Re: How Do You Tell Them? Or Don't You?

[Guest guest]

What would be your goal in telling them?

If they have BPD, what kind of reaction can you expect? They will not be gushing

with gratitude and booking the first available appointment with their therapist,

I will tell you that much.

Nobody likes to hear someone say there's something " wrong " with them, especially

not someone who quite literally cannot assimilate the negative and positive

aspects of their personalities into one picture. They will deny and project,

usually with fits of rage and deflective accusations. They may even say you are

the one with BPD.

So, if you would like to get yelled at and have every horrible thing about you

brought up, too, then go right ahead and tell them. You might even get some

silent treatment thrown in.

On the other hand, you can continue reading and working on *you*, and learn ways

to set boundaries that also suggest they consider professional help. (My T gave

me this one: " If you are that unhappy with your relationships, you might consider

talking with a professional about it. " ) You can't fix other people or make them

see they need help. But you can work on you. =)

Sveta