okay with

what he has done to you. Maybe he will come to his senses and realize what a

strong, likeable, fun sister, he is lucky to have and apoligize on realize

what is has missed out on, not spending time with you. Is he your only

sibbling? But on to better. Let's hope things go okay that we can catch up

somewhere in warm good traveling weather. Since you like to drive, anytime

you want to round up the R.I gang and come up for a visit, I have the room

and would love company. My husband is gone most of summer, and we could plan

a fibro slumber party! You can talk about it all Tigger. Hope you better

days.. Oh, did you find ex? and find he is okay? Take Care Sharon

Tigger <tigger.pinkraincoat <mailto:tigger.pinkraincoat%40gmail.com>

@gmail.com> wrote: I was taught from a very tough mother to " push through

it " no matter was it

was. I was on the swim team at camp one year and smashed my foot on the

cement pool doing a flip turn and I kept going. By the time I was done my

ankle and foot were huge. couldn't ignore it. Dad brought me to the

hospital and I had torn ligaments in my foot. I was on crutches and mom

wanted me to just " push through it " . Had I done that I could have had

permanent damage.

Even now my theory about the ER is. you don't go unless there is a bone

sticking out somewhere or you're unconscious. Mom's been gone a long time

now (20 years), but those lessons are hard to let go of.

I try and do what you do and schedule things around other things. I can't

do too many things in a row or I'm down for the count.

Feb. 25, 2007 my brother found me unconscious on the floor and they figure I

was there about 30 hours. I kept pushing through it. I'd fall on my face

(broke my nose, bones above my eyes, etc.) and I'd get back up because you

" push through it " . So, when my brother found me I had pushed through it for

the last time. I had a near death experience and realized how close things

were. and I wanted to let go. My Mom was on the other side and said it

wasn't my time. If I hadn't had that " just push through it " thrown at me my

whole life I might have avoided being mis-treated in the hospital for 3

weeks and then another week with a blood clot.

There is something to be said for letting go and knowing the difference

between the important and the not so important. Don't put your self at

risk.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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Sent: Tuesday, March 18, 2008 8:23 AM

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Subject: Re: Pushing thru

I'll chime in here too. I have found if I try to push thru or keep on

like I used to, I pay for it later that day or the next few days. So

I bought a slightly larger daily calendar that still fits in my purse

(somehow, not sure how though!). Anyhow, I make sure NOT to schedule

too much (I used to try to get all doctors on same day, etc.) and if

there is something special coming up, I try to make sure that the day

or two before are " clear " . I may putter in my house a little, but I

don't become " SUPERMOM " and bust thru the house with my mop and broom

and dust rag. Because it'll be there the next day.

And it DOES frustrate me that what used to take me a few hours or

even a day to accomplish (housecleaning and laundry for instance) now

has to be spaced out over the week or at least several days. But I

can still do it for the most part (DH does the sweeping and mopping

as they trigger lovely spasms); there are so many who cannot due to

other conditions.

So as the saying goes, I'll take it one day at a time. Today is a so-

so day; I have a lovely headache that I know is remnant from sleeping

in the hospital bed. It'll work itself out (can feel the knots in my

shoulders) if I just continue to try and relax!

Darlene

And the ONLY reason my roots are not showing is I had my hair done

two weeks prior to going into the hospital!

>

> You guys hit the nail right on the head! Pushing through the pain

to do

> something - or choosing to make yourself do something. That's

exactly how

> life is with fibro for me (and I'm sure for many others.) One

thing I've

> learned the hard way is to choose NOT to do something. I used to

be the

> type that had to have everything done all the time. It's been

difficult to

> learn to let things go mainly because I can't play super woman

anymore. It

> seems when I didn't get everything done I had major guilt. I think

that

> came from my upbringing and a bad ex-husband. Most things will

still be

> there tomorrow.

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> And Debra V - mine is brown with gray roots which I made myself

color last

> week after way too long. :-)

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> Teri (central Wisconsin)

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