RE: Re: My personal favorite Nada one liners.

April 17, 2012

Oh - you just made me flash on one Nada's most hurtful ones at me.

" YOU'RE NOT MY DAUGHTER!!!! "

Usually screamed when she is feeling threatened and jealous of my good

relationship with my stepdad of 25 years!

The sick woman is actually jealous of me when I treat my stepdad as family

although my biological dad took off when I was 9 mos old.

When I have tried to explain to her that I think of him as family and

appreciate him her usual reply is " Well, has he ADOPTED you?!??!?!? "

She's quite sick.

M-

From: WTOAdultChildren1

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Subject: Re: My personal favorite Nada one liners.

Here's my " favorite " ...

" I'm not your mother anymore " or variations including " go live with you

father " or " so and so can be your mother now. "

What about...

" you think your pretty smart don't you? "

or, after being sent to speak to my father to try to " fix " their failing

marriage...

" tell me exactly what you said " or " well, obviously you didn't try hard

enough "

The most recent broken record varies on the theme of...

" you are so selfish " or " you just go where the money is "

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh

> >

> > Oh, someone has already mentioned this one, " I know you better than you

know yourself. " My nada used that one on me until I distanced myself from

her in college.

> >

> > My nada also likes to say, " I would have raised you differently if I

knew you were going to take all the goodies and run, when you turned

eighteen. "

> > Goodies? Like trick or treat? Hmm. Like my chipped tooth? The

crazy-making denigrations? Bloody noses? Being beaten with a broom?

> >

> > My nada used to say, " You always just want to have FUNNNNN. " It made her

mad that I found pleasant humor in the blackest of situations. Oh well, her

loss. I have sanity because I can laugh at myself.

> >

> > And my nada is stuck in the past. My favorite one liner that has me

roaring whenever I think about it is: " The only reason your husband got his

job at ____ Ivy League College is because he mentioned Dad. " Huh! Is that

ever self-delusion! My dad got an undergraduate degree from this Ivy League

College in 1953. I doubt he gave to his Alma mater. (Parents are

cheapskates.) My husband got a post-doctoral position by talking to people

in his field at a conference, in 1991 and that referrel ended up in a job

being created for him in the same department my dad graduated from. The

people that my dad knew would have been long gone... forty years later.

> >

> > My nada also has some funny ways of not seeing that others have

relationships with her siblings that have nothing to do with her. She will

tell me " Those are my sisters and brothers. They are nothing to you. " When I

tell her, they are my aunts and uncles, and that their children are my

cousins, she will echo me as if I am the one from Mars. " Your cousins? What

are they to ME? "

> >

> > That is when I pinch myself and say, Thank God I am three thousand miles

and 35 light years away from this insanity!

> >

> > Oh and the meanest one liner is the one my mom uttered a year ago when

she told me, " Your father doesn't like to talk to you on the phone.... I

guess he finds you.... " Long long pause... " ...boring! "

> >

> > Yes, my nada has what I call reverse intution. She knows where it will

hurt and she takes great pride in coming at me from left field.

> >

> > Looking for the good in my life, and getting past the worst ... with

laughter.

> >

> > Thanks for this topic.

> >

April 17, 2012