Re : Re: Advice on current situation

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Thanks for speaking up Natacha! & welcome to our humble oasis!

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> > > > My Nada, after moving 2000 miles away from my wife and I and our 2 kids

> > > has decided that now it is time to attack my wife through emails to me.

> > > These emails are big guilt trips about how my wife didn't make her feel

> > > welcome here in Georgia (after two years of drama that could rival Liza

> > > Minnelli, Scarlett O'Hara, and every character in every Barbara

> > > Bradford book ever written - I swear she thinks that she is the main

> > > Character in A Woman of Substance. There were suicide threats, times where

> > > she showed strange favoritism to my son over my daughter (because my

> > > daughter was very nervous around her and didn't bond with her as quickly

as

> > > she should have). Thus my Son became the special gifted one and my

daughter

> > > was just " sweet " . I have posted about these things before here.

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> > > > When my Nada started to go on the attack and began the process of

> > > splitting my wife, I in no uncertain terms informed her that my wife was

> > > completely off limits. But, because " I can never take her honesty " she has

> > > decided that it is more important to make her point than it is to just let

> > > it go. My wife really can't stand Nada, and was as civil as she possibly

> > > could be while they lived here.

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> > > > My Nada sends me F.O.G. emails that I think would rival the length of

> > > Barbara Bradford novels. Her crafty little letters are complete

with

> > > bulleted points as to why she is right and morally superior to me, with

> > > observations from her friends, and now " professional people " including her

> > > doctor. I have spent years dealing with the feelings of guilt and

> > > unworthiness that her letters give me, and I really refuse to read them

> > > anymore. This last one was titled (My last attempt.) If I don't respond,

it

> > > may be the last letter she will ever send me (WHOO HOO!!!!) She tries to

> > > get me to see things on her level by beating me and the people I love down

> > > to an inferior position, and yet she truly can't understand why at this

> > > point in my life I have really chosen to have nothing to do with her.

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> > > > I am the one who started the thread on " Nada's favorite one-liners " that

> > > everyone seemed to have fun with. Her letters are full of them. " I refuse

> > > to apologize for saying, or for raising you the way I did, or for doing

the

> > > things I have done for myself, or for my honesty which you have never been

> > > able to take " . My 4 year old can walk up to someone in the street and ask

> > > them why they are fat. Should that be okay? She was just being honest. My

> > > nada uses her honesty like a 4 year old. All of her points are unarguable

> > > because she truly does believe everything she writes, and cannot see,

after

> > > all the guilt manipulation and attacking my wife as she has been doing why

> > > in the world I would ignore her.

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> > > > I WANT TO TELL HER! I WANT TO WRITE BACK AND TELL HER WHAT I THINK OF

> > > HER LETTERS AND WHERE TO CRAM THEM. I WANT TO TELL HER WHERE SHE CAN PUT

> > > HER PROFESSIONAL PEOPLE (WHICH IS RIGHT NEXT TO THE LETTERS). I WANT TO

> > > TELL HER THAT I THINK SHE IS NUTS AND GIVE HER BULLETED POINTS AS TO WHY,

> > > INCLUDING ALL OF HER ONE-LINERS, AND HOW THEY ARE MANIPULATIONS AND

> > > TEXTBOOK BPD SAYINGS. I WANT TO TELL HER THAT I THINK SHE IS AN EMOTIONAL

> > > ABUSER, AND THAT I THINK MY FATHER IS AN ABUSED HUSBAND. I WANT TO TELL

HER

> > > THAT MY WIFE IS 10 TIMES THE WOMAN AND MOTHER THAN SHE WILL EVER BE OR

> > > COULD DREAM OF BEING. I WANT TO HURT HER BACK!!!!

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> > > > I want her to know. Simply not responding feels too easy. It also leaves

> > > my Dad with the question of why. Somehow letting this go, and not sending

> > > back my own unsolicited honesty seems wrong. I really do want nothing more

> > > to do with her, but it seems wrong to leave without an explanation even

> > > though I know it will fall on deaf ears.

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