Re: Aargh! Stabbed again. Who took my armor?

April 20, 2012

Things have been more tolerable lately. She complains non-stop and talks about

how close she is to dying. I won't tell you what I'm thinking right then. I'm

sure you can guess. She wants to go to another doctor now because she's

convinced something horrible is wrong. Well, if any of us lived in a dark,

smelly house every day and all we did was eat, sleep, watch TV and shred paper,

we'd feel like crap too. Once I get her out of the house, she feels great. But

I'm not going to be responsible for her happiness.

Now she's talking about selling her house (gross as it is) and moving to our

area. She can't even understand the TV listings so I'm sure she would expect us

to handle everything. No thanks.

She says she likes our town. She's only been to our house a couple of times.

The last thing I need is for her to be even closer. But every time I go over to

see her she rants about all her rotten neighbors and how they're driving her

nuts. Of course none of them talk to her now but that's besides the point.

I keep telling myself this can't go on forever, right?

>

> Wow, again this sounds like something that happened with my nada.

>

> When I first got married, years before nada started completely hating my DH,

she would casually say things like if she was younger she would be into my DH

and creepy stuff like that. I never confronted her about it, but that was when I

would just ignore the lower level crazy stuff she said.

>

> One of the main reasons I went NC with her was her growing obsession about me

taking care of her in her old age. This obsession started when she was only in

her mid 50s and she would literally pester me about it every single day. One

day, when I really had it with her, I asked her what would she do if I went

first and wasn't there to take care of her? Well...nada quickly told me her plan

and it was NUTTY. She would have to sue my husband for money and all of this

other crazy stuff. It was chilling actually, to have her tell me her plans if I

was dead. She definitely had a plan B!

>

April 20, 2012

Things have been more tolerable lately. She complains non-stop and talks about

how close she is to dying. I won't tell you what I'm thinking right then. I'm

sure you can guess. She wants to go to another doctor now because she's

convinced something horrible is wrong. Well, if any of us lived in a dark,

smelly house every day and all we did was eat, sleep, watch TV and shred paper,

we'd feel like crap too. Once I get her out of the house, she feels great. But

I'm not going to be responsible for her happiness.

Now she's talking about selling her house (gross as it is) and moving to our

area. She can't even understand the TV listings so I'm sure she would expect us

to handle everything. No thanks.

She says she likes our town. She's only been to our house a couple of times.

The last thing I need is for her to be even closer. But every time I go over to

see her she rants about all her rotten neighbors and how they're driving her

nuts. Of course none of them talk to her now but that's besides the point.

I keep telling myself this can't go on forever, right?

>

> Wow, again this sounds like something that happened with my nada.

>

> When I first got married, years before nada started completely hating my DH,

she would casually say things like if she was younger she would be into my DH

and creepy stuff like that. I never confronted her about it, but that was when I

would just ignore the lower level crazy stuff she said.

>

> One of the main reasons I went NC with her was her growing obsession about me

taking care of her in her old age. This obsession started when she was only in

her mid 50s and she would literally pester me about it every single day. One

day, when I really had it with her, I asked her what would she do if I went

first and wasn't there to take care of her? Well...nada quickly told me her plan

and it was NUTTY. She would have to sue my husband for money and all of this

other crazy stuff. It was chilling actually, to have her tell me her plans if I

was dead. She definitely had a plan B!

>

April 20, 2012

No, it can't go on forever. It will only *seem* like forever.

-Annie

> >

> > Wow, again this sounds like something that happened with my nada.

> >

> > When I first got married, years before nada started completely hating my DH,

she would casually say things like if she was younger she would be into my DH

and creepy stuff like that. I never confronted her about it, but that was when I

would just ignore the lower level crazy stuff she said.

> >

> > One of the main reasons I went NC with her was her growing obsession about

me taking care of her in her old age. This obsession started when she was only

in her mid 50s and she would literally pester me about it every single day. One

day, when I really had it with her, I asked her what would she do if I went

first and wasn't there to take care of her? Well...nada quickly told me her plan

and it was NUTTY. She would have to sue my husband for money and all of this

other crazy stuff. It was chilling actually, to have her tell me her plans if I

was dead. She definitely had a plan B!

