Book: Understanding the Borderline Mother

[Guest guest]

Big thanks to this group for bringing " Understanding the Borderline Mother " to

my attention. I've ordered it and should have it in a week. It was time for me

to read it. I have taken a long break from therapy, and all the self-repairing

and have just tried to live normal which is working pretty good. But the comment

on this list that said, in effect, if you don't understand your nada, you can't

really understand yourself.

Meanwhile, I'd like to hear any and all advice on the best way to read it to get

the most out of it.

Thanks!

Flowers in OZ

[Guest guest]

Quite honestly, for my situation reading about the Waif really, really hurt.

Because that is where my FLEAS are. My nada is at her core a Hermit, but she

lived in Waif a lot when I was small.

Realizing where I got all these FLEAS (and the book is brutal in its

descriptions) was a major jolt in the first few chapters. I had to put it down

for a few weeks.

I also borrowed the book, so was taking furious notes of the descriptions and

bullet points concerning the archtypes. Seeing this all written down in black

and white was very powerful--it helped me remember things I had forgotten or

that were troublesome but I could not make sense of at the time. The book made

me realize the hopelessness of my life time goal of having a normal relationship

with my mother. And even more shocking was seeing my father described as the

Huntsman.

I don't have to tell anyone here what it is like growing up thinking your family

is unique--I thought nobody else's mom was 'nuts' like mine was. Since my family

was so different--it must have been 'my' fault. This book will completely purge

the 'fault' right out of you for how our nadas and fadas are.

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>

> Big thanks to this group for bringing " Understanding the Borderline Mother " to

my attention. I've ordered it and should have it in a week. It was time for me

to read it. I have taken a long break from therapy, and all the self-repairing

and have just tried to live normal which is working pretty good. But the comment

on this list that said, in effect, if you don't understand your nada, you can't

really understand yourself.

>

> Meanwhile, I'd like to hear any and all advice on the best way to read it to

get the most out of it.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Flowers in OZ

>

[Guest guest]

Quite honestly, for my situation reading about the Waif really, really hurt.

Because that is where my FLEAS are. My nada is at her core a Hermit, but she

lived in Waif a lot when I was small.

Realizing where I got all these FLEAS (and the book is brutal in its

descriptions) was a major jolt in the first few chapters. I had to put it down

for a few weeks.

I also borrowed the book, so was taking furious notes of the descriptions and

bullet points concerning the archtypes. Seeing this all written down in black

and white was very powerful--it helped me remember things I had forgotten or

that were troublesome but I could not make sense of at the time. The book made

me realize the hopelessness of my life time goal of having a normal relationship

with my mother. And even more shocking was seeing my father described as the

Huntsman.

I don't have to tell anyone here what it is like growing up thinking your family

is unique--I thought nobody else's mom was 'nuts' like mine was. Since my family

was so different--it must have been 'my' fault. This book will completely purge

the 'fault' right out of you for how our nadas and fadas are.

>

>

> Big thanks to this group for bringing " Understanding the Borderline Mother " to

my attention. I've ordered it and should have it in a week. It was time for me

to read it. I have taken a long break from therapy, and all the self-repairing

and have just tried to live normal which is working pretty good. But the comment

on this list that said, in effect, if you don't understand your nada, you can't

really understand yourself.

>

> Meanwhile, I'd like to hear any and all advice on the best way to read it to

get the most out of it.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Flowers in OZ

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