Guest guest Posted April 18, 2012 Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 Hi I am new to this group but not new to the subject. My question is this: Is it possible to have strong BPD as an adolescent, brought on by childhood abuse by a possible BPD parent, and then outgrow it? I am trying to determine if this is the case. I feel well and balanced but it only came after years of separation from the parent. I do not doubt I was BPD from age 5-30 but have little of the symptoms left now that I have little contact with my parent and a child of my own. Can you come out of BPD on your own? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2012 Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 I've never heard of someone just getting over BPD on their own. I won't say it is impossible, but it seems unlikely given that BPD is most likely an issue with the way the brain is wired to think. People with BPD generally don't try to change because they don't believe they have a problem. Rather than getting better with age, they tend to get worse, becoming more set in their bad ways of doing things and learning more effective ways to manipulate people to get what they want. For the rare people who do accept that they have a problem, it usually takes a lot of work to change their behavior and the BPD doesn't go away. They just learn better ways of dealing with their feelings and behavior patterns. I've read stuff written by one or two people who have BPD who've worked to change their behavior and they definitely said it doesn't go away. It sounds to me like you were suffering from what we call " fleas " - that is learned behvior patterns as a result of having a parent with BPD - rather than BPD itself. The same behaviors can take place for different reasons. Fleas can be resolved without outside help, particularly if you're away from their cause. People raised by parents with BPD often think that they must be the one with the problem because they've been told all their lives that things are their responsibility, not their parents' responsibility and that any problem must be with them. At 12:16 PM 04/18/2012 melodyll wrote: >Hi I am new to this group but not new to the subject. > >My question is this: > >Is it possible to have strong BPD as an adolescent, brought on >by childhood abuse by a possible BPD parent, and then outgrow >it? > >I am trying to determine if this is the case. I feel well and >balanced but it only came after years of separation from the >parent. > >I do not doubt I was BPD from age 5-30 but have little of the >symptoms left now that I have little contact with my parent and >a child of my own. > >Can you come out of BPD on your own? -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2012 Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 I've never heard of someone just getting over BPD on their own. I won't say it is impossible, but it seems unlikely given that BPD is most likely an issue with the way the brain is wired to think. People with BPD generally don't try to change because they don't believe they have a problem. Rather than getting better with age, they tend to get worse, becoming more set in their bad ways of doing things and learning more effective ways to manipulate people to get what they want. For the rare people who do accept that they have a problem, it usually takes a lot of work to change their behavior and the BPD doesn't go away. They just learn better ways of dealing with their feelings and behavior patterns. I've read stuff written by one or two people who have BPD who've worked to change their behavior and they definitely said it doesn't go away. It sounds to me like you were suffering from what we call " fleas " - that is learned behvior patterns as a result of having a parent with BPD - rather than BPD itself. The same behaviors can take place for different reasons. Fleas can be resolved without outside help, particularly if you're away from their cause. People raised by parents with BPD often think that they must be the one with the problem because they've been told all their lives that things are their responsibility, not their parents' responsibility and that any problem must be with them. At 12:16 PM 04/18/2012 melodyll wrote: >Hi I am new to this group but not new to the subject. > >My question is this: > >Is it possible to have strong BPD as an adolescent, brought on >by childhood abuse by a possible BPD parent, and then outgrow >it? > >I am trying to determine if this is the case. I feel well and >balanced but it only came after years of separation from the >parent. > >I do not doubt I was BPD from age 5-30 but have little of the >symptoms left now that I have little contact with my parent and >a child of my own. > >Can you come out of BPD on your own? -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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