Re: Stupids/Irresponsibility

[Guest guest]

Hi Marti,

I still remember something you said a long time back. You said your

son spent his teens fighting for his life and now he has to learn how

to live. It seems like it should be happily ever after, but he's

probably quite short on skills like good study habits. He lived with a

sense of doom so long it's hard to develop a sense of purpose all at

once.

My husband is a professor and has referred people to the Dean of

Students' office to help them work out a plan to pass his class. He

doesn't want them to fail either. The college's mental health services

and academic advisors may be able to help him with those skills and

intercede with professors to get incompletes instead of F's so he can

complete the work over the summer. Then he can start with a lighter

work load in the fall. But he needs to feel the heat, or he won't be

motivated. The time to do this is now, not finals week. You can call

the Dean's office yourself if he won't.

Good luck to all of you

Martha (MA)

> -----Original Message-----

> Can any of you that had your tx as a teen or 20 something tell me if you

> got a case of the stupids after?

[Guest guest]

thank you for the advise. I will give it a try. He will be home for the first time in 2 months tomorrow for break. I plan on sitting with him and coming up with a plan. MartiMartha wrote: Hi Marti,I still remember something you said a long time back. You said yourson spent his teens fighting for his life and now he has to learn howto live. It seems like it should be happily ever after, but he'sprobably quite short on skills like good study habits. He lived with

asense of doom so long it's hard to develop a sense of purpose all atonce. My husband is a professor and has referred people to the Dean ofStudents' office to help them work out a plan to pass his class. Hedoesn't want them to fail either. The college's mental health servicesand academic advisors may be able to help him with those skills andintercede with professors to get incompletes instead of F's so he cancomplete the work over the summer. Then he can start with a lighterwork load in the fall. But he needs to feel the heat, or he won't bemotivated. The time to do this is now, not finals week. You can callthe Dean's office yourself if he won't. Good luck to all of youMartha (MA) > -----Original Message-----> Can any of you that had your tx as a teen or 20 something tell me if you> got a case of the stupids after?

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[Guest guest]

Marti,

I think you are getting some sound advice. I would look into what kinda

help your state offers for health insurance. And Martha's suggestion on

working with the school. Your son is not your typical student and

therefore may be allowed extra help. BUT HE has to want it. Then there

is the possiblity he is not ready for college. Do your best to see if

he knows what he wants and support that, or if he doesn't ask him if he

needs help finding what that is. It is going to be hard because he

spent most of his life fighting for it... and now what...

He is in my prayers,

Litsa

DH TX 1/03/07 for PSC