> >

>

April 20, 2012

No, it can't go on forever. It will only *seem* like forever.

-Annie

> >

> > Wow, again this sounds like something that happened with my nada.

> >

> > When I first got married, years before nada started completely hating my DH,

she would casually say things like if she was younger she would be into my DH

and creepy stuff like that. I never confronted her about it, but that was when I

would just ignore the lower level crazy stuff she said.

> >

> > One of the main reasons I went NC with her was her growing obsession about

me taking care of her in her old age. This obsession started when she was only

in her mid 50s and she would literally pester me about it every single day. One

day, when I really had it with her, I asked her what would she do if I went

first and wasn't there to take care of her? Well...nada quickly told me her plan

and it was NUTTY. She would have to sue my husband for money and all of this

other crazy stuff. It was chilling actually, to have her tell me her plans if I

was dead. She definitely had a plan B!

> >

>

April 22, 2012

No by the hair of my chinny chin chin!!!!

OMG chin hair????

Why do they get these weird obsessions? That chin hair must mean something

major to her. . . but what? Its just hair, takes 2 seconds to tweeze out.

> **

>

> Oh my god! I'm not alone! LOL!

>

> In 2007 My nada moved to 'be near her family ' and because she wanted to

> purchase a place for herself and didn't want to enter into a lease, she

> asked to move into my garage (it had a full 1000 ft 2nd floor) and took

> over. It started with her cooking everyday and over the dinner table we

> would hear 'I'm not getting any younger and there might come a day I need

> help'. She found out that my state has a clause in their building code that

> allows a property owner to have a 'hardship' permit. Where I could have a

> Manufactured House place on my property so an elderly relative could be

> close and properly cared for......this building would have to be removed

> within 90days if/when that relative no longer lived there. Once she knew

> this, she started 'telling' where she wanted it placed, what her plans

> where for remodeling MY house and she place, plans for walkways, garden,

> etc.........slowly she revealed that she expected me to pay for the all the

> required set up cost, including, a phone line run from the road, the

> concrete pad, the powerlines, additional septic system. When I asked why

> she would think I was willing to spend $20,000 for this. She looked at me

> like I was stupid and told me, I would benefit after she was gone as the MH

> would increase the value of the property.

> I then asked, who is paying your power, phone, cable, internet? Answer, me

> of course.

>

> When I didn't go along....she finally bought a place in town. Which is

> blamed on me too because not only am I a greedy person who doesn't

> appreciate what she was trying to do to help her family, I only care for

> myself.

>

> Fortunately we no longer have that property.

>

> Hold your ground!

>

> > > >

> > > > My nada has always been sure she'd end up in a nursing home.

> > > > That's not what upsets her. Ever since I was a child, she's

> > > > been obsessed with wanting someone to promise to come every day

> > > > to shave the hairs off her chin when she's in the nursing home.

> > > > She goes on and on about that at times. The reason she gave her

> > > > medical power of attorney to my brother despite the fact that he

> > > > lives on the other side of the country and is hard to contact is

> > > > supposedly because I said I wasn't going to come every day to

> > > > shave her chin hairs and my brother promised he would. That's

> > > > totally unrealistic on multiple levels. Still, I don't want to

> > > > be responsible for her health care if someone needs to be, so if

> > > > she wants to make a foolish choice for a foolish reason, that's

> > > > her problem, not mine. If the time comes when she needs to be in

> > > > a nursing home, my brother can figure out how to deal with it

> > > > from 2,500 miles away. I do find the idea that he's somehow

> > > > going to shave her chin hairs from across the country to be

> > > > rather amusing.

> > >

> >

>

April 22, 2012

I think a woman with chin hair scared my nada when she was a

child. Her obsession with not having chin hair seems to be very

deep-seated and she's had it as long as I can remember. She is

not only obsessed with not having hair on her own chin. she also

has a thing about other women having it too. She tends to take

an extreme dislike to any other woman who allows a chin hair or

two to show. I'm sure some of it has to do with her notion that

everyone is always judging her on her appearance, but there

seems to be more to it than that. After forty-some years of

hearing about her stupid chin-hair worries, I'm sick of them. It

isn't like she ever has any chin hairs visible to be upset over.

