Is this psychopath behavior or what?

April 17, 2012

So I have had a rather major dispute with a co-worker. In fact, in many ways,

the project we are working on is on hold until we can have mediation with HR.

She has behaved badly, undermined my authority, been very disrespectful, and

this is not behavior that I've let get out of hand. Each time she does

something, which jeopardizes a project I am ultimately responsible for, I

confront her with it as diplomatically as I can, but I reinforce that this was

not correct and ask her not to do that again. She always just blows it off and

then immediately tries to act like we are best buds. She ignores the problem and

just continues to behave badly. It's very much like gaslighting, because she

says stuff like, " oh I never would see it that way! " or " wow, I don't know how

you could ever take it that way! " but never acknowledges the mistake or anything

just blows it off and then acts like we're best buds. Which we are not. In the

midst of this blowup, which required a third party to resolve, and we meet in

about half an hour, earlier today she corners me in the kitchen and tries to

have this friendly, totally innocent conversation with me. I don't trust her. I

don't appreciate her acting like nothing is wrong when I am very upset with how

she has behaved at work, how she has endangered the project, and I don't trust

her. She seems to think that if she can get me to engage in a friendly

conversation then that means that everything is okay and she doesn't have to

deal with the conflict.

Today, when she approached me all smiles and friendly, I was just like, " you're

f'ing kidding me, right? " After the way she talked to me and hung up on me on

the phone (that was our last conversation together), she dares to try engage me

in a friendly conversation before the problem is resolved? No freaking way. I

look at her behavior and I just see the BDP behavior. Mind you, I don't think

she' s BPD, but boy, does she have some issues!

Does anyone else see that in her behavior?

April 17, 2012

My father would do the happy act when we had problems because it would

incite me and show people I'm the crazy one. She's playing you in a passive

aggressive way and I believe that game is very cunning and affective. Good

luck.

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> So I have had a rather major dispute with a co-worker. In fact, in many

> ways, the project we are working on is on hold until we can have mediation

> with HR. She has behaved badly, undermined my authority, been very

> disrespectful, and this is not behavior that I've let get out of hand. Each

> time she does something, which jeopardizes a project I am ultimately

> responsible for, I confront her with it as diplomatically as I can, but I

> reinforce that this was not correct and ask her not to do that again. She

> always just blows it off and then immediately tries to act like we are best

> buds. She ignores the problem and just continues to behave badly. It's very

> much like gaslighting, because she says stuff like, " oh I never would see

> it that way! " or " wow, I don't know how you could ever take it that way! "

> but never acknowledges the mistake or anything just blows it off and then

> acts like we're best buds. Which we are not. In the midst of this blowup,

> which required a third party to resolve, and we meet in about half an hour,

> earlier today she corners me in the kitchen and tries to have this

> friendly, totally innocent conversation with me. I don't trust her. I don't

> appreciate her acting like nothing is wrong when I am very upset with how

> she has behaved at work, how she has endangered the project, and I don't

> trust her. She seems to think that if she can get me to engage in a

> friendly conversation then that means that everything is okay and she

> doesn't have to deal with the conflict.

>

> Today, when she approached me all smiles and friendly, I was just like,

> " you're f'ing kidding me, right? " After the way she talked to me and hung

> up on me on the phone (that was our last conversation together), she dares

> to try engage me in a friendly conversation before the problem is resolved?

> No freaking way. I look at her behavior and I just see the BDP behavior.

> Mind you, I don't think she' s BPD, but boy, does she have some issues!

>

> Does anyone else see that in her behavior?

>

April 17, 2012