Guest guest Posted October 13, 2006 Report Share Posted October 13, 2006 , I feel the same way as you ; I have a hard time with men and some women looking at me. I go out in public with blinders (meaning that I don't look at other people in the eye) on I have a hard time making eye contact with anybody. I feel uncomfortable when they do look at me. I had a therapist ask me if I thought I was pretty, I told her I was average. She stopped me and said very stern voice that I was not average that I was beautiful. LOL I don't see that therapist anymore. It made me feel uncomfortable. I had surgery 2 years ago and this is the biggest thing I struggle with. I think when I was big I could just blend in. I like blending in. Don't get me wrong I am not drop dead beautiful I am average and with being average I still have a hard time with this. I just wish I could be more comfortable in my own skin. , How do you do it woman??? I would love to go out and feel confident and sexy. You go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OXOXOX Hugs!!! > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only thought about because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't get a ton of male attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, but not a lot. To be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large woman. As an overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it scared the hell out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started gaining weight. Now, I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm down to goal weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't thought deeply about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think about it. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2006 Report Share Posted October 13, 2006 My therapist told me that she thinks I'm pretty and extremely smart. She said she's surprised I didn't leave my husband long ago. I think she needs therapy! But it's amazing to me because when I look in the mirror, I realize that I don't see what other people see. I see abusive relationships, fear, agressive men, and some self abusiveness as well. It's time to step away from that and see myself in a new way. --- " O. " wrote: > , > > I feel the same way as you ; I have a hard > time with men and > some women looking at me. I go out in public with > blinders (meaning > that I don't look at other people in the eye) on I > have a hard time > making eye contact with anybody. I feel > uncomfortable when they do > look at me. I had a therapist ask me if I thought I > was pretty, I > told her I was average. She stopped me and said very > stern voice that > I was not average that I was beautiful. LOL I don't > see that > therapist anymore. It made me feel uncomfortable. > I had surgery 2 > years ago and this is the biggest thing I struggle > with. I think when > I was big I could just blend in. I like blending in. > Don't get me > wrong I am not drop dead beautiful I am average and > with being > average I still have a hard time with this. I just > wish I could be > more comfortable in my own skin. > > > , > > How do you do it woman??? I would love to go out > and feel confident > and sexy. You go > girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OXOXOX > > > Hugs!!! > > > > > > > > > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only > thought about > because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't > get a ton of male > attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, > but not a lot. To > be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large > woman. As an > overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it > scared the hell > out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started > gaining weight. Now, > I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm > down to goal > weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't > thought deeply > about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think > about it. > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2006 Report Share Posted October 13, 2006 My therapist told me that she thinks I'm pretty and extremely smart. She said she's surprised I didn't leave my husband long ago. I think she needs therapy! But it's amazing to me because when I look in the mirror, I realize that I don't see what other people see. I see abusive relationships, fear, agressive men, and some self abusiveness as well. It's time to step away from that and see myself in a new way. --- " O. " wrote: > , > > I feel the same way as you ; I have a hard > time with men and > some women looking at me. I go out in public with > blinders (meaning > that I don't look at other people in the eye) on I > have a hard time > making eye contact with anybody. I feel > uncomfortable when they do > look at me. I had a therapist ask me if I thought I > was pretty, I > told her I was average. She stopped me and said very > stern voice that > I was not average that I was beautiful. LOL I don't > see that > therapist anymore. It made me feel uncomfortable. > I had surgery 2 > years ago and this is the biggest thing I struggle > with. I think when > I was big I could just blend in. I like blending in. > Don't get me > wrong I am not drop dead beautiful I am average and > with being > average I still have a hard time with this. I just > wish I could be > more comfortable in my own skin. > > > , > > How do you do it woman??? I would love to go out > and feel confident > and sexy. You go > girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OXOXOX > > > Hugs!!! > > > > > > > > > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only > thought about > because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't > get a ton of male > attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, > but not a lot. To > be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large > woman. As an > overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it > scared the hell > out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started > gaining weight. Now, > I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm > down to goal > weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't > thought deeply > about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think > about it. > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2006 Report Share Posted October 13, 2006 My therapist told me that she thinks I'm pretty and extremely smart. She said she's surprised I didn't leave my husband long ago. I think she needs therapy! But it's amazing to me because when I look in the mirror, I realize that I don't see what other people see. I see abusive relationships, fear, agressive men, and some self abusiveness as well. It's time to step away from that and see myself in a new way. --- " O. " wrote: > , > > I feel the same way as you ; I have a hard > time with men and > some women looking at me. I go out in public with > blinders (meaning > that I don't look at other people in the eye) on I > have a hard time > making eye contact with anybody. I feel > uncomfortable when they do > look at me. I had a therapist ask me if I thought I > was pretty, I > told her I was average. She stopped me and said very > stern voice that > I was not average that I was beautiful. LOL I don't > see that > therapist anymore. It made me feel uncomfortable. > I had surgery 2 > years ago and this is the biggest thing I struggle > with. I think when > I was big I could just blend in. I like blending in. > Don't get me > wrong I am not drop dead beautiful I am average and > with being > average I still have a hard time with this. I just > wish I could be > more comfortable in my own skin. > > > , > > How do you do it woman??? I would love to go out > and feel confident > and sexy. You go > girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OXOXOX > > > Hugs!!! > > > > > > > > > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only > thought about > because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't > get a ton of male > attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, > but not a lot. To > be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large > woman. As an > overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it > scared the hell > out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started > gaining weight. Now, > I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm > down to goal > weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't > thought deeply > about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think > about it. > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2006 Report Share Posted October 13, 2006 Mike do I have to get the hose out again? lol.........she is married! Mike T Re: and W. > ROFLOL!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU MIKE!!!! > > Hugs!!! > > > >> > > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only thought about >> > because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't get a ton of >> male >> > attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, but not a lot. >> To >> > be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large woman. As an >> > overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it scared the > hell >> > out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started gaining weight. >> Now, >> > I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm down to goal >> > weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't thought > deeply >> > about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think about it. >> > > > >> > > >> > >> > > > > > > We are a very active support group. > If the email becomes overwhelming, > please change your setting to NO EMAIL! > Please contact Group Creator > Robyn@... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2006 Report Share Posted October 13, 2006 Mike do I have to get the hose out again? lol.........she is married! Mike T Re: and W. > ROFLOL!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU MIKE!!!! > > Hugs!!! > > > >> > > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only thought about >> > because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't get a ton of >> male >> > attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, but not a lot. >> To >> > be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large woman. As an >> > overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it scared the > hell >> > out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started gaining weight. >> Now, >> > I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm down to goal >> > weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't thought > deeply >> > about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think about it. >> > > > >> > > >> > >> > > > > > > We are a very active support group. > If the email becomes overwhelming, > please change your setting to NO EMAIL! > Please contact Group Creator > Robyn@... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 , my therapist asked me the other day what I saw in the mirror and when I thought about it, I was still ashamed. Helped me realize I still have some work to do.. I really believe getting myself out there into society is going to really help. Wang wrote: My therapist told me that she thinks I'm pretty and extremely smart. She said she's surprised I didn't leave my husband long ago. I think she needs therapy! But it's amazing to me because when I look in the mirror, I realize that I don't see what other people see. I see abusive relationships, fear, agressive men, and some self abusiveness as well. It's time to step away from that and see myself in a new way. --- " O. " wrote: > , > > I feel the same way as you ; I have a hard > time with men and > some women looking at me. I go out in public with > blinders (meaning > that I don't look at other people in the eye) on I > have a hard time > making eye contact with anybody. I feel > uncomfortable when they do > look at me. I had a therapist ask me if I thought I > was pretty, I > told her I was average. She stopped me and said very > stern voice that > I was not average that I was beautiful. LOL I don't > see that > therapist anymore. It made me feel uncomfortable. > I had surgery 2 > years ago and this is the biggest thing I struggle > with. I think when > I was big I could just blend in. I like blending in. > Don't get me > wrong I am not drop dead beautiful I am average and > with being > average I still have a hard time with this. I just > wish I could be > more comfortable in my own skin. > > > , > > How do you do it woman??? I would love to go out > and feel confident > and sexy. You go > girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OXOXOX > > > Hugs!!! > > > > > > > > > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only > thought about > because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't > get a ton of male > attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, > but not a lot. To > be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large > woman. As an > overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it > scared the hell > out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started > gaining weight. Now, > I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm > down to goal > weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't > thought deeply > about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think > about it. > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 , my therapist asked me the other day what I saw in the mirror and when I thought about it, I was still ashamed. Helped me realize I still have some work to do.. I really believe getting myself out there into society is going to really help. Wang wrote: My therapist told me that she thinks I'm pretty and extremely smart. She said she's surprised I didn't leave my husband long ago. I think she needs therapy! But it's amazing to me because when I look in the mirror, I realize that I don't see what other people see. I see abusive relationships, fear, agressive men, and some self abusiveness as well. It's time to step away from that and see myself in a new way. --- " O. " wrote: > , > > I feel the same way as you ; I have a hard > time with men and > some women looking at me. I go out in public with > blinders (meaning > that I don't look at other people in the eye) on I > have a hard time > making eye contact with anybody. I feel > uncomfortable when they do > look at me. I had a therapist ask me if I thought I > was pretty, I > told her I was average. She stopped me and said very > stern voice that > I was not average that I was beautiful. LOL I don't > see that > therapist anymore. It made me feel uncomfortable. > I had surgery 2 > years ago and this is the biggest thing I struggle > with. I think when > I was big I could just blend in. I like blending in. > Don't get me > wrong I am not drop dead beautiful I am average and > with being > average I still have a hard time with this. I just > wish I could be > more comfortable in my own skin. > > > , > > How do you do it woman??? I would love to go out > and feel confident > and sexy. You go > girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OXOXOX > > > Hugs!!! > > > > > > > > > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only > thought about > because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't > get a ton of male > attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, > but not a lot. To > be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large > woman. As an > overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it > scared the hell > out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started > gaining weight. Now, > I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm > down to goal > weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't > thought deeply > about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think > about it. > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 , my therapist asked me the other day what I saw in the mirror and when I thought about it, I was still ashamed. Helped me realize I still have some work to do.. I really believe getting myself out there into society is going to really help. Wang wrote: My therapist told me that she thinks I'm pretty and extremely smart. She said she's surprised I didn't leave my husband long ago. I think she needs therapy! But it's amazing to me because when I look in the mirror, I realize that I don't see what other people see. I see abusive relationships, fear, agressive men, and some self abusiveness as well. It's time to step away from that and see myself in a new way. --- " O. " wrote: > , > > I feel the same way as you ; I have a hard > time with men and > some women looking at me. I go out in public with > blinders (meaning > that I don't look at other people in the eye) on I > have a hard time > making eye contact with anybody. I feel > uncomfortable when they do > look at me. I had a therapist ask me if I thought I > was pretty, I > told her I was average. She stopped me and said very > stern voice that > I was not average that I was beautiful. LOL I don't > see that > therapist anymore. It made me feel uncomfortable. > I had surgery 2 > years ago and this is the biggest thing I struggle > with. I think when > I was big I could just blend in. I like blending in. > Don't get me > wrong I am not drop dead beautiful I am average and > with being > average I still have a hard time with this. I just > wish I could be > more comfortable in my own skin. > > > , > > How do you do it woman??? I would love to go out > and feel confident > and sexy. You go > girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OXOXOX > > > Hugs!!! > > > > > > > > > > I have a sort of odd question that I've only > thought about > because of this thread. As a larger woman, I don't > get a ton of male > attention. Friendly male attention. I do get some, > but not a lot. To > be honest, it's part of the reason I became a large > woman. As an > overdeveloped teen, I got too much attention and it > scared the hell > out of me. So I wore larger clothes and started > gaining weight. Now, > I'm an adult. What if I can't deal with it when I'm > down to goal > weight? Anyone with similar issues. I really hadn't > thought deeply > about it, but it could sabotage me if I don't think > about it. > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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