Guest guest Posted April 18, 2012 Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 I don't really want to go into the details, but something happened at the beginning of the week that got me to thinking. I discussed this with my T at my appointment today. Why children? Why do adults choose to pick on children? Because they are weak and helpless and can't defend themselves? Because it makes the adults feel " big " to hurt someone so completely innocent of hatred and gile? There are so many horror stories of the physical and sexual abuse of children it makes one sick. And, how many children out there don't have the signs of any abuse because their scars are on the inside? How many children suffer because there are no signs of physical or sexual abuse because all of those physical needs, such as food, shelter and clothing, are met? No one believes there is anything wrong because they don't have those physical scars. Who sticks up for them? I just don't get it, and maybe I never will...maybe no one ever will. I know that there are no real answers to these questions. I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening. Janet Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. Proverbs 3:5-8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2012 Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 I don't think there is any single answer to the question of why adults choose to pick on children. Certainly some of it has to do with their inability to fight back. If your goal is to be a bully, it is easier to pick someone who is powerless against you. Some of it is more an issue with the adult's inability to handle stress leading to abuse of the child perceived as causing the stress or even to abuse of the child simply because the child is the one who is available to take out their anger on. People with bad parenting skills can abuse out of frustration and a lack of knowledge of how to do better. Some people abuse their children because they think that's the right way to raise children and they don't understand how much harm their methods are doing. Our nadas and fadas pick on their own children because the emotions associated with a parent-child relationship triggers their mental illness and brings out all their out of control feelings. Pedophiles do what they do because they are sexually attracted to children. I don't think anyone knows why they're that way. Our society in general needs to find better ways to protect vulnerable children. Too often no one says anything even when they think something wrong is going on. The reasons for not saying anything vary, and some of them are pretty good reasons. care is not necessarily an improvement over growing up with a nada. Proving emotional abuse is hard. If something is said to the authorities but not proven, the abuser may heap even more abuse on the child afterward, or keep the child away from anyone who could provide emotional support. Good intentions don't always result in good outcomes. Our society also needs to find better ways of handling mental illnesses. When push comes to shove, much child abuse is the result of one form or another of mental illness. If we could better identify and help those with mental illness how many children would be saved from abuse? Even if all we could do was keep a closer eye on adults with mental illness to make sure they were decent parents, that would help a lot. At 10:17 PM 04/18/2012 Janet wrote: >I don't really want to go into the details, but something >happened at the beginning of the week that got me to >thinking. I discussed this with my T at my appointment >today. Why children? Why do adults choose to pick on >children? Because they are weak and helpless and can't defend >themselves? Because it makes the adults feel " big " to hurt >someone so completely innocent of hatred and gile? There are >so many horror stories of the physical and sexual abuse of >children it makes one sick. And, how many children out there >don't have the signs of any abuse because their scars are on >the inside? How many children suffer because there are no >signs of physical or sexual abuse because all of those physical >needs, such as food, shelter and clothing, are met? No one >believes there is anything wrong because they don't have those >physical scars. Who sticks up for them? I just don't get it, >and maybe I never will...maybe no one > ever will. I know that there are no real answers to these > questions. I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening. >Janet > Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto > thine own understanding. > In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy > paths. > Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from > evil. > It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. >Proverbs 3:5-8 -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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