At 04:12 PM 04/22/2012 Girlscout Cowboy wrote:

>No by the hair of my chinny chin chin!!!!

>

>OMG chin hair????

>

>Why do they get these weird obsessions? That chin hair must

>mean something

>major to her. . . but what? Its just hair, takes 2 seconds to

>tweeze out.

--

Katrina

April 22, 2012

This is immature, but I'd be tempted to draw a beard on her in every old

photo I could find

> **

>

> I think a woman with chin hair scared my nada when she was a

> child. Her obsession with not having chin hair seems to be very

> deep-seated and she's had it as long as I can remember. She is

> not only obsessed with not having hair on her own chin. she also

> has a thing about other women having it too. She tends to take

> an extreme dislike to any other woman who allows a chin hair or

> two to show. I'm sure some of it has to do with her notion that

> everyone is always judging her on her appearance, but there

> seems to be more to it than that. After forty-some years of

> hearing about her stupid chin-hair worries, I'm sick of them. It

> isn't like she ever has any chin hairs visible to be upset over.

>

> At 04:12 PM 04/22/2012 Girlscout Cowboy wrote:

>

> >No by the hair of my chinny chin chin!!!!

> >

> >OMG chin hair????

> >

> >Why do they get these weird obsessions? That chin hair must

> >mean something

> >major to her. . . but what? Its just hair, takes 2 seconds to

> >tweeze out.

>

> --

> Katrina

>

April 22, 2012

We went through a stage where my folks wanted us to buy a duplex so they could

live near us. My Dad was extremely ill and on hospice care. I understand why he

would want to be near us. But to have my nada right next door too? Yuck. She

would complain about every little thing in her half, expect us to fix it (since

it was up to us to buy it), would complain about every bit of noise we made.

Well, you get the point. We told them no, we didn't want a duplex and they're

very hard to sell. For once we were brave enough to say no.

>

> Oh my god! I'm not alone! LOL!

>

> In 2007 My nada moved to 'be near her family ' and because she wanted to

purchase a place for herself and didn't want to enter into a lease, she asked

to move into my garage (it had a full 1000 ft 2nd floor) and took over. It

started with her cooking everyday and over the dinner table we would hear 'I'm

not getting any younger and there might come a day I need help'. She found out

that my state has a clause in their building code that allows a property owner

to have a 'hardship' permit. Where I could have a Manufactured House place on my

property so an elderly relative could be close and properly cared for......this

building would have to be removed within 90days if/when that relative no longer

lived there. Once she knew this, she started 'telling' where she wanted it

placed, what her plans where for remodeling MY house and she place, plans for

walkways, garden, etc.........slowly she revealed that she expected me to pay

for the all the required set up cost, including, a phone line run from the road,

the concrete pad, the powerlines, additional septic system. When I asked why she

would think I was willing to spend $20,000 for this. She looked at me like I was

stupid and told me, I would benefit after she was gone as the MH would increase

the value of the property.

April 22, 2012

And MAIL THEM TO HER! tee hee.

> This is immature, but I'd be tempted to draw a beard on her in every old

> photo I could find

>

>> **

>>

>> I think a woman with chin hair scared my nada when she was a

>> child. Her obsession with not having chin hair seems to be very

>> deep-seated and she's had it as long as I can remember. She is

>> not only obsessed with not having hair on her own chin. she also

>> has a thing about other women having it too. She tends to take

>> an extreme dislike to any other woman who allows a chin hair or

>> two to show. I'm sure some of it has to do with her notion that

>> everyone is always judging her on her appearance, but there

>> seems to be more to it than that. After forty-some years of

>> hearing about her stupid chin-hair worries, I'm sick of them. It

>> isn't like she ever has any chin hairs visible to be upset over.

>

April 22, 2012