Guest guest Posted April 30, 2012 Report Share Posted April 30, 2012 I've tried, but she doesn't want to do her part. She's always right, and I feel like I'm a disappointment to her. Becky Re: need to vent > Becky, I " m no dear Abby or anything but I have been around a long > time, well, sort of. Why not try talking to other people about your > diabetes/food and when your mom starts, say thank you so much for caring > but I'm giving you a break right now and talking to other people right > now. I know it must bother tyou to the point where you may not want to > talk to her at all, but when she is gone, you may regret that. I'm not > trying to put you on a guilt trip, but my mom has been gone a long time > now and if I could have her back I'd probably do some things different. > I did not have diabetes when she was here, but we had our tough spots, > as we all do. I really am only trying to be helpful, not condemning. > Vicki Meizinger > > > ------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2012 Report Share Posted April 30, 2012 I don't know if this will help you or not. Just agree with your mother, and ask her advice on what to do. Keep her talking, and when she is no longer around, do what you will.Remember she is just trying to be helpful, and you can spend your energy on meditation and prayer.Repeat a mantra to yourself until you achieve the goals of the mantra. The mantra is peace, love and compassion.It may not be a quick fix, since it may take several hours to achieve the goals of the mantra. Once it took me around nine hours of continuous repetition and prayer before I arrived at another solution other than murder. I don't know if it will work for you, but it did for me, and a person lives today because of it, and I do not feel guilty at all.Unwanted advice and help is something all blind people have to learn to deal with.I don't know if it will work for you, but it did for me. I know about murderous rages, and how destructive they can bve.How long does it take you to say to yourself peace love compassion. How many times do you suppose you can say it to yourself in a nine hour span, which it took me to arrive at another solution. hth, Harry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2012 Report Share Posted April 30, 2012 That is too bad. Sometimes you just have to realize that is the way the person is and let it go. Avoid talking with her as much as you can. _____ From: blind-diabetics [mailto:blind-diabetics ] On Behalf Of Becky McCullough Sent: Monday, April 30, 2012 1:15 PM To: blind-diabetics Subject: Re: need to vent I've tried, but she doesn't want to do her part. She's always right, and I feel like I'm a disappointment to her. Becky Re: need to vent > Becky, I " m no dear Abby or anything but I have been around a long > time, well, sort of. Why not try talking to other people about your > diabetes/food and when your mom starts, say thank you so much for caring > but I'm giving you a break right now and talking to other people right > now. I know it must bother tyou to the point where you may not want to > talk to her at all, but when she is gone, you may regret that. I'm not > trying to put you on a guilt trip, but my mom has been gone a long time > now and if I could have her back I'd probably do some things different. > I did not have diabetes when she was here, but we had our tough spots, > as we all do. I really am only trying to be helpful, not condemning. > Vicki Meizinger > > > ------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2012 Report Share Posted May 1, 2012 Harry Sir? are you speaking of a x wife? sounds just like the kind of attitude one would have or could have with a x. lots of huge words you have used here and now I got to go look them up to see what they mean. when you can't spell as I can't, then you only use words that are used by fifth graders and below. I assume you may have went to college to learn these big words? maybe you should run for President? I've never heard him use huge words like this unless they were written down for him first. Re: need to vent I don't know if this will help you or not. Just agree with your mother, and ask her advice on what to do. Keep her talking, and when she is no longer around, do what you will.Remember she is just trying to be helpful, and you can spend your energy on meditation and prayer.Repeat a mantra to yourself until you achieve the goals of the mantra. The mantra is peace, love and compassion.It may not be a quick fix, since it may take several hours to achieve the goals of the mantra. Once it took me around nine hours of continuous repetition and prayer before I arrived at another solution other than murder. I don't know if it will work for you, but it did for me, and a person lives today because of it, and I do not feel guilty at all.Unwanted advice and help is something all blind people have to learn to deal with.I don't know if it will work for you, but it did for me. I know about murderous rages, and how destructive they can bve.How long does it take you to say to yourself peace love compassion. How many times do you suppose you can say it to yourself in a nine hour span, which it took me to arrive at another solution. hth, Harry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2012 Report Share Posted May 2, 2012 Hi Becky, that is a difficult situation, but at times, you just have to say, mom, I really appreciate you trying to help, but I am okay, and I can handle myself. Just a short sentence like that, then quickly change the subject! I don't think that you want to stop talking to your mom, but you don't want your time with her to be unpleasant either. My parents were both very protective, and I just kept say, mom, dad, I am doing fine, and then just change the subject, and ask about how she's doing. Moms and dads do those things because they care, but don't know how to express it! Be patient, and just keep changing the subject! Good luck, and vent any time! need to vent Hi List, I'm thankful my mom is still here, but every time I call her she acts like the food police, and gets on my case. I can't seem to have a normal conversation without her discussing my weight or diabetes. She doesn't remember some stuff from a long time ago. I think she is getting althymers. I just needed someone to talk to. Